An article on life perception

Rule 1: Being good now doesn't mean being good forever.

I leaned against the big desk with hot milk tea and looked at the night view outside the office.

The constant flow of headlights reminds me of my BMW, the love pony I sold in the third month of unemployment.

Yes, I have been unemployed for several months, even though I am now an executive in a foreign company with an annual salary of seven figures. I'm looking for a new branch, and I met a lot of new things when I was interviewing everywhere. I was particularly impressed by one HR supervisor with a bad attitude. First of all, she kept me waiting for nearly 30 minutes with a high profile. She didn't look at people very much during the interview, and her body language was reckless. During this time, she answered her mobile phone six times, and each call lasted at least 2 minutes, including friends and family. "I brought XX dishes home" and I didn't feel anything wrong. Finally, she said to me, "Your resume is very complete, ah!"! Your seat is xx. This kind of person works hard. You have a tendency to be a workaholic. 」

I always remember this "strange" interview.

Today, like the plot of a series, I interviewed her.

I recognized her the moment I came in. I am more curious and look at her resume more carefully. I perceive her in the light.

Seems to remember me, too. In fact, her resume is unstable, with an average of about 1.5 years per job, and now she is unemployed. I asked her why she left her job, and the answer was personal.

I told her that this position must be fluent in English listening, speaking and writing, and she nodded and said she knew.

I noticed on her resume that she was fluent in English. 〉

"good! I said, "Because you don't have any foreign experience, we interviewed in English. 」

A trace of uneasiness crossed her face. ...

To my surprise, all the conversations were almost irrelevant and the answers were no more than three sentences.

For example, "Can you tell me the difference between' occupation' and' work'? 」

"I like them all" ()

"Excuse me? 」

"oh! It's okay. 」()

"Excuse me? 」

"oh! It's okay. 」()

She's getting more and more anxious, and I'm human. Although I felt a little revenge, I was quickly replaced by sadness.

As the Taiwan Province proverb says well, it is better to swing around than to be down and out for a long time, but meeting is meeting.

I quickly finished the interview. When she got up, she almost fell down because of the collision and almost walked out of my office.

I suddenly thought of a lot of people who were interviewed like Zhuang Xiaowei. Really, many unemployed netizens only lack Bole. Many people are just vegetarians.

Life is like a wave, with ups and downs, but when the tide rises, the price will rise. When the tide ebbs, you can just look at the long-lost mottling. Everyone has the potential danger of unemployment, and everyone has his potential and luck.

Thank God for teaching me a lesson.

Chapter 2: Complete happiness must contain defects.

Luck and happiness are two different things. Only when a person has experienced hardships and has a profound understanding of life will his soul become rich, which is the most important source of happiness. From this perspective, there are both good times and bad times in our life, which is exactly the time that is most conducive to happiness. Happiness in reality should be the combination of luck and misfortune in an appropriate proportion.

When designing a perfect life plan, people might as well daydream. However, if you are a smart person, you will know that the best luck should not exclude suffering, and the most dazzling brilliance should also be dull. It turns out that perfection is based on imperfection, and perfection must contain defects. Finally, you find that God's plan for everyone doesn't need to be changed. It's important to understand its meaning.

If you complain less, you will have better luck.

Complaining means living. If you don't complain, you have to live You'd better not complain. If you complain too much, you will get old quickly.

Sitting in a taxi, the smell came to my face.

"How come your ginger flower has no branches and leaves? Is it a lot? " I saw flowers hanging on the air conditioner.

The driver said, "I live in Tsuen Wan, and the flower shop there has broken the unsold ginger flowers. Anyway, I must throw them away. It's best to wrap it in tin foil, only two or three yuan a bunch. " The seller is happy and the buyer is happy. "

I saw some knickknacks in the front of the car again and asked, "The car is your own, so you manage it so well?"

"Just for." The driver said, "I used to rent a car with flowers and dolls."

"How long will it take?"

"Sixteen years." He doesn't feel long.

"Poor business, does it matter?" The implication is that you have earned enough money to repay the loan.

"Try harder," he said. "It's enough anyway, but I won't starve to death."

"You are optimistic." I said, "In recent years, as soon as I got into a taxi, the drivers were full of complaints."

"It's not a question of whether you are happy or not," he said. "You want to live, you want to live with resentment, you want to live without resentment. You'd better not complain. Complain more and get old quickly. "

"You are not a taxi driver, but a philosopher." I smiled.

"In your line of work, everyone says there are fewer guests." I said.

"That's strange," he said. "I don't think so. Probably figured it out, and luck followed. Just like before I drove you, I just received a bill. As soon as the guests get off the bus, they will have business to do. "

Luck can't be so good, can it? When he got home and paid the money, the neighbor walked out of the gate, stopped him and got on his car.

Chapter 4: Your destiny is not calculated, but accumulated by yourself.

Revelation: "There is nothing unfair under the sun. This is unfair. Sooner or later, it will be paid back, and it will be settled again sooner or later. Not in your life, but also in your descendants! So, it's not transshipment, it's borrowing! Heaven and earth are flat. How to calculate and change them will eventually make it even. Real life is in your own hands, and your own efforts and good deeds are more important than anything else. 』

I am against fortune telling, but I don't deny it, because I know some people are really accurate. Tell you a few accurate stories:

A man bought a pack of cigarettes before driving on the highway. There was a fortune teller next to the cigarette stall, forcing him to tell his fortune, saying that he might not be finished if he looked at the dark and had a disaster that day. The man was very unhappy, scolded "boring", turned and drove away, only to get on the expressway and be hit by a big truck, dead!

Someone went to tell a fortune, and the husband said, "We must avoid' 9' this month. 9' is a great evil for you, and you will be miserable when you meet 9'. " Because fortune-telling is very accurate, from that day on, some people dare not ignore and avoid 9. Don't go out when you meet 9, 19, 29, and don't even dare to move at 9 o'clock. The problem is that there are still 9 seconds and 9 minutes ... so I am always nervous.

Driving this day, I avoided "No.9 Road", "No.9 Lane" and all places with "No.9". I'm glad to be home soon. Suddenly I saw an advertisement of a tobacco and alcohol company hanging on the telephone pole in front of me, and I bumped into it before turning around. ...

The story is over. Are those fortune tellers accurate? More than accurate! Absolutely accurate! The question is, is it good to be a god?

The person in the first story was stopped by the fortune teller. Did it take some time? Also, after listening to the fortune teller, will you be unhappy on the road? If he hadn't been delayed, would he have met the deadly big truck? If you were not distracted by unhappiness, your reaction would be better. Can you cope with this situation?

So is the second story. If he didn't go to the fortune teller and didn't believe what the fortune teller said, would he be so sensitive to "9"? If he hadn't been paranoid all day, paying too much attention to and distracted by time, street names and names, would he have overreacted and hit the telephone pole?

A "master" who is about to change his life said to me privately, "Today, you attended the film festival to award prizes. If you win, others won't get it. If the person who didn't get it is depressed, the star below is not as good as you. Isn't it all because of your law? But there is nothing unfair in the world. This is unfair. Sooner or later, it will be paid back, and it will be settled again sooner or later. Not in your life, but also in your descendants! So, that's not a transshipment, it's a loan! "

Therefore, the heavens and the earth are flat, no matter how they are calculated or changed, they are all flat in the end. Real life is in your own hands, and your own efforts and good deeds are more important than anything else.

Chapter 5: Moisture and Feng Shui Fortune: Why are you always depressed?

Enlightenment of wisdom: "Everyone wants his house to be dry, bright and sunny, and live in a dark and humid place. Before long, he will feel uncomfortable all over." Therefore, the living environment often affects all aspects of our lives. From the perspective of home feng shui, the room is messy, and it is easy to ruin your luck if you don't fold the quilt. When we are in a messy environment, we will subconsciously be influenced by a kind of negative information, and our mood will become gloomy invisibly. In the long run, we will have bad luck. On the contrary, if it can be presented to others in a positive, full and upward state, the effect will naturally be different. 』

Health, in fact, sometimes just lies in your insistence on some details in life.

I had some bad luck some time ago, which caused me a lot of trouble. I don't have the spirit to do things, and I often feel sleepy all over. In my spare time, I just want to find a way to crack it. I wanted to have fun, but I got some good things by accident.

From the perspective of home feng shui, the room is messy, and it is easy to ruin your luck if you don't fold the quilt. Looking at my bed full of clothes, I would rather believe it and make up my mind to restore a fresh look to my nest. After cleaning up, I really feel brand-new and cheerful.

Psychology regards luck as related to a person's psychological state, which may explain Feng Shui a little. When we are in a messy environment, we will subconsciously be influenced by a kind of negative information, and our mood will become gloomy invisibly. In the long run, we will have bad luck. On the contrary, if it can be presented to others in a positive, full and upward state, the effect will naturally be different.

Everyone wants their house to be dry and bright, to live in the sun and in a dark and humid place, and it won't be long before they feel uncomfortable all over. Therefore, the living environment often affects all aspects of our lives.

For example, a quilt is a person's small room, so for people who often don't like to fold quilts, my conclusion is that if you don't fold quilts, the polluted air discharged from your body will stay in the quilt on the first night and cannot be dispersed well. After getting into the quilt, you will sleep, and your body will be passively absorbed, which is easy to get sick. Sleepiness and so on are all signs of heavy humidity. If you feel groggy, your appetite for food is not very good, and your stool is sticky, which may be caused by heavy moisture.

Humidity is also a kind of climate, which is typical in the rainy season in Jiangnan. However, when the humidity is untimely and too high, people are vulnerable. And this kind of injury is not limited to the joint discomfort and general drowsiness we see. Exterior is the reflection of interior. In fact, behind these phenomena, people's spleen and stomach are trapped for a long time. After feeling moisture, the spleen is most vulnerable to injury, and the power of spleen to transport water and moisture is weakened, thus further aggravating the accumulation of moisture and vicious circulation.

A person's bad state will gradually affect all aspects of life. Therefore, to improve your living conditions, start from never being lazy and improve your living environment.

Chapter 6: The Secret of Luck: How can luck find you?

Enlightenment of wisdom: "The study found that good luck is actually related to one's personality. First of all, lucky people are much more extroverted than unfortunate people. Extroverts are sociable, like attending friends' parties and working in groups, which will greatly enhance their good luck. Lucky people have a relaxed attitude towards life. Lucky people are much more relaxed than unfortunate people, so they are more likely to notice good opportunities, even if they don't look for them on purpose. Lucky people are open-minded, and research shows that lucky people are always curious about life, have a very positive and open attitude towards everything, and are willing to try anything and participate in anything. 』

Having dinner with some friends that day, someone said happily, "My suite is about to be untied!" " Others said, "I am very lucky. The previous wave had little impact, but this wave gained a lot. "

Another male friend took over: "I don't have this kind of life. My luck has been super bad. You can't earn it when you earn it, and you can't run away when you lose it. " He sighed, "I envy those lucky people!" " "

Many people think that life needs some luck. Is luck or misfortune really just fate?

Psychologists don't admit failure. They have done a lot of research in this field and found that good luck is actually related to their own personality.

Lucky people are much more extroverted than unlucky people.

Extroverts are sociable, like attending friends' parties and working in groups, which will greatly enhance their good luck.

A man working in banking started a friendly conversation with a stranger who was resting on the road during a mountain climbing activity. The two men had a good talk. A few months later, he went to the foreign bank where his new friend was located and became his subordinate. He always jokes, "I got this job by hitting on others."

Lucky people always seem to attract others to approach besides taking the initiative to talk to others, which is closely related to their body language and facial expressions. The study found that during a period of conversation, lucky people smiled twice as often as unlucky people, and made eye contact with others significantly more often. In addition, their open body language is three times higher than those who are unlucky.

Therefore, to change your luck, you can start by changing your body language!

Lucky people have a relaxed attitude towards life.

Lucky people are much more relaxed than unlucky people, so they are more likely to notice good opportunities, even if they don't look for them on purpose.

When a girl was having afternoon tea in a coffee shop, she leisurely read the newspaper and saw an interview with an artist in the newspaper, which mentioned that he needed talents who knew marketing to help promote his artistic products. She had a brainwave and found the artist's studio online. Before long, she became not only his marketing director, but also his fiancee. If she stays depressed and anxious, she will miss the most important opportunity in her life!

Therefore, if you want to improve your luck and try to relax at any time in your life, you will feel the great opportunities in the environment more easily.

Lucky people have an open mind.

The study found that lucky people are always curious about life, have a very positive and open attitude towards everything, and are willing to try anything and participate in anything.

In an interesting study, psychologists make arrangements-there is money on the ground and entrepreneurs in cafes. As a result, the lucky ones wandered around and searched everywhere, not only found the money on the ground, but also accepted the advice of the entrepreneurs, tried new drinks after entering the coffee shop, and made friends.

Unfortunately, they didn't see the money on the ground and were indifferent to the new suggestions given to them by others, so they missed a great opportunity to know entrepreneurs.

Therefore, if you want to improve your luck and enrich your curiosity, you are willing to try any invitation, and a lot of good luck will come to you unconsciously.

As long as you know this secret, you and I can create our own luck and meet many successes and surprises in life!