Love rat Ruins Life: These four points teach you to recognize love rat clearly and avoid being cheated!

Recently, several online friends asked Jiangnan Yilin to calculate their marriage fortune, and their experiences left a deep impression on Jiangnan Yilin. Both of these friends met a bad man and a married man, and as a result, they gave birth to children before marriage, and they suffered the consequences. Moreover, some of them have calculated their lives before, saying that their marriage is unlucky. One of the girls didn't know that she had a family until she was in love with a man for two years. She continued to fall in love under the pleading or sweet words of the other party, and then got pregnant. Another woman didn't know she had a family until she was six months pregnant.

Jiangnan Yilin has seen too many such * * *, and so on. These experiences of being cheated may seem too naive and incredible to some people, but the so-called authorities are fascinated and the bystanders are clear, but anyone with unfortunate fate always has a corresponding personality. The so-called unfortunate people must have something hateful.

A friend's similar experience made Jiangnan Yilin sigh, so Jiangnan Yilin decided to tell how to see through a liar in love according to his own life experience and his understanding of men's psychology. I hope everyone will change it if they have it, and encourage them if they don't. If there are people with similar personalities among your friends, I hope you can recommend this article, or admonish it with the meaning of this article, which will be great.

First, the characteristics of gullible women However, emotionally gullible women have several characteristics in terms of their birthday horoscope fortune-telling theory:

1. Simple and trusted person

Such people often believe what others say and don't investigate and collect evidence. As long as the other person behaves well in front of himself and is good to himself, everything will be fine. In the eight-character numerology, people who print more, especially those who print more, are particularly easy to trust others, because printing more represents absorption and people accept everything they say. If a seal is restrained from eating, it is more likely to be deceived.

2. infatuation, pursuit of romance

Infatuated, it is easy to be merciful and pursue romance, often ignoring those realistic gaps, such as age gap, geographical gap, family status gap and so on. In the eight-character numerology, food injury is born for me and also represents our thoughts and feelings. Too much food injury is easy to be willful and emotional, and everything is judged by "I am happy or not" and "I am willing or not", so I make mistakes.

3. Other reasons

Including personality defects, such as extreme inferiority and insecurity, the reasons for this personality, or lack of self-confidence because of lack of care when I was a child, or family changes or emotional setbacks in my early years, of course, there are other reasons, which are difficult to list one by one. In fact, the first and second points mentioned above are not shortcomings or even advantages (if you find someone who knows how to cherish). But if the personality is not properly matched, the combination of these two personalities is very easy to be deceived.

Second, the four realms of love Before explaining the preventive measures, please let Jiangnan Yilin discuss several levels of love, and then discuss the psychological differences between men and women in love. Love is actually composed of love and affection, and many of us are used to treating love as a whole word. Love and affection are actually desire (that is, sex) and affection. Regarding desires and feelings, there are four situations according to the arrangement and combination, which also correspond to four realms:

Ruthlessness and no desire: this does not mean ruthlessness, but a lack of lust, not controlled by material desires. This realm is suitable for practitioners, but it is difficult for mortals to reach. The so-called immortal love. Love without desire: this state is the love of a gentleman, not the love of ordinary people. The so-called kinship is based on ceremony, and that's the truth. Emotion and desire: this is the realm of most of us ordinary people. As an ordinary person, emotion and desire are indispensable in marriage life. Without one end, love is incomplete. No lust: this is the love for animals, the pure pursuit of senses, and the reason why animals are popular. Generally, women value love more, while men value desire more. This is an important difference between men and women's love psychology. Because women are yin, they are easily emotional; Men are yang and tend to be rational. Although this is very simple, in communication, Elaine found that many women tend to ignore this point and take it for granted that most men also put their feelings first. Some girls were surprised when Jiangnan Yilin mentioned this difference.

It is precisely because women pay more attention to feelings, while men pay more attention to desires, so some men who cheat and play with women's feelings often use feelings as bait, money as the medium, supplemented by rhetoric, to cheat women's feelings and get the satisfaction of their desires. As a result, women seem to get what they want, while men really get what they want. This is an essential relationship in a love scam.

To prevent being cheated, it is actually very simple, especially for those simple, kind and infatuated women, you are not required to change your personality, but before you are ready to give your true feelings, please make sure that the other person is reliable and worth your efforts, and never cast pearls before swine. Playing the lute to a cow is very interesting in English. Yilin in Jiangnan specially listed it as a strong contempt for this man's scum: throw your pearl in front of the pig. Throw your pearl in front of the pig.

Suggestions of Jiangnan Yilin The suggestions of Jiangnan Yilin are as follows, please read them carefully:

1. Before you start dating, you need to be wary of men who are far away from you.

The so-called gap is very big, and there are several aspects:

First, age: If you are only in your early twenties and your partner is in his mid-thirties, it is doubtful. Why aren't you married at this age? Are there physical and psychological problems? Or divorced? Or do you have a family now? If he has a successful career, good looks and financial strength, it is even more doubtful.

Second, the region: According to the experience of Jiangnan Yilin, pay special attention to those who are very different from your geographical location, such as Hong Kong, Macao and Taiwan or foreign people. These people often have a certain economic ability, and because they are far away from their homeland, they are lonely and bored outside, and they are most likely to cheat. Besides, it's not easy for you to investigate and understand his real situation. His real world is completely another insulated space for you.

3. Identity: If the other person is a company boss or business person (who often runs outside) or has strong economic ability, and you happen to have a good appearance, then you should pay great attention: people come only for your beauty.

2. If you are already in love, you should pay attention to verifying your identity.

Never just listen to each other's words, including marital status, workplace, name, education and so on. You must find the right opportunity to meet his friends, classmates and colleagues, and it is best to meet your family.

Nowadays, online consultation is developed, so it is very convenient to go to alumni records and blogs, or directly to the school website, or call the school academic affairs office to inquire. For example, he said that he graduated from a university. Be quiet first, then get to know the school online, and suddenly ask questions when appropriate. Or the company, too, suddenly visited the work unit he said.

If he doesn't want you to get in touch with anyone around him (colleagues, friends, relatives) under various excuses, but only communicates with you in the closed circle of two people, then you are probably infected with loverboy's virus.

We have been in love for several years, so we should examine their thoughts or plans of getting married.

I believe that the ultimate goal of any normal, adult and professional woman's love is to get married (those young and romantic relationships are not included, such as middle school and college campus love, etc.). If you have been in love with a man for several years, and the other person has no idea of getting married, and it is delayed again and again, and you are not young, you have to consider where to go. Eliminate the unfavorable factors that may hinder marriage as soon as possible, or leave as early as possible.

There are too many examples of Jiangnan Yilin, which accounts for a considerable proportion of the girls who find Jiangnan Yilin to marry.

For example, a man and a woman have been in love for four or five years and are about to get married. The man's parents saw the eight characters on both sides, only to find that the eight characters didn't match (whether they really didn't). The man was a man with no opinion and filial piety, and finally he had to break up bitterly.

In this case, after the relationship is stable, the woman should ask the other parents if they have any taboos, such as whether they are strict with each other and whether they value the eight characters. If one of the hard targets required by the other party cannot be reached, it is better to see the other party's parents or clarify the relationship as soon as possible. If you really can't, leave early. It's better to have a long pain than a short one.

In the first three months, if you are pregnant, you must make it clear to the other man what to do and make it clear. If it really doesn't work, consult a lawyer and seek legal solution (note: Jiangnan Yilin does not support a third party, nor does it support a third party, but only sympathizes with women who have been cheated into acting as a third party).

Don't blindly listen to each other's words (such as excuses such as divorce as soon as possible) and get pregnant. After six or seven months, your own situation will be quite passive, and it will not be so easy for unmarried mothers to play the role of a third party. Don't listen to men and easily abort children. Remember that it is natural for men to cheat, and if they make mistakes, they will pay the price!

Be wary of stories and excuses made up by men.

We must also understand that most men who cheat their feelings and seek extramarital affairs are often used to telling how their marriage with their wives failed and how painful they were in marriage, and even Lacrimosa may fabricate all kinds of touching stories. However, I want to tell you that all excuses and reasons are pale. Modern law gives everyone the right to marry and divorce. If he really feels unhappy in marriage, he can get a divorce first, and then no one cares who he wants to marry.

The reason why these swindlers go to great lengths to make up excuses is actually very simple, just to gain the moral or psychological sympathy of the cheated woman, otherwise a slightly smarter woman will understand that he is just taking part in accidental amusement.

In short, any unmarried girl should remember one sentence: any married man, whether he is rich or poor, whether his marriage is really painful or not, as long as he is not divorced, he is absolutely not qualified to pursue your love. Because your status is unequal from the beginning, if he really loves you, he should not put you in a role that is not allowed by moral public opinion from the beginning, and this is also extremely irresponsible to his wife and children. How can such a person entrust his life?

Finally, I hope all women in the world can polish their eyes before or during love. Listen to Na Ying's lend me a pair of discerning eyes when you are free. In addition, I also warn men with malicious intentions in the world of an old saying: those who rape women will rape them. Justice returns to the circle, and retribution is not good.