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Proposal: In the old society, young men and women had to obey their parents' orders, believe in "the words of the matchmaker" and have no autonomy. When a man is fifteen or sixteen, or later, his parents will arrange for him to find a suitable family first, and then find a matchmaker to act as matchmaker. This is called "matchmaking". If a woman proposes to a man, it is called "reverse proposal". After the matchmaker introduced the situation of both men and women to each other, the two sides secretly asked each other about their looks, personality and conduct. I also asked about the man's family property and brothers. This is called "visiting relatives". If both parties are satisfied, they can get engaged. Before you get engaged, you should also look for a fortune teller to see if it is a crime. . If the "eight characters" don't match, you can't get married, which has caused many marriage tragedies. ?

Engagement: After both men and women are satisfied, they can set a date and exchange bride price. On auspicious days, the man prepares gold and silver jewelry, clothes, cosmetics, pork, snacks and other gifts, and attaches a blessing sticker, which is led by the matchmaker and sent to the woman's home. After the woman receives the gift, she takes shoes, hats or Four Treasures of the Study as a gift.

Media revelation: also known as "sprinkling eight characters". That is, by exchanging eight characters as written evidence of engagement. The man sent a post with his date of birth, time, zodiac sign, gender, age and the words "sincerely ask for permission" to the woman's home together with gifts such as pork and snacks. The woman received a gift written with "eight characters" and a post written with "Ying Yuyin" or "Obeying Taiwan Province's orders" in order to prevent the engagement.

Check the date: In the old society, the date of marriage was decided by the fortune teller according to the woman's life. After that, the two sides negotiated to find an auspicious day, and the man officially informed the woman of the wedding date with a "wedding invitation", commonly known as "posting". Write down the bride's dress, dress, the direction and time of getting on and off the sedan chair, and the bride price for her. The bride price must be paid in full according to the quantity. If there is arrears, it is convenient for the woman not to accept "wedding invitations". The woman accepts the "wedding invitation", which indicates the next happy period.

Celebrations and banquets: Celebrations and banquets will start two or three days before the celebration. The man's neighbors, family members, relatives and friends, in addition to the wedding gifts and horizontal plaques of congratulations such as "a perfect match made in heaven" and "Fulu Yuanyang", give more wedding gifts. The woman's relatives and friends and neighbors send more clothes, cosmetics, daily necessities, etc. This is called "framing". Friends and relatives who give gifts should hold banquets and wedding banquets, and the groom should toast regardless of seniority. Some people still "worship the village" at the table, that is, the groom, led by passers-by, congratulates the elders at home one by one (bowing his head and kowtowing four times). ?

Wedding day: that is, "wedding day". Before the wedding ceremony, the man's family should pack up the new house and choose two days to pull the dowry at the woman's house. The "dowry" is arranged by the woman's parents, and the amount is divided into rich and poor. Generally speaking, it is the "seven big pieces": cabinets, boxes, cupboards, tables, chairs, washstands, dressing tables and so on. Small items include single clothes, cotton-padded clothes, clothing materials, bedding (four spread four covers or eight spread eight covers) and so on. In addition, there are various "mascots", such as bamboo chopsticks (getting a child quickly), double mugwort leaves (love), hair noodles (getting rich after marriage), salt (fate), longevity lamps and so on. Sticking red paper or tying a red rope on it means happiness, and the man will find someone to transport it to his husband's house. The next day, the man sent the bride's sedan chair clothes and other items to the woman's house to hold a wedding banquet for her.

On the wedding day, red wedding couplets and happy characters were posted on the doors and windows of the man's house. The wedding procession is noisy, divided into big wedding and small wedding. The "big wedding" uses a sedan chair for two people, and the groom takes a green sedan chair, also known as the "official sedan chair". The bride sat behind the sedan chair. "Small marriage" only uses sedan chairs. When the sedan chair is approaching the door, the sedan chair bearer runs quickly and bumps into the sedan chair. This is called "stepping on the street" or "shaking the sedan chair". After entering the room, set off firecrackers and play music to celebrate. When the bride gets off the sedan chair, her mother-in-law presents the loom "leftover flowers" wrapped in red paper for the bride to hold, which means that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law knit together. The groom is in front and the bride is behind, each holding one end of HongLing, stepping on the red carpet, saddling and stepping into the courtyard. The father-in-law took off the bride's veil with a balance beam, and the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber together after worshipping heaven and earth. ?

After entering the bridal chamber, people can make as much noise as they want. This is the so-called "noisy room". Newcomers sit on a bench together, which is called "sitting accounts". The groom takes a sip of wine and sprays it on the bride's head and face to get "wealth" business. Bring a new bowl of dried noodles or noodles for the bride to pick and put on the kang? Next is the so-called "longevity noodles". Then the bride changes clothes. After that, the woman sent her relatives into the house, and the bearers greeted the bride and said "housekeeping". The bride sits on the kang and is judged by others. Her name is "sitting on the kang". Light two wick sesame oil lamps at night. Newcomers should be carefully taken care of and not let out. This is the "Long Life Lamp". After the guests leave, the bride and groom drink "wedding wine" and eat red eggs in cups connected with red ropes, which means a happy marriage and early birth. After midnight, there are still some naughty children listening to the bride and groom whispering outside the window. This is the so-called "listening room".

Three days: After the wedding, the father-in-law invited the groom and asked his daughter to come back. The woman's uncle, uncle, aunt, aunt and uncle will also give a banquet for their newly married husband, which is called "three days". On this day, the groom went to dinner accompanied by passers-by The children of the father-in-law's family came to the table, thanked their new uncle and asked for wedding gifts. This is called "noisy music".

Look at the second day and worship the third day: look at the second day, that is, the day after the wedding, the father-in-law sent someone to worship the sacrifice at the man's house for three days, that is, the bride went to the same family's home to visit her elders, and on this day her mother-in-law accompanied her to the grave to worship her ancestors. This is called "Shangxi Tomb".

Xie Media: After marriage, the man gives the matchmaker 1 pig's head or other property, which is called "Xie Media".

See in-laws: After marriage, the mother-in-law must bring four kinds of chicken, duck, fish, tobacco, alcohol, sugar and tea to the man's house to see in-laws, which is called meeting in-laws. Parents of both sides introduce their children separately, hoping that the other side will forgive the mistakes that their children may make, and the atmosphere is harmonious.