What should boyfriends and girlfriends talk about when they meet for the first time?

When we first meet, we can talk about our hobbies and work.

First, avoid questions based on household registration.

Most blind dates are like this, and one of them will say: How old are you? What do you do? What do your parents do? Chatting like this can easily become a questionnaire survey, which is boring. This kind of chat can easily make the two sides psychologically think of going to a government agency to do business. With such psychological hints, the chat atmosphere will not heat up, and the blind date of two people will become a routine, and they will ignore each other after chatting. Blind date introduced by parents and friends generally don't ask such basic personal information, but they should also avoid asking simple questions such as "What do you like to eat" and "What do you like to do on weekends".

Second, ask more open questions.

The biggest drawback of the above-mentioned household registration questioning methods is that they are all closed-ended questions, which end with a question and answer. Sometimes it's hard to continue, and when we meet, we try our best to find what to look for in the next topic, which leads to the whole chat process. So the way of asking questions is very important. For example, not asking which movie you like, but asking which plot in that movie you like? I like it. This kind of open-ended question will give the other party more room to play when answering, and can extend your chat content indefinitely. Moreover, you can better understand the person in front of you through the details described by the other party.

Third, break the conventional thinking, bring surprises and inject freshness into the chat.

The human mind is inert. If the way you speak is consistent with the information it has been receiving, it will not bring freshness to it, and it will remain silent. Once the normal brain circuit is broken, it can give people a bright feeling and instantly wake up thinking. For example, a man asks you, where is your hometown? Can you say with a smile that where my hometown is will affect your judgment of me? You'll know when you get familiar with it later. Keep it mysterious and make people think you are interesting.

Fourth, tell more stories.

People are naturally fond of listening to stories. Storytelling is an important way of effective communication. Many times, people will forget what you said, but they will be impressed by your wonderful stories. If you meet in a coffee shop and start looking for a topic, you can start with coffee and tell the story of the founder of this coffee shop brand, and then chat will naturally be enriched. Of course, this requires you to do some homework in advance before meeting. If the paragraph is relatively high, you can make up some stories that happened on the spot or arranged in the venue to be embedded in your conversation, so you need to consciously practice your storytelling ability in peacetime.

Fifth, smile more and make eye contact with him more.

Women who love to laugh are not too bad luck. The survey shows that girls with bright smiles have a sense of happiness, and the probability of getting a happy marriage is higher than that of ordinary girls. Eye contact is also important. If two people can make eye contact 80% of the time in a meeting, the success rate of the meeting can be close to 100%.