Answer questions you don't want to answer gracefully, and answer questions you don't like gracefully.

There is a scene in the movie Parasites. When President Park was chatting with the driver Jin Jize, Jin thought that the boss greeted him as a friend, so he forgot the employment relationship with the boss and worked hard around the boss's bottom line.

When Laojin asked the boss if he loved Mrs. Park, who had been married for many years, President Park frowned and made a ha ha.

I believe that most people have encountered some questions from others, and you don't want to reply at all. The other person's question is either too low or beyond the limit. The questioner thinks he is greeting and expressing concern, but once it exceeds that limit, it becomes infringement.

Yes, that's right. Very aggressive.

It's like you two are playing badminton, and the other side suddenly spikes, leaving all the pieces you hit behind. You must be very sad.

What should I do if I meet a question you don't want to answer?

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Speaking of reply, let's understand the problem first.

Asking questions is actually a low-cost way to take advantage of others. By asking questions, we can gain more new knowledge and make us grow rapidly.

I took a new media writing class before, and the teacher often told us to ask more questions and take the initiative to ask questions, which means that you are active in learning, not passive. Chat with excellent people more, and you can get new ideas from others during chatting, which you can't learn from textbooks and courses.

If you don't ask questions, you can't expose your shortcomings, so you will never make progress.

But we are very funny. The closer you get to excellent people, the more afraid you are to speak and ask questions.

Why? I'm afraid to expose my ignorance. When you meet someone better than yourself, you will consciously put yourself in the position of looking up to him.

On the other hand, when others think you are excellent, you are even more afraid to ask questions, for fear that if you ask others, you will find out: Oh, she doesn't understand.

Silence has become a weapon to maintain one's image.

Also like a net, it pulls itself tighter and tighter.

It's 0202, don't defend your poor self-esteem like an idiot.

Throwing caution to the wind, it's not cheeky, but it's cost-effective. After all, relative to your progress, the benefits far outweigh the efforts.

In fact, asking questions has two important advantages:

First, a simple way to get information.

Second, it is the best way to make the other person like you.

We people have to admit that we all have vanity genes, like to guide others and like to prove that we are better than others.

Especially when others worship you, yo-ho, that sense of superiority is simply bursting.

Don't ask me how I know, because you don't ask me ~

I used to be a study committee member. Many students ask me questions every day. After the answer comes out, the students will say:? Wow, you are really great. Do you know everything?

I'm telling you, I've floated, too

But it does not rule out that some people really don't like answering questions, but that is a minority. Let's ask our own questions and look at the object.

Most people still like to teach others. Why?

Because we love performance, generally speaking, the more we talk, the happier we are, and sometimes the car can't stop.

There is also the psychological structure of people. Once someone starts to be nice to you, he will continue to be nice to you, because he paid the price for being nice to you, so he will be more inclined to continue to maintain this relationship.

When we do good to a person, we have paid the cost in advance, and of course we feel that maintaining this relationship is more in line with our own interests.

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Knowing the essence of asking questions does not mean talking. There are ways to ask questions, or you will step on the pit in minutes.

In this life, I am most afraid that my friends will suddenly care and chat awkwardly.

If a girl meets a boy and suddenly asks? If there is someone you don't like very much, but don't hate, and the conditions are ok, will you consider giving it a try?

Come on, girls probably roll their eyes. Isn't that a fool?

Many people think that asking a question is simply throwing a question and the other person will reply.

Actually, it's not. Asking questions is more like playing badminton You take me, I'll pick it up. Once the force is too strong, the other party wants to pick it up, but it can't pick it up and leaves the scene of the accident.

How to ask questions is also very particular ~

The more common ways to serve food are, oh, no, the following questions:

Introductory question: What are you doing?

Reverse question: I just arrived at the company. Where have you been?

Leading questions: For example, do you know the stars who make academic fraud?

Follow-up question: that is, always follow the question.

The harmonious badminton pk on the spot does not come from accident, but requires diligent exercise and observation to make the opponent comfortable.

Similarly, asking questions requires more practice and observation. Ask more questions, and your ability to ask questions will come out, but don't always grab one person and ask.

Ordinary questions will arouse a person's desire to tell more, but when others can't answer them all the time, it will inevitably make the other person think that you are trying to prove: Hey, I get you, and you have something you don't know.

Isn't this a fight? Although we are all ignorant, we don't want to be proved ignorant at once.

Be careful to be blacklisted by others. I won't talk about you next time.

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Now let's go back to where we started. What should you do when someone asks you some questions that you don't want to answer? For example: Are you married?

If it were me, would you say it? What do you care? Ha ha ha, just kidding. Although it's cool, it's not suitable for all people who ask questions.

We can use specific methods in specific scenarios. There are three kinds:

If you don't know the answer, you can just say you don't know.

Xiao Wang: Honey, do you know how to do this PPT?

Pro: I don't know (inner activity: what? Am I Baidu? Ask me all this)

I tell you, I am most afraid of people asking me questions all the time. It gives me the feeling that I am engaged in academic research, which is particularly brain-consuming, and it is simply the rhythm of squeezing me dry.

When I didn't know the answer to the question, I was afraid to expose my ignorance, so I tried to find the answer for the answer, but I didn't expect it to cause more rhetorical questions. When I gradually let myself go, I found that I couldn't. I had to stop, or I would expose my ignorance more and more in the end.

I am not a computer, I know everything.

Lovely, honestly say I don't know, teaching Baidu is also a good way to stop asking questions.

It is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. Instead of memorizing your answers by rote, it is harmful to people. It is better to tell him the method of inquiry and cultivate his search ability.

If you know but can't say it, you are answering irrelevant questions.

Xiao Li next door often asks about your salary. Of course, he can't say. If he says it, he has thousands of dollars more than him. What if he finds out he's bothering you at the company?

At this time, we will play Tai Chi flexibly.

? Oh, Xiao Li, this dress of yours is really nice. It looks good on you. Where did you buy it?

? Xiao Li, do you understand what President Hu said at the meeting just now? I still don't understand. Why don't you tell me something?

Find a topic until he forgets what he just asked.

Answer irrelevant questions. You know the answer to the question that suits the other person, but for some reason you can't say it. Then you say yourself, no matter what he asks you, you say what you want to say, and force him to say what you want to say.

When someone gives you a question, you give him a story.

If you are extremely poor, you can tell fortune in the world and tell stories in the world. Congratulations, you don't have to answer questions you don't want to answer anymore.

Jokes, stories, fortune telling, etc. , are particularly bluffing, having one of these skills is very attractive.

However, it should also be used with caution. If the other person is a person who doesn't understand amorous feelings and can't get your point at all, it will be a cold silence.

I hope you will have more freedom to answer questions you don't want to answer next time.