The relationship between "personality tags" of cancer and their "mothers"

When I was a child, I often heard my parents compare "other people's children" with "myself".

And it is often found that in their mouth, "other people's children" are always stronger than "themselves".

In their view, they raised this topic in order to set an example for children and let them learn from others; Or find a "competitor" for your child and expect him to surpass others.

But they ignore the "personality difference", which leads to the differences between people.

Moreover, in their eyes, the "direction" of children's growth is expected to conform to the "aesthetics and values" of the public.

And this "popular standard" basically comes from their feelings.

Therefore, they often fail to see the "advantages" of their children; But I often stare at the "shortcomings" of children.

And this mentality is actually caused by my own "inferiority complex" psychology.

Always feel inferior to others; What you have is not as good as what others have.

Correspondingly: one's own children must be inferior to others' children.

So: their children may prefer "painting"; Other people's children are good at "communication".

They will ignore the child's "talent" and say: whose child is more sensible, and call me "aunt" every time we meet, unlike you, I don't know how to say hello.

Your own children may be "active and athletic", while others' children may be "quiet and able to sit".

They will criticize because they are tired: if you look at other people's children, you can read for a day; Look at you, running around every day, what you look like.

On the surface, this is just a kind of "parents' expectation" and "complaint".

But in fact, "inner" is the beginning of a child's life, and it was initially "not understood".

Especially, it has the greatest influence on several constellations of "sensitive" personality.

Because the more "sensitive and delicate" personality, the higher the demand for being "understood" and "inclusive"; Any kind of "missing" will cause lingering "memories" in their hearts.

And this kind of memory will become the source of "suspicious, thoughtful, strong, face-saving and stubborn" as they grow up.

So, what are the sensitive constellations?

It is the four constellations of "Virgo, Libra, Scorpio and Cancer", which has super perception.

Among these four constellations, "Cancer" is the most special existence, because her ruler is "Moon".

So for her, "mom" is the person who has the greatest influence on her, and she can't give up.

Therefore, most of Cancer's personality tags come from their own "mother".

As mentioned above, family members like to compare their children with others and always think that "other people's children" are excellent, which is a kind of inferiority.

The difference between "male" and "female" is that girls are more likely to feel insecure and inferior.

Therefore, the "cancer" most affected by "mother" is often the cancer that is most easily compared with others by family members since childhood.

Moreover, she is also the person who cares most about this concept.

Therefore, most cancers are easy to go out, and there is a feeling that everyone is staring at themselves; It is also easy to always think that you are "gregarious and unsociable, and the alternative is not alternative."

Therefore, "suspicious" is basically inseparable from cancer for a lifetime!

So, what are the countless relationships between Cancer's "personality tag" and "mother"?

Below, let's "talk" in detail!

Among the twelve constellations, it is not Gemini who loves to gossip about other people's affairs, but Cancer!

Because Gemini is a "hobby" in this respect; "Cancer" is "demand".

Why do you say that?

You can imagine: if you often compare with others, you will naturally be "hostile" to those who are "better than you"; Instead of thinking, "I want to learn from him."

This has something to do with "humanity" and nothing to do with "morality".

Therefore, in the mind of "Cancer", she always wants to find "the shortcomings of others" and then enlarge it to show that others are not so good and she is not so "poor".

She can find her inner "balance point" by talking about others.

So many times, when someone praises someone, it will awaken her sense of loss when comparing her childhood with her mother.

Her first thought was: I can't give up, I want to tell this person's shortcomings; I'm not that bad, and she's not that good.

So many times, "Cancer" will gossip about other people's affairs. This man must have hurt himself in some way.

And many times, this "injury" is not direct.

But because of "other people's comments" or because this person has "compared" with himself.

Therefore, it is not that she is bored and casually talking, but out of an inner "inferiority complex"!

And this kind of thinking has also caused the "sensitivity" of "Cancer": when she sees a group of people getting together, she always feels that others are talking about herself.

And she is afraid that her "good friend" will get too close to others.

Because: in her mind, once this happens, she will form an impulse to "think about it and compare it" in her heart.

And it is often "inferiority over self-confidence", which is a kind of torture for her.

Cancer likes the "pale yellow" luster very much: because of the lack of "security", she will feel a "threat" to the too dazzling light.

People who are "insecure" are generally more "inferior" and prefer to "cover up their inferiority complex".

So many times, "pretending to be strong" has become the most important "link" in their character: the more afraid they are, the more they like to talk.

They always express deep "disdain", similar to: what is this smell, what is this dress, can you wear clothes, and the use of cosmetics is really poor.

But in fact, the worse people are, the more they will feel "like themselves"; And the better, the more they tend not to "trap" themselves.

Only when you are familiar with it will that kind of "disdain" become "anxiety and paranoia".

You will see her "babbling", especially when you are in love with Cancer.

When she sees a girl with a good figure in the street, she will go first to see if you are staring at others.

If you are watching, she will suddenly say: you should stare at all kinds of "garbage" when you look at anything. Is it really a "fly"?

Then, he acted very angry.

Afterwards, she may ask you back: Is this girl beautiful?

And if you meet a girl with a bad figure, she will be very nervous, and then carefully ask you: am I this "figure"?

So: Many times, when you get along with Cancer, don't think that they are strong: the "sequela" caused by being compared with others by your family as a child is that she will always compare herself with others.

And "being suspicious, worrying, pretending to be inferior" has become her most obvious "language inertia"!

The constellation that is most easily influenced by "mother" is Cancer, so "Cancer Man" will have a little Oedipus complex.

Therefore, when they think about problems, they will substitute the thinking of "mother"; In behavior, they will undoubtedly imitate their mother.

Then correspondingly, they have become the easiest "Niang" men in the twelve constellations.

Whether it is a "mom" in thinking mode or a "mom" in words and deeds, it will account for one anyway.

So basically, the boys in Cancer are the easiest to do things. But also the easiest to "overflow".

If their mother is "strong", then perhaps the characteristic of this cancer man is "mother treasure";

And if their mother is "weak and likes to complain", their father is too "strong and doesn't care about home".

They will strongly show the femininity of "eating a peach".

In fact, the most direct reason why Cancer likes "house" or "house" is that she thinks badly of everything, so she has a natural fear of "people".

She doesn't like good friends, good relationships with others and family. Lovers are too close to others.

Even, she doesn't like people coming to her house.

Because of this, she will feel "unsafe".

In fact, these all originated from her "family" when she was young, and they were the people who hurt her the most.

They often ignore the "self-esteem" generated by the "delicacy and sensitivity" of the little cancer, and criticize her, often in front of many people.

So it is difficult for them to "trust a person" in their hearts.

When "don't trust others", the natural view is that it is best to keep a distance of "not too far and not too close" from anyone.

So: they will not be so "self-demanding"; They will also ask their "people around them" to follow this model.

So many times, the more "home" Cancer is, the more afraid of "strangers"; The more afraid I am of getting close to more people.

The more "wise": Cancer, who likes to help others but refuses others to help herself, may be criticized by more families when she is young.

Therefore, in Cancer, you can see her parents' temper: the easier you worry, the less praise you get when you are young.

The more prone to "temper ups and downs", the more powerful her "father" is.

The more likely cancer is to "show confidence", in fact, it only reflects that when she was young, her "father" was more likely to neglect her family.

So, if your child is a cancer, don't compare her with others. Praise her personality, spend more time with her and tap her talents.

I believe this is what cancer needs most.

The above is the author's analysis of the relationship between Cancer's personality tag and her "mother".

At the end of the article, thank you for reading and look forward to your enthusiastic interaction!

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