How to communicate after a blind date, and how to choose a spouse after remarriage.

People who have been married twice have experienced failed marriages, so they are cautious about remarriage, and it is difficult to choose a suitable second marriage partner. Second-married people have a lot to pay attention to when they are in the second relationship.

How to communicate after the second marriage and blind date

1. Decide how to communicate according to the blind date.

If the blind date is unmarried, it is probably not as mature as you. Then when we get along, we should be more tolerant of each other in future exchanges. In addition, unmarried people may not be able to accept the dull marriage life at first, so try to create more romantic atmosphere and often surprise each other. If the other person is a second-married person like you, you might as well have more spiritual communication with the other person, so it is easy to narrow the distance between them.

Don't be too impatient when communicating.

Be sure to let nature take its course after a blind date, so it's easier to follow suit. If you blindly pursue the rhythm and force the other person to like you, it is likely to backfire and scare the other person away. Therefore, when communicating, we must master the rhythm that makes each other comfortable and don't push each other too hard. As a married person, you must learn to control yourself well in this respect and be more rational and mature.

Don't ask each other's privacy when communicating.

Even if you have established a relationship, don't ask too much about each other's privacy. Everyone has secrets that they don't want to tell, even the closest people. Don't pry unless the other person is willing to tell you. I believe you can also realize in your previous marriage that it is very necessary to leave more private space and freedom for each other.

4. Listen carefully to each other's ideas when communicating.

Don't think that one marriage can act as an experienced person, you must know how to understand each other's psychological demands, because everyone will be different. Some people are not good at expressing their inner thoughts, so if the other party is willing to say it in the early stage, it is suggested to be a listener or give appropriate guidance to let the other party express it comfortably. Communication requires interaction and listening, and successful communication is a song between the hearts of both sides.

5. Always be rational in communication.

Declining IQ in communication is a common problem that many men and women will make, so we must deliberately maintain our own reason and avoid making perceptual mistakes. Don't exaggerate each other's small mistakes psychologically, but also understand each other's real needs and measure whether you can tolerate some shortcomings of each other.

6, zero mentality

The past marriage is a thing of the past, even if it brings you great pain, don't give up the pursuit of happiness, which requires a zero mentality in the second marriage blind date. Give yourself the right and opportunity to choose happiness!

How to choose a partner in remarriage

First, we should give up the idealized expectation of marriage when we remarry and choose a spouse.

Newly divorced men and women, don't rush to reorganize their families and treat old love with new love. Instead, give yourself some time to think about what marriage is, what love is, and what you expect. Letting go of the perfect expectation of marriage means real maturity, no longer treating yourself as a little girl or boy, but entering the partnership as an adult.

Second, remarriage and choosing a partner should be aware of the end of marriage.

Before entering the marriage again, we should also re-examine the problems of the previous marriage, understand the mode of loving and being loved, and complete our self-growth. This is quite important. Without knowing it, we will enter a new relationship with the old model, which will lead to the reorganization of the relationship into the old cycle.

Third, remarriage to choose a partner should focus on each other's personality and personality.

According to a survey, the failure of most people's first marriage is mostly due to the bad conduct of the other party, but also partly due to personality problems. It doesn't matter if you have different personalities, the key is the degree of integration. Therefore, when divorced men and women are ready to remarry, they must polish their eyes and understand each other's personality.

Fourth, remarriage and choosing a partner need to consider each other's economic situation.

A remarried woman needs to consider the man's financial situation. The other party doesn't have to be rich, but at least he should be equal to himself. Most remarried women have entered middle age and have no ability and energy to work hard. Find a husband with a good economic foundation and give him support for the rest of his life. The rest is to stay together and live hand in hand.

When choosing a partner after remarriage, we should consider the other person's acceptance of their children.

When you choose to remarry after getting married and having children, you need to consider the other person's tolerance for your children. You know, this is not only related to the harmony of your husband and wife, but also affects the happiness and growth of your children. So be sure to find out what the other party really wants, and don't deliberately hide the truth, but also ask the other party to tell the truth.

Sixth, remarriage should pay attention to the choice of mate selection channels.

It is also important to choose when to remarry. It is most undesirable to simply "wait" without actively looking for fate. The circle of friends and relatives is too narrow, so it is very unlikely to find suitable conditions, let alone identify and pay attention to many problems. Personal advice can go to the mid-to high-end matchmaking platform, preferably in the form of offline one-on-one introduction. A divorced woman can't take any more risks.

What should I pay attention to in the second marriage blind date?

Look at the target before deciding the communication strategy.

If the blind date is unmarried, then pay attention to be more tolerant of each other in future exchanges, create as much romantic atmosphere as possible, and win each other's hearts; If the other person is married and divorced, then you might as well have more spiritual communication with the other person. People who have experienced marriage failures together are often easy to talk about together.

Second, examine each other's character and character.

People who have experienced marriage failure will have a deeper understanding of character and conduct. According to the survey, the failure of most people's first marriage is mostly due to the improper behavior of the other party, but it is also partly due to personality reasons. How to measure these two aspects of blind date mainly depends on the individual's tolerance. If you think this will affect your future marriage, don't make do with it.

Third, it is best for remarried women to be financially independent.

Economically independent women have independent personalities. They are more confident than those women who can only live by men. In marriage, no matter how much you love each other, don't give up your job because of a man. If you are willing to be a housewife, you must accept the result of being abandoned at any time. A remarried woman must not be stupid enough to be a full-time wife and lose herself.

Fourth, don't make do, you have a scale in your heart.

A remarried woman, even if she is single, will be suppressed by some ideas, thus causing such a situation. A kind woman who was obviously hurt by a man bravely pursued her own happiness, but was criticized by others. In the end, she can only find some men with poor conditions as her companions. I advise you not to settle for this. Remember, you must give yourself a measure to choose a partner again, and don't remarry yourself casually. If there is no suitable choice around, the current social platform is also very good. Take the West Building as an example. The system will recommend women to men who buy the Diamond Palace, and then become concubines in men's harem, and so on. Everyone can communicate freely online. In this way, you will soon forget the trauma in your heart. When you meet a man who can chat, you can also meet offline, and maybe you will gain new love.

5. Do you want to remarry as a gift in the snow or as a icing on the cake?

The essential difference between these two words is that the former is better because of pity and the latter is better because of admiration. Remarriage, in particular, means a new beginning in life. We must never be as frivolous and willful as we were when we were young. We have enough experience and requirements to make ourselves better. Now, we are mature enough to look forward to a better future, and we will not "look forward to the pie falling from the sky" as before; I hope that there will be no "broken cans and broken falls"; With fatalistic self-indulgence, I will try my best to be a better self. If one day a man who really knows my fragrance approaches, it will be a kind of luck in life.

Sixth, talk less about each other's privacy when communicating.

Even if the two people have a good impression on each other after the blind date and are willing to develop in the direction of male and female friends, don't ask each other too much about their privacy. Even if the other person has deep feelings for you, since some things have passed and happened, don't care too much. I believe you can also realize in your previous marriage that it is very necessary to leave more private space and freedom for each other.

Seven, the other party's economic situation

The economic situation is also very important for the second marriage blind date, especially for the second married woman. The other party doesn't have to be rich, but at least he should be equal to himself. Most remarried people have missed the best period of struggle, and their ability and energy are very limited. If they want to form a new family, the economy must also be considered first. This is a very realistic problem.

Eight, remarriage and children's feelings are very important.

If a single mother remarries with her child, she must consider the child's feelings as well as her own emotional factors. After all, the child is a piece of meat that fell from her. She is very sad in her new life, and her mother will be unhappy. Let the child integrate into the new family and life and cultivate his good temperament. When this problem is inevitable, it is very important to know the child's personality and preferences.

Nine, the man's parents are not good at thinking clearly.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a great test of the harmony of a family and the existence of marital feelings. Even if the relationship between husband and wife is very good, once they meet their in-laws, they are sharp and unkind. Plus, if something happens, they will make trouble for you and your wife. Do you think their son will believe you or his parents after a long time?

The happiness rule of second marriage and blind date remarriage

One of the wrong psychology of second marriage and remarriage is revenge. Because of the resentment towards the ex-husband, when re-electing a "new person", only the appearance or some other aspects are required to surpass the "old person" in order to achieve the purpose of revenge. This is the taboo of remarriage, and it is absolutely not desirable.

Several selection methods

See if he (she) still has some quality characteristics:

1, can sincerely accept the "differences" between you, not just appreciate the similarities.

I will wait for you patiently when you decide to re-enter the marriage.

You will know what he or she wants from life, work hard for it, and be willing to let you cultivate life in your own way.

I don't want to change you, but I am willing to accept you now.

5. I will work with you to solve some problems of myself, the other party and two people.

The purpose of remarriage is not to make up for the father's love or maternal love for the other half of the child, but to make up for the other half and find a true lover. A family needs strong love between men and women as a link, and a person who really loves you can really be good for you and your children. Finally, I wish you can find true happiness.