How to be a good parent when children are "considerate" Capricorn, Sagittarius and Scorpio?

I have met many parents who will answer when their children keep asking questions: "Why do you think so much is useless? Spend the time you think about this problem on your study. How good are your grades? "

When you can't explain your child's question, this answer is undoubtedly your best personal way.

On the one hand, strict righteousness tells children to focus on learning and safeguard their "authority", on the other hand, it also relieves their "anxiety and temper".

However, for children, this is a kind of "exclusion".

And there is a reason for this "rejection".

But it is precisely because of this refusal with "reasons" that children think that what you said is right and their questions are "wrong".

But he couldn't help thinking. As a result, he can only find the answer by himself and will never ask you again.

Because the result of asking you is to make yourself feel "bad" even more!

Then, no matter what happens to him, he wants to solve it himself, not "trouble you".

This kind of problem, if it is for children of Aries, Gemini and Pisces, is not very harmful.

But for children like Capricorn, Sagittarius and Scorpio, who don't like to talk to others and like to keep thinking, it is simply a bridge to cut off their desire to communicate with others.

So, today, we will talk about how children with these constellations can get along with them better!

For Capricorn babies, they are capable of taking care of themselves. When they grow up, they don't like to disturb others.

When they were young, they also liked to rely on themselves for everything. The true story of Capricorn, tell the true Capricorn legend with the author's pen instead of your mouth.

You often see a very young child with a big forehead and big eyes, but he has been thinking quietly.

Nine times out of ten this child is Capricorn.

Because of this, he is very sensible and likes to think.

So he is more mature than ordinary children, and the questions asked by ordinary children are more profound and complicated.

Under the introverted personality, although you are his "parents", he will have a fierce ideological struggle when he asks you. Capricorn: Loneliness and hard work are the "spells" that I can never solve.

If you don't refuse him patiently, it is likely to make him feel: "Mom and Dad don't want to answer my questions, and of course others don't want to."

From then on, when he chooses a seat, he will sit at one end of the table. When he was on holiday, all the other children chose to play together. He will shut himself in his room, play by himself, or read one picture book after another.

Even though he has read the book dozens of times, he has "turned over" the book.

Therefore, if you have a Capricorn child, you can't be "impatient" in the face of his "rationality". 65438+ 10 1-65438+ 10, the "segment hand" of Capricorn-"Erjietang Red Pill"

Because they are afraid of being "rejected", this will breed their "inferiority" growth.

Second, you can't "pretend not to know" because Capricorn children are very smart and have a very good memory when they were young. Once he thinks you are dealing with him, or you brag, he will look down on you.

In this way, it will also cut off his desire to consult you.

Thirdly, because he is patient, this is his character strengths. You can't make him anxious just because you are "impatient".

He is slow, you should be angry. Capricorn, born in the beginning of winter, is an ascetic monk and has lost the pain nerve.

If you influence him too much with your impatience, he won't understand why you are so impatient.

Is it bad to be patient? Out of respect for you, he won't think you are wrong. He will question himself and then be in a state of "entanglement" for a long time.

Fourth, as a child who thinks a lot, he definitely likes reading. If you are a parent, being guided is definitely the best.

Stay with your child, read a book together, then discuss it together, put forward your views and allow him to disagree with you.

Then start a discussion, and soon you will find that this quiet child will have endless words with you.

Because, no matter what personality, people still need to understand and talk!

Scorpio is very observant from an early age and doesn't like to talk from the beginning. A letter to the lone wolf in the ice sheet, Scorpio, please contact Scorpio in person.

For example, one day, if you are unhappy outside, your "Scorpio" may immediately notice and ask you, "Mom, why are you unhappy?"

If you are a patient mother, you can talk to him about this problem.

But I believe that most unhappy mothers almost don't have the patience. They will say, "Which eye can tell that I am unhappy? Please mind your adult's business! "

Scorpio will start to struggle with this sentence, and he will think, "My judgment is obviously not wrong. Why does my mother say that? "

Then, he will learn to "hide" his thoughts and "escape" some opportunities to express his views. Scorpio is a cold lone wolf and doesn't even like himself.

As a result, you will find that this child dislikes talking to you more and more, and likes to do things by himself and enjoy his own world more and more.

Therefore, if you are with a Scorpio child, sharing your emotions is the best guide for him.

When he said, "Mom, why are you unhappy?" At that time.

You should praise his "sixth sense and observation", you should tell him that this is his greatest advantage, and you should thoroughly make him understand: "Why are you unhappy and what is your psychological state!"

When he can better grasp your emotional pulse, he will have more confidence and security when he gets along with you.

It is also more conducive to the feelings between the two of you. What are the shortcomings of Scorpio's personality and how to make up for them?

The most serious hidden emotion is not Scorpio, but Sagittarius.

This constellation, among the twelve constellations, likes to pretend to be happy since childhood.

Since childhood, "satire" is also my favorite. The second Sagittarius is afraid of getting married, impatient and suspicious. How did he come from?

Correspondingly, he is also the "winter constellation" that needs companionship and guidance most!

When he has a "contradiction" with other students at school, he will be ready to smile when he pushes the door at home.

Because, he doesn't want you to worry about him, he feels hopeless.

This is not an acquired emotional feature, but it has been there since he was born.

So you should carefully look at the change of his expression, whether he is less talkative, and whether his expression begins to dim after playing for a while.

You don't have to let him talk in detail, but your company and patience will induce him to share all his problems with you. 65438+February12-65438+February 2 1, favorite three Sagittarius "Painting Cakes to Fill Hunger"

Remember: no matter how "strong" people are, they need friends, not to mention people who pretend to be strong.

Therefore, if you make yourself more delicate, you can greatly reduce the number of times your child "pretends to be strong", so that you can tell him that he is your pride no matter he is "brave and lively" or "depressed and timid".

When he is more and more afraid to show his "true side" to you.

This Sagittarius baby has changed from "fake strength" to "real strength". Do you believe that Sagittarius is a comedian with a smile on his face and a cry in his heart?

Your relationship will get better and better.

In fact, in the final analysis, in the face of these "particularly smart and talkative" children, what they need most is the quality of their parents, that is, "patience"!

The more patient and compassionate you are, the better your children will be.

But in the fast-paced life, many parents just lack these.

Life pressure, work pressure, friends socializing, and various family problems. How can you be patient?

A Buddhist story tells that a young monk asked his master, Master, look at the leaves moving.

The master told him, "It's not the leaves that are moving, it's your heart that is moving!" " "

Similarly, it is not the busy life that makes you impatient.

It is your "impetuous heart" that drives your behavior.

So, what should you do if you want to be more calm and cultivate your patience?

The author suggests that it can be achieved by copying the Diamond Sutra.

Why do you recommend copying the Diamond Sutra?

You can ask yourself, do you have time to watch short videos, play games and attend various dinners?

But how long has it been since you read a "paper book" and held a pen?

You ask your children to study hard every day. How long has it been since you studied hard?

Therefore, if you want your children to be patient and others to study hard, you must first correct your attitude.

Play less mobile phones, play less games, and attend less "inferior parties" to calm your heart and slow down your life.

When you are free, light a stick of incense, make a pot of tea, open a copy of the Diamond Sutra and copy it carefully.

Put aside all those worldly things and grievances and focus your "mind, heart and spirit" on your eyes, hands and pens.

When you copy carefully, you will find that you are more and more able to hold your horses and be more and more patient.

In the process of copying, the Diamond Sutra will also tell you a truth: "All aspects are illusory; Meet each other and see the Tathagata! "

It means: "When you can't understand your child, the child can't understand you. When you can calm down and get to know him patiently, he will calm down and get to know you again. "

Therefore, long-term copying, you will certainly have a "normal heart, quiet heart."

If you use it to face children again, you will definitely be "full of harvest."

In fact, many times, children are excellent, but when we face them, whether we are excellent or not is the biggest problem.

Don't take it out on the child, because he is "a blank sheet of paper, a mirror".

What you write, you will see, what kind of person you are, and you will see yourself from him.

Finally, I hope everyone can get along better with these children who don't like to express constellations.

I also wish you a happy mood, more patience and more success!