Ma Yun: People with high emotional intelligence must have suffered.

? Suffering, failure, frustration, confusion, pain and disappointment all add up to emotional intelligence.

? This is a sentence from Ma Yun's speech "Ask Ma Yun about his activities" in Beijing Union University on 20 15.

? Thought-provoking and original.

? There is a survey on Zhihu. Success is closely related to emotional intelligence, and almost 90% of successful people have super-high emotional intelligence. Among these 90% successful people, 70% have experienced great and small hardships and suffered a lot.

? In Ma Yun's view, it is through suffering, failure, frustration, pain and disappointment that life is full, it really breaks out, it is invulnerable, and it can be calm and witty under any circumstances.

? Twenty-three years ago, from a little-known excellent teacher to an entrepreneur who amazed the world, she experienced the constant baptism of time. From Alibaba to Taobao to Alipay, China's "four new inventions" have been achieved, and one business miracle after another has changed everyone's lifestyle.

? Many research theories believe that EQ mainly reflects a person's ability to feel, understand, use, express, control and adjust emotions, as well as the ability to adjust and handle interpersonal relationships with others. People with high emotional intelligence can be human, talk, be good at dealing with interpersonal relationships, be able to cope with all kinds of complex tests of the outside world freely, and always turn the tide and control the situation at critical moments.

? Many people's understanding of Ma Yun has one thing in common: humor, wit, humor and affection, which is undoubtedly the embodiment of high emotional intelligence.

? I still remember that in 20 15, Korean KBS Entertainment invited Ma Yun to participate in an economic talk show. South Korean Deputy Prime Minister Choe Yeon-hwan showed great love for Ma Yun and expressed the hope that he would become a Korean. Many Koreans present cheered enthusiastically, hoping to hear Ma Yun's response. On such a grand international occasion, if you answer questions, it will undoubtedly bring a strong negative impact to Ma Yun. I sweated for him through the screen, and it turns out that Ma Yun's EQ is super high. The phrase "I'm totally made in China" was humorous, and the scene immediately ushered in a happy and harmonious atmosphere.

? Similarly, a few years ago, Warren Buffett invited Ma Yun to have dinner together. During the dinner, Buffett told Ma that we should donate all the wealth of the group, do charity all over the world and help people in need all over the world. Knowing that Buffett is a philanthropist, Ma Yun donated all his property to charity. At this time, hearing Buffett's suggestion, Ma Yun replied tactfully, when I am 80 years old, I will donate all my money, but I can't do it now. At present, China still needs his contribution. Although Beishangguang and other areas are rich, many places in China are poor. As a businessman, he can use his own money to play a greater role, create various jobs, start more businesses, and let everyone have better living conditions, which is much more useful than donations. This is supercilious, which not only recognizes Buffett's charitable actions at that time, but also gives Buffett enough face and puts forward another view on "charity", making the chat with Buffett more relaxed and carefree.

? It is no exaggeration to say that a person with high emotional intelligence is a master of controlling complex communication scenes. The frankness and wit shown in such interpersonal communication were not built in a day. Only by seeing all kinds of life, experiencing all kinds of hardships and rich experiences can we support the calm, confident and calm response at that time.

? When we love and hate Ma Yun, who would have thought that 23 years ago, he went into business, but translation agency, which he founded, was facing bankruptcy crisis. In order to maintain the development of his career, he began to "buy and sell" and went to Yiwu to wholesale flowers, handicrafts and socks. Later, I had to sell it door to door. Knocking on the door again and again, refusing again and again, insisting again and again, I realized the hardships of being a small trader and selling things again and again, and I also suffered from the anxiety and depression of ordinary people. This psychological experience also paved the way for Ma Yun to establish C2C platform in the future, because he can deeply understand the pain of door-to-door sales.

? Who would have thought that he was employed by a foreign trade company that had business dealings with the United States and was sent to the United States to collect accounts because of his good spoken English. When he arrived in the United States, he never expected to be greeted by such a scene: he was cheated, and an American businessman who wanted to default pointed a gun at his head, then kidnapped him in his room for two days and two nights, and was forced to win back $600 in the casino before he could return to China. At that time, he experienced fear and confusion, who can imagine;

? Who can realize that, just like the interpretation in the CCTV documentary "Scholar Ma Yun", he is thin, carrying a black shoulder bag, and every family sells his own "China Yellow Pages", and he is greeted by a vacant and impatient person. Even in cities without internet, Ma Yun has always been considered a liar. Before he could speak, some people thought he was not a good person from the outside. He was helpless and depressed. But Ma Yun is still as indomitable as a madman. He reminds himself every day that the Internet will refresh human life in the future. In the 3000-meter long-distance race, you should run as fast as a rabbit and be as resistant to running as a turtle. After that, I talked passionately about customers and the Internet, and the order was slowly made.

? You see, all these setbacks and ill-fated experiences have finally become the ladder of Ma Yun's wealth and high emotional intelligence, which has created Ma Yun and Alibaba now. The growth process of today's Ali Empire is more like a portrayal of Ma Yun's experience in a sense.

? No one can be human at will.

? After experiencing hardships, you will know how to stop complaining and respond optimistically.

? After experiencing failure, you will know where your weaknesses are, you will know how to be modest and know how to accumulate wealth.

? After experiencing setbacks, you will know that life will be humiliated at any time.

? After experiencing confusion, you will know how to find your goal in life and stick to it.

? After suffering, you will know that time always heals everything. It is better to do something meaningful than to suffer.

? As Ma Yun said, a man's mind is wronged. I want to say that a high emotional intelligence mind is also aggrieved, persistent, painful, failed, disappointed and confused. Therefore, when we are faced with all kinds of unbearable situations, such as talent failure, emotional frustration, dilemma and lack of courage, we should be grateful, take a deep breath and boldly rush over, because our emotional intelligence will be experienced and our life will become richer and more meaningful.

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