folk custom

Shangrao custom, after the child is born, the son-in-law should report the good news to his parents-in-law. Good news gifts are usually: a pot of sweet water wine (glutinous rice wine), some freshly made sesame seeds (also called sesame seeds cooked with glutinous rice), and a live chicken. Parents-in-law should give back glutinous rice, chicken, eggs, brown sugar and other supplements and baby clothes; There are provisions for returning chickens. For example, if a son-in-law gives a rooster, it must be a hen in return, and vice versa. Make no mistake. On the third day, the midwife and relatives and friends should be invited to hold a wedding banquet, which is called "receiving three dynasties"; On this day, the midwife will bathe the newborn baby in warm water with perilla, Aiqi and scallion, commonly known as "washing the three dynasties"; After washing, steam rice and vegetables, buy fish and meat, burn incense and paper to pay homage to ancestors; At home, hemp fruit must be distributed to relatives and friends, and relatives and friends must also send eggs, brown sugar, red dates and other supplements to visit the parturient. After a month, you should shave your baby's head and pick up relatives and friends to eat "full moon wine"; /kloc-After 0/00 days, invite friends and relatives to drink "Centennial Wine". At this time, relatives and friends need to prepare gifts for the baby, commonly known as "Xiong Baisui", wishing the baby a healthy growth and a long life. From now on, from the age of one, every ten years, friends and relatives should be invited to drink birthday wine, and friends and relatives should also prepare gifts to congratulate them; After the age of 50, celebrating every 10 years is called birthday celebration, eating longevity noodles, drinking longevity wine, lighting red candles at home, wearing new clothes and shoes, and going to the grave to worship ancestors.

Wedding is the biggest happy event in life. Both parties and their families are very cautious and act according to the ceremony for fear of omissions and criticisms. In Shangrao before, marriage was more important than bride price. From engagement to marriage, there are the following procedures and etiquette:

The man who set foot at home went to the woman to act as matchmaker. After the woman initially agrees to get married, she should choose a day to visit the man, commonly known as "setting foot at home." Whether marriage can be achieved depends on "investigation", so both men and women attach great importance to it. On the day she set foot at home, the woman's parents, relatives and others came to the man's house to learn about the future son-in-law and his family's economy, population and the character of the man's parents. The man should not only give a grand reception with wine, but also give a red envelope to everyone who comes to see it. He can't neglect it at all.

Get engaged when you decide. After men and women set foot on the land, they need to ask their fortune tellers to see if there is any collision. If there are no obstacles and the woman does not raise any objection, the man can bring wine, cigarettes, fish, meat, cakes, eggs and other gifts to the woman's house for engagement, commonly known as "clapping." If the woman accepts the gift, the marriage is settled; Don't accept it. After the decision is made, the wine that the woman needs to invite relatives and friends to drink will be made public.

After the wedding is decided, the man chooses the wedding date, writes the wedding ceremony stickers and sends them to the woman for comments; After consultation, the parents and relatives of the woman and the person who sent the wedding stickers to the man (usually the relatives of the man) agreed to light a red candle, write down the wedding date and gift list on red paper and give it to the man. Two days before the auspicious day, the man sends the gift to the woman's house according to the gift list, which is called a bucket; After the woman accepts the betrothal gift, she will tie it one by one, light firecrackers and send it out of the house. Every time she raises a dowry, she will be carried back to the man's house by the person who carries the bucket. On the afternoon before the auspicious day, the man invited three relatives and friends to the woman's house to marry the bride. Interestingly, after the married person arrives at the woman's door, the woman's door is closed. The married person should set off firecrackers and send red envelopes through the crack of the door. Usually, the bride's brother collects red envelopes behind the door. If she is not satisfied with the money in the red envelope, she can send it out through the door. When she sees the red envelope sent back from outside, she will open it, put the money in, wrap it up and send it in through the door. If she is not satisfied, she can send it out, and so on. Until she is satisfied, she will open the door to let the wedding guests in. In the meantime, firecrackers should be ringing off the hook. This custom is to increase the lively atmosphere and interest, not to increase the amount of money. The bride's family invited relatives and friends to drink with the wedding guests. After the banquet, the bridesmaid took the bride to bid farewell to her parents and elders one by one, and each elder gave the bride a "farewell red envelope", and then someone carried her into the sedan chair. According to Wuyuan custom, the bridesmaid is called "the hen's wife" and the person who carries the bride on the sedan chair is called "the hen's husband". Those who are invited to be "the hen's husband" and "the hen's wife" must be "lucky people". They all have children, are healthy and have a good family.

Crying sedan chair is an old custom in Shangrao. The couple got on the sedan chair, and their mother cried at home. The couple got on the sedan chair and said goodbye to their parents, elders, brothers and sisters, commonly known as crying sedan chair. Crying in a sedan chair is one thing. The mother's crying should express her daughter's cleverness and filial piety on weekdays, her persuasion and expectation after marriage, etc. By "crying"; When a daughter cries, she will "cry" out the love, care, friendship and future wishes of her parents, brothers and sisters. The whole word "cry", if you listen carefully, gives people a deep affection and a strong infection that is difficult to distinguish between mother and daughter, although sadness is real and joy is mixed. However, not every mother and daughter can cry like this. Crying well and sincerely, so that everyone can listen and pedestrians stop, not only need to have a deep emotional foundation at ordinary times, but also need to have a certain culture, preparation and conception at that time.

When the sedan chair is carried to the door of the man's house, the bride must be carried out by the "lucky" chosen by the man and sent to the bridal chamber. That night, the man's family held a big banquet and invited relatives and friends who gave gifts to congratulate him to accompany the groom for a wedding banquet, commonly known as "inviting the groom." After the banquet, a wedding ceremony was held, formerly known as "meeting the bride". The "lucky man" guides the bride and groom to the hall, where they worship the sky, the ground, the high hall and the husband and wife, and then the husband and wife visit the man's uncle, uncle, aunt, brother, brother, sister and other relatives one by one. All the worshiped relatives will give the bride and groom red envelopes to congratulate them. After the ceremony, they drank wine together and sent the bride and groom to the bridal chamber.

On the second day of inviting my uncle back to the door to get married, the man will entertain the bride's brother, which is called "inviting my uncle"; On the third day, someone came from the woman's house to pick up her daughter and new uncle and said, "take the door back." When the son-in-law came to her parents' house, he first met the elders of the woman's family, and then hosted a banquet accompanied by her relatives and friends. After dinner, both husband and wife returned to the man's house. At this point, the whole wedding activity is over.

Shangrao cultural customs

The formation of Shangrao culture is mainly due to immigrants, who come from refugees who moved to escape the war, including those who are officials here or love the mountains and rivers here. Immigrants have brought richer Confucian culture and more advanced civilization than the residents outside the mountain. Historically, Shangrao culture, centered on the ancient Huizhou mansion, spread to other areas, forming its own cultural accumulation and cultural phenomena.

Shangrao culture is not only regional culture, immigrant culture, Confucian culture, but also embodies the characteristics of Confucian culture in China, with typicality and specimen value.

Shangrao culture is an important part of China traditional culture. It followed the essence of Central Plains culture, flourished in Ming and Qing Dynasties, extended from ancient times to modern times, and spread at home and abroad. It has the characteristics of mainstream culture in a certain historical period, which is of great significance to the study and promotion of China traditional culture.

Shangrao has many mountains and few fields. With the increase of personnel, the contradiction between life needs and actual satisfaction became more and more prominent, so after the Southern Song Dynasty, Shangrao people gradually went out to do business. Shangrao people who went out to do business quickly became rich by virtue of their cultural advantages and gradually developed into famous business gangs. Shangrao businessmen take part of their commercial profits as the capital for their continued operation, and take the other part back to Shangrao to buy land and build houses, attach importance to education, and train their children to study and be officials. With a solid economic foundation, various cultural elements have developed better than other regions, and Shangrao culture has moved towards prosperity and glory.

Shangrao has a large number of material and cultural remains, and many ancient villages and ancient buildings are well preserved, which has become an intuitive specimen of China's ancient culture. It is not only a tourist and economic resource, but also enables people to appreciate the splendid civilization of the Chinese nation.

Shangrao etiquette custom

Shangrao has been a country of etiquette since ancient times, with simple folk customs and "three noes" etiquette, that is, not competing for seats, food and first place; Dealing with people, sincere sales is the best; Talk to people, books often come, and respect others for humility; Enter the private school library and respect the teacher as the father.

Call elders by seniority, and call each other brothers or first names among peers. Address the owner as the boss and the boss's wife (mother), and address the employees and craftsmen as the main people. Address a learned man as a gentleman. Tell the old lady to go public. In the neighborhood, some people call a father or a family by their children's names. People in this county have always lived in groups. When people of the same clan meet, they are called by words instead. Although old, old, but still call each other brothers, peers by their real names. Married women address male elders or peers according to their children, such as brother-in-law calling uncle, brother-in-law calling aunt, and brother-in-law calling aunt; Call your parents-in-law; Address husbands, uncles, couples and grandparents as uncles, uncles, aunts, grandfathers and grandmothers. Outside relatives, other men's names are taboo. The old man is called a man and jane doe, and the middle-aged man is called an uncle, an aunt, an uncle and an aunt. Parents teach their children how to address them from an early age.

In the old society, ancestor worship, God worship, New Year greetings, birthdays, wedding ceremonies, junior visits to elders, and junior visits to superiors are all memorial ceremonies. When colleagues meet, men bow with their fists as a greeting, and women bend down to express "blessing". Visitors should be invited to sit down, serve tea and offer cigarettes. Guests at home should not fill tea, but wine. There is a saying that "light tea is full of wine" or "seven points of tea and eight points of wine". Rural hospitality is more enthusiastic, mostly with poached eggs or noodles cooked with eggs. Children are not allowed to sit down and take food when guests are eating. Tea and meals for guests must be served with both hands. Guests must stay when they leave, send them out when they say goodbye, say hello, "Walk slowly" and "Come and play when you are free", and acquaintances from other places in Lu Yu should be called home for dinner.