Stepmother's most difficult constellation

Stepparents are the hardest. What I am most afraid of is that I can't integrate into this child's life, and I will always be regarded as a bad person who broke into their home by the child. Such a day is a kind of pain for several people. Only by grasping the essence and becoming relatives with my children can I be further recognized by my children.

As stepfathers and stepmother, we should treat them as our own children. For example, we should play some interactive games with them to make them feel the harmony between parents and children. This is the most important way of communication. In addition, we should treat children fairly, and should not favour one over the other. Prepare two copies of everything to make them realize that the two children receive the same love.

Treat both children equally, we must pay special attention to this aspect and treat both children equally. When children have conflicts, they should be educated first, and consumption such as eating, drinking and having fun must be absolutely fair.

Even if it is only a short time to spend with your children, you should take a long-term view. How can I get it? You can only give advice through your lifelong experience of contacting these children in reality. Only with this experience and this perspective can you give advice. This should not be out of an obligation, but a need.

Education is not just about taking care of this child by one person, but the whole society should cooperate to take care of this child. And everyone has their own different horizons, and everyone's pace is different. Just like the speed of speaking and thinking, I have my rhythm and you have your rhythm. We should find the third rhythm together. This is the wisdom we cultivate with our children.