How should a dutiful son be filial? What should I pay attention to?

The dutiful son kept filial piety for three years, during which he did not stick couplets, set off firecrackers, wear red or green, and refused bad hobbies.

Precautions:

1. Don't wear jewelry during the wake. Men should not wear trousers, women should not wear skirts, long hair and heavy makeup. Especially don't wear slippers and show your toes. Even in the wake in summer, you should be patient.

Second, during the wake, don't gossip, especially for future generations, and don't quarrel in the coffin shed for the funeral of the ancestors. Even if future generations have great grievances, it is not too late to let the ancestors walk the last stop of their lives with dignity and then solve them.

3. During the wake, men and women in the mourning shed shall not be ambiguous, and there shall be no promiscuity in the mourning shed, mourning hall and filial piety room. Otherwise, the light person is unlucky, the heavy person is exhausted, and the lotus flower withers.

4. During the wake, pregnant women, parturients and aborted women are not allowed to enter the mourning hall, and even the lineal blood relatives of ancestors need to avoid it. If you really can't avoid it, you have to leave. Pregnant women, parturients and abortionists must wear clothes with more than five colors in order to pay homage to the funeral.

Confucius' point of view

Confucius believed that mourning for three years was not a requirement of propriety, but a requirement of personal kindness. A gentleman's mood is sad when his parents die, but eating delicious food and wearing gorgeous clothes is the pursuit of happiness, which is contradictory to his sad mood. Therefore, the pursuit of happiness in mourning will not be peaceful. Only when he is crying and sad will his heart be peaceful and he can satisfy happiness.

I replied to Confucius that when his parents died, he ate delicious food and wore gorgeous clothes, and lived peacefully and contentedly. In other words, their understanding and experience of benevolence are different. So there is no way to communicate between the two, because the basic assumptions are different.

According to Confucius, a gentleman is sad when his parents die, and he will feel uneasy when he pursues enjoyment. Confucius had no choice but to say that if you are safe, you will do it. The implication is that Confucius will have no peace and can only hold a funeral once every three years.