Why did you do it on your wedding night?

Wedding: Learn to be the most traditional bride "Lift your veil and let us see your face." Big sedan chair, red hijab, red ribbon ... For hundreds of years, brides in China have been shyly married in red dowry, red sedan chair, red dragon and phoenix robe and red market ... in the ocean of double happiness. Although fashionable young people get married in more and more avant-garde and alternative ways, the century-old tradition of China people is still circulating among modern young people. Why don't we get married in an old-fashioned way and relive the old rules and customs that we have almost forgotten in this retro wedding? Actually, those things are not necessarily out of date. On the contrary, in an increasingly industrialized city, traditional wedding is a warm experience. Holding your hand and growing old with your son is the oldest oath, the oldest ceremony and the most unforgettable. Traditional wedding etiquette before the wedding 1. Send a bride price: Before the wedding, the man will send a bride price to the woman's house. The custom in Guangzhou is to give chickens (meaning alive), coconuts (meaning blessed by a grandfather and a son) and gift cakes (for the relatives of the woman), as well as gifts to show that the man's family is rich and will let the woman get married and enjoy happiness. 2. Return gifts: The woman's family will also return gifts, including betel nuts (meaning the groom). 3. Make the bed: The night before the wedding, the woman will find a lucky man (happy family, parents alive and a son) to come to the new bed in the new house and put well-meaning food such as peanuts, red dates and walnuts on the bed. 4. Dowry: Before marriage, the bride will put the dowry prepared at home in a red suitcase and take it to her husband's house the next day. 5. Above: The night before their wedding, they will choose an auspicious time to worship God, heaven and earth, pray for blessings, and at the same time inform the man to worship God. 6. Comb her hair: The bride will ask a blessed elder to comb her hair. 7. Eat glutinous rice balls: it means that you can get married and be happy. China's ancient wedding etiquette-the ritual articles "seeing relatives" and "seeing pawns", and then performing the engagement formalities, commonly known as "crossing". The first step of "Li Guo" is that the matchmaker sends the man's birthday to the woman, and the woman's eighth birthday to the man. Some superstitious parents think that they are responsible for their children's marriage, and often ask the fortune teller to calculate after receiving the red post to see if the "date of birth" of both parties is consistent, if not; Marriage will be reconsidered. Fortunately, most modern people don't believe this, so even if red posts are exchanged, they are often just a form, and some even avoid the form of changing posts. After "changing posts" and "matching eight characters", the matchmaker should choose a good date and get engaged with the man as a gift. Giving gifts is a big deal. Generally, the active person (male or female) who gets married should give each other a heavy gift. The gift should at least include a pig elbow, a pair of wine, a chicken and a duck, and a suit for other parents. A pair of shoes and socks, a package, and some things for girls. How much money to seal in the envelope and what engagement gift to give the girl are generally negotiated by the matchmaker in advance, not as much as the man (or woman) can give. Of course, the parents of the man or woman should also try their best to think of each other, strive to be frugal and accept less dowry. After the ceremony, both men and women can agree on a date to go to the local government for a marriage certificate and formally confirm the marriage relationship. Modern laws and regulations stipulate that both men and women should go to the hospital for premarital examination before getting a marriage certificate; There are also some areas (mainly cities) that require premarital classes. These are all effective measures to ensure prenatal and postnatal care and ensure the quality of the population, which should be followed. China's ancient wedding etiquette-paying homage to the bride is the climax of the wedding. On the wedding day, after the man's sedan chair is issued, the best man will arrange a place to pay homage in the man's hall. When the sedan chair stopped in front of the main hall, the maid of honor invited by the man stood in front of the sedan chair and the ceremony began. On the incense table, cigarettes are lingering, red candles have a high fever, and relatives, friends and functional personnel are in their positions. The two bridesmaids appeared as "Zan" and "Zan" respectively and began to pay tribute. The bride and groom began to worship the bride according to the praise ceremony. The procedure of the ceremony is as follows: praise: the groom is in place (standing in front of the sedan chair), praise: the sedan chair is opened and the couple gets up. Praise: The groom bows (inviting the bride). Zan: The bride and groom are in place (before the incense table). Praise: The bride and groom (to the shrine and ancestral tablets) enter the incense sticks. Zan: kneel down and offer incense. Light candles, burn incense, burn incense, crawl, stand up and stand back. Tong Zan: Kneel down, kowtow, kowtow again, kowtow three times, and you will be happy. Then the traditional "three worships"-"one worships heaven and earth, the other worships parents, and the husband and wife worship each other", and finally "introduces the bridal chamber". This is the end of the ceremony. According to the custom of marriage in our country, after three days of marriage, the bride should go back to her family with the groom, which is also called "returning home". This is an indispensable etiquette. The bride's old man attaches great importance to returning home in three days, so the groom should make ideological and gift preparations in advance and try to leave a happy and beautiful impression on his parents-in-law. Gifts are prepared in advance. Buy gifts that the bride and the old man like. There are generally four kinds of gifts. Huimen usually leaves at nine or ten in the morning. The bride and groom should dress up as well as at the wedding, and keep a beautiful and handsome image at the wedding. When going back to their parents' home, the bride and groom should greet the old man first. At this time, the groom should change his mind and call his parents-in-law like the bride. He should be natural and kind, and be kind and polite to his relatives, friends and neighbors. He should greet people first and treat them with courtesy. At dinner, the bride should accompany the groom, propose a toast to parents, relatives and neighbors, and thank everyone for their wishes for their wedding. Don't rush home after dinner. You should chat with your parents for a while, listen to their teachings, and then leave and go home. And should take the initiative to invite two old people and brothers and sisters to their homes, or invite relatives, friends and neighbors. In ancient times, the wedding ceremony began: the man carried six or twelve gifts, fired a gun and set off for the woman's house. When he was about to arrive at the woman's house, he fired another shot, and the woman's house also fired a shot to show that he was ready. Welcome: the matchmaker gets off first, and others get off next. The groom is invited by the younger generation of the bride's family. Introduction: the man's relatives and friends enter the woman's house in turn, and the matchmaker formally introduces both relatives and friends, first introducing the man to the woman's house. Requisition: the man brings gifts into the woman's house, and the woman accepts them and gives them red envelopes; Gifts will be displayed in the hall, and the matchmaker will give gifts, gold ornaments and gifts to the woman's parents. Women's relatives and friends will collect gifts and display offerings on God's table. Serve sweet tea: the elder of the woman asks the relatives of the man to sit down according to their age, and the groom comes last. The bride-to-be was led out of the hall by a lucky woman, holding sweet tea for the man's guests. Press the teacup: After a while, the bride goes out to collect the teacup, and the man's relatives and friends need to press the teacup with red envelopes. Wearing a ring: The bride-to-be sits on a high chair facing outward (inward if married) in the center of her main hall under the gaze of her parents and relatives, and the low chair is stuck; The middle finger wears a ring (male left and female right). The groom-to-be gives the red envelope to the bride-to-be Renaming: The matchmaker guides both parties to change their names. Ancestor worship: my uncle lights candles to burn incense, the matchmaker reads auspicious words, and then the woman's parents worship the ancestors of the gods and tell them that their marriage is settled and pray for blessing. Reward: The woman accepts some gifts and betrothal money from the man and gives him six or twelve gifts in return. Engagement party: After the engagement ceremony is completed, the woman prepares refreshments and holds a banquet in honor of the man (the man on the right and the woman on the left). The woman prepared chicken legs and attached a red envelope to the young man. In addition to pressing the table, the man will also give red envelopes to all those who help. Seeing the guests off: After the banquet, the man's guests leave for home, and the woman's younger generation washes their hands for the man's guests with a bucket of flour. If they are outside the restaurant, this gift is free. Never say goodbye to them.