On the love between teachers and students

In Jingjing campus, in addition to getting along with classmates day and night, boys and girls have the most contact with the knowledgeable and inculcated teachers in the school. Teachers are enthusiastic about teaching and care about students, so they often bring students a lot of fantasy, worship and even love. Therefore, the love between teachers and students has always been endless. However, since ancient times, teachers have been positioned as elders who are responsible for preaching, teaching and dispelling doubts, and the relationship with students is also different from top to bottom, so the love between teachers and students is a long-lasting and controversial topic. You can also see it when you turn on the TV or open the newspaper. In addition, there are many teachers and students who have been dealt with by the school but have not shown their faces, keeping a good secret and not making it public. The fever continues. More complicated, teacher-student love is often associated with sexual assault.

Love between teachers and students, I believe many people have heard of it, and even seen it. From Qiong Yao's Out of the Window to the movie Farewell to the Classroom, from Lu Xun and Xu Guangping in the 1930s to Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan in the new century, the love between teachers and students is a lasting way of love. However, most people often accept that the love between teachers and students is a love story or a literary work, but there are many controversies about what happens around them. The love between teachers and students is not a special phenomenon, but a very normal and universal phenomenon. In the contact between teachers and students, it is easy to have some strange feelings. In front of students, teachers keep the image of "mentor and friend" and abide by the moral requirements of "learning to be a teacher and be a model". Therefore, teachers in general are very meaningful and kind to students, especially mature male teachers are more attractive to girls. The temperament of a mature male teacher is definitely not what boys of the same age as girls have. As for female teachers, caring about students makes boys feel extremely warm. Most female teachers are kind and gentle in the eyes of boys. Adolescent students are in a period of psychological fluctuation and irritability, and often feel lonely and helpless in their hearts. Teachers' care is easy to make them dependent. As a group of teachers, caring for students is a habit. Moreover, the dependence of students can easily make teachers have a strong sense of responsibility, so they can't stop.

Psychological analysis of teacher-student love in editing this paragraph

Boys and girls studying at school have the most contact with teachers besides getting along with their classmates day and night. Teachers' profound knowledge, elegant demeanor, humorous talk, patient and sincere teaching care can often touch the hearts of boys and girls. Compared with people of the same age, teachers are more mature; They have more dignity than their parents.

Teachers occupy a special position in the minds of boys and girls, and boys and girls will have special feelings for them.

This special feeling is hidden in my heart and may turn into a relationship with my teacher. Boys who are ashamed of confession usually have a crush on a young, lively and knowledgeable female teacher whom they admire and like, showing unrequited love. With the growth of age, the maturity of thoughts or the different love between teachers and students, their secret love may gradually fade away. Years later, when they get married and go back to their alma mater to visit their teachers, they may suddenly say, Teacher, you don't know how much I love you! It attracted a burst of laughter from teachers and students.

But girls are different. She is often devoted and obsessed with this feeling. A male teacher may become her idol. She will find opportunities to get close to her teacher, whether she is married or not. If the teacher also lacks reason or self-control, or gives birth to evil thoughts, there will be "teacher-student love". If the male teacher gets married and has his own family, then the girl will become a "third party" consciously or unconsciously.

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Like the love between the old and the young, most of the love between teachers and students will not have a happy ending. This is because:

The girl's thoughts and feelings are still in the immature stage, and she lacks understanding and discrimination of the teacher's background and personality. Most of them are impulsive and blind. Maybe the relationship is really warm. However, due to the lack of a solid foundation, it is difficult to last.

Falling in love in middle school is easy to be distracted and affects learning. A girl with a bright future may fall in love with her teacher and not be accepted by the people around her, and her feelings will be frustrated, so that she will neglect her studies and even drop out of school.

If a teacher has a family and plays the disgraceful role of a "third party", it will be opposed by the family and the school, condemned by public opinion and resented by the teacher's wife. These pressures will make it difficult for her to be a person in society.

It can be seen that "teacher-student love" is full of danger. The friendship between teachers and students is beautiful and moving because it is sincere and pure. There are countless touching stories about teachers and students in the society. If you have reverence and admiration for your teacher, please cherish it and don't defile it with unreasonable desires and wrong behaviors. Once the friendship between teachers and students becomes teacher-student love or deviant behavior, it loses its beauty and purity.

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On the love between teachers and students from the perspective of society's expectation of teachers' role

(1) Other students who are not parties.

Judging from other students who are not parties, they may be inclined to object. One of the reasons for the opposition may be that he or she thinks that the teacher (the teacher concerned) will not be able to treat every student fairly; Secondly, they (or students) will be more suspicious of the teacher's moral integrity, and they will also hold a distrustful attitude towards what he said.

(2) other teachers who are not parties.

From the perspective of other teachers who are not parties, they may be inclined to object. On the one hand, it may be because he or she thinks that the lofty moral image of teachers will be destroyed; At the same time, the relationship between teachers and students has also been challenged. In addition, they may question how teachers (customer teachers) can play their role as role models.

(3) Parents

From the standpoint of parents, they may be inclined to object. First, he (they) may think that school is a simple learning environment, so why is it so smoky? Secondly, from the standpoint of protection, he or she may think that students' mental development is not mature enough to fall in love at school; At the same time, it is precisely because of this (students' mental development is not yet mature) that whenever there is a love between teachers and students, there must be the temptation and incitement of the teachers involved. This logical deduction can protect their children from public criticism. )

(d) school administration system

From the point of view of school management system, they may be inclined to oppose it. The reasons why they will object can probably be divided into one, such behavior will damage the reputation of the school; Second, such behavior has a bad exemplary role.

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Four most famous teacher-student relationships in China.

Celebrities marry students. Personally, I think this trend began in the late Qing Dynasty. After the western powers opened the door of feudal China with guns, the awakened gentry's children went to Japan, Europe and America to study. These young intellectuals who returned to China after finishing their studies not only retained the Confucian tradition, but also absorbed the advanced western culture, which led to the emergence of a large number of scholars who studied both Chinese and Western cultures in modern history. The west wind spread eastward, and private schools became schools. The girl walked out of the embroidered building and boudoir door and began to enter the school to receive modern education. This gives them access to many charming and knowledgeable teachers. Nowadays, it is very common for teachers to marry young students. Today we will talk about why celebrities like to marry students.

1, Lu Xun and Xu Guangping

When Xu Guangping was a sophomore at Beijing Women's Normal University (1923), she was able to witness Lu Xun's elegant demeanour with her own eyes because the school invited a part-time teacher from Peking University. At that time, Mr Lu Xun taught them a brief history of China's novels. Several years later, Xu Guangping recalled the feeling of the first class and wrote: "For a long time, the students were awake. It was a breeze in early spring. People blew from the cold world and felt a little warm in the darkness ... "Xu Guangping was not the only one who was deeply impressed by Mr. Lu Xun's first class for female students.

A year later, Xu Guangping finally took the initiative to write a letter to Mr. Wang, vaguely sounding out, of course. Mr. Wang is a master of language. How can he not read the love between the lines? Mr. Lu Xun wrote back that night, calling him "Brother Guangping", which made Xu Guangping, 26, sleepless. As can be seen from the later published Book of Two Places, these two lovely teachers and students were playing word games at first, playing hide-and-seek with each other, and finally broke the paper, so Mr. Lu Xun married Xu Guangping, who was 18 years younger than himself.

2. Shen Congwen and Zhang Zhaohe.

Shen Congwen is somewhat different from other teachers, students and couples. He grabbed the ground and got his student Zhang Zhaohe. If he plays word games like Mr. Lu Xun, he will never succeed-because the boys who pursue Zhang Zhaohe have a platoon. He also has self-knowledge. In the eyes of female students, he is just a "scholar", because compared with those professors who came back from abroad, he has no capital at all, just a poor scholar in Xiangxi, Hunan who only attended primary school. But for Mr. Hu Shi's thirst for talent, he would never have met Zhang Zhaohe, the "white swan".

Zhang Zhaohe was born in a noble family in the south of the Yangtze River. His father is very rich. How can such a young lady put Shen Congwen's rustic hat in her eyes? However, Shen Congwen fell in love with Zhang Zhaohe from the beginning, wrote love letters crazily and threatened to die. Finally, President Hu Shi came forward, and Zhang Zhaohe reluctantly agreed. 1933, 3 1 year-old Shen Congwen married Zhang Zhaohe, who was older than himself in small 8, for life.

3. Yu and Malan

Although Malan has not listened to Mr. Yu's class in class, he should be regarded as his student. After graduating from Anhui Art School, Malan was assigned to Huangmei Opera Theatre. Yu Xiansheng is the dean of Shanghai Theatre Academy, and he should be on the same line.

When Malan became famous with the performance of Yan Fengying, a senior in the art world gave her a book and told her that she must read it when she was engaged in drama. This book is Mr. Yu's "artistic creation project". It was this book that made Malan know Mr. Yu, who is sixteen years older than him. They started their love by discussing the book.

4. Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan

The combination of Yang Zhenning and Weng Fan has given modern China people a great topic. The two met more than ten years ago. Although the difference is 54 years old, in Weng Fan's eyes, Professor Yang Zhenning is full of energy, and he speaks, acts and thinks quickly. He has all the charm of a man except his age. Cupid's arrow left her with no escape but to surrender sweetly. Weng Fan wrote a love letter to express his love and finally got married.

The love between teachers and students is because of the deep soil. In the process of contact between teachers and students, it is easy to have some strange feelings. In front of students, teachers keep the image of "mentor and friend" and abide by the moral requirements of "learning to be a teacher and be a model". Therefore, ordinary teachers are very meaningful and kind in the eyes of students, especially mature male teachers are more attractive to girls. Mature male teachers have temperament, which is definitely not available to boys the same age as girls. Celebrities are teachers, and female students are worshipped from the beginning, with sparkling eyes. So, why do celebrities like to marry students? As can be seen from the above example:

First, celebrities still don't want to get rid of the traditional psychology that men in China are willing to marry.

Female students are younger than teachers, but some teachers are about the same age as students. However, there are few successful examples of teachers and students of similar age, and the success rate is high if the age gap is large. First of all, it is because of women's preference for boys, so it doesn't matter if men are in their teens or even twenties. As for celebrities, it is a beautiful thing for China men to marry since ancient times, which can greatly satisfy a man's psychology;

Second, like-minded, have the feeling of bosom friend.

It's hard to imagine that the age difference between teachers and students would have entered the marriage hall if they didn't share the same interests. Xu Guangping was fascinated by his love of literature and listened to Lu Xun's lecture on literature. If Zhang Zhaohe had no interest in literature, Shen Congwen would not agree. I study drama, and Malan studies acting. They must have a wide space for discussion, so it's strange that they hit it off.

Third, celebrities are actually very lonely and easily moved.

Celebrities are professional lunatics. They may be out of tune with other social groups and feel lonely because of lack of intimate friends. At this time, if careful female students approach him, they will often discuss topics of common interest with the teacher in the name of seeking advice, and the teacher will appreciate the present. If the female students still care about the teacher from the details of life, the teacher will think that this is a good candidate for "my wife." There is more contact between teachers and students, and when the fire comes, it is often students who show their love on their own initiative (only Shen Congwen is as attentive as bandits in western Hunan), and the teacher readily accepts it!

Fourth, once married, celebrities still have psychological advantages for a long time. Since the wife is a student, the student's wife must sing along with her husband. Because they are the same topic, they are in a state of love, so they are also bosom friends; He is also an assistant in his career. Just like secretaries, many celebrities only took on the responsibility of collecting, sorting out and publishing information after the death of their first wives. Only the students' wives can do this patiently.

Edit the twelve constellations index of the teacher-student relationship.

The teacher-student relationship index of Aries is 85.

Aries rules a person's character. The typical character is Britney Spears. You often foolishly think that enthusiasm can save the world, because your other name is hero, but when you find that you have failed or you can't protect yourself, you will be angry. Therefore, such impatience can easily be called because you have a heroine who looks like Qiong Yao's works or a Kimura Takuya-style teacher!

Taurus has a teacher-student relationship index of 45.

Taurus is in charge of a person's values, and money, self-worth, possession and resources are all in charge of Taurus. Taurus students hate making trouble, because if they fail in the exam, they will spend money to float away, or block their way to get rich (such as passing the international trade exam). You will be very sensible to take attractive teachers to heart, and it is more practical to fall in love when you grow up.

Gemini's teacher-student relationship index is 78.

Gemini is in charge of a person's mind, including students' writing, reading, speaking, teaching and Gemini. They have a good mind and a high intention to learn, so such students are easy and knowledgeable (of course! Five years later, maybe I don't think so. Teachers have admiration. If the teacher is friendly and laughs, Gemini students will soon be shocked.

Cancer's teacher-student relationship index is 90 points.

Cancer is the root cause, and all families, especially fathers, are the root cause. Therefore, if you have Oedipus complex, you will certainly have love for the teacher like your mother's father, and not only the teacher, but also the special feelings developed by your dependence on your boss and superiors when you leave society. You are an irrelevant high-risk group, so be careful!

Leo's teacher-student relationship index is 40 points.

Leo is responsible for entertainment. Love, children, games, creativity and sports are all controlled by lions. Love between teachers and students is not fun for you, because you prefer the feeling of being with your peers, which is more like the taste of the same country. You care about the same country more than anyone else. As for teachers, they are simply aliens.

Virgo's teacher-student relationship index is 59.

Virgo is in charge of work, health and proper diet, so it can certainly be avoided under the premise of unhealthy love between teachers and students. Pragmatic Virgo students are more critical teachers than teachers, and they are very comprehensive in their requirements. Virgos are easily provoked by lust, but have you ever heard the word patience?

Libra's teacher-student relationship index is 55 points.

Libra is in charge of cooperation, so it is like a slightly fixed lover, a fixed partner and a marriage palace in 12. In other words, it is better to be friends with teachers than to fall in love with them. On the one hand, it can win the reputation of making friends all over the world, on the other hand, it can consolidate the friendship between teachers and students. Moreover, if Libra students already have good boyfriend and girlfriend, he will introduce them to the teacher to be friends together. Therefore, Libra students' teacher-student love index is not high, but

Scorpio's teacher-student relationship index is 95.

Scorpio rules sex, death, rebirth, metaphysics, other people's money and business. This is a very strange constellation. Either Plato was energetic or emotional. They fell in love not only with teachers and students, but also with Scorpio. Scorpio students tend to act selfishly in the name of love. If you have such a stubborn classmate around you, please be sure to show sympathy for him and take the opportunity to severely punish him.

Sagittarius's teacher-student relationship index is 85 points.

Sagittarius is in charge of mental development, spiritual connection, high learning ability and books, so a well-educated teacher naturally becomes a kind of knowledge symbol. Sagittarius people are prone to idolatry, and they are not only prone to love between teachers and students, such as movies, libraries, great men and encyclopedias. These are all easy to get involved with him, but it is this deep love that makes this horse fall in love constantly and make a trip in vain.

Capricorn's teacher-student relationship index is 75.

Capricorn symbolizes career, public recognition, intention and mother. Pragmatic Capricorn can be said to be ambitious and pragmatic, and they are also the type that easily falls in love with authority. However, a down-to-earth Capricorn usually doesn't spend time waiting for an uncommitted future or putting all your eggs in one basket. If he is willing to wait, it is only possible to issue a letter of guarantee.

Aquarius teacher-student relationship index 60 points.

Aquarius is in charge of social creativity, friends, hopes and dreams. This strange student is hard for the teacher to fall in love with, but it is easy for the teacher to have a headache. Sometimes it is whimsical, sometimes it is offensive, and sometimes it is learning. This is a constellation that began to understand very late. Unless the teacher is also a freak, it will only be annoying.

Pisces teacher-student relationship index 92 points.

Pisces rules the spiritual realm, withdrawal, fantasy and unconsciousness. Recently, Bobby Chen sang there: "Pisces women never blame others' fault ..." Bobby Chen is a Scorpio, so naturally he has different views on fish, but ask those who love fish who are not crazy by him. It is a wrong fish in itself, as sensitive as electricity and eager for love. If your Pisces friend said to you with innocent eyes that day, "He is right, it's all my fault ..." I suggest you tell him calmly, "Yes, you are wrong! But can you correct your mistakes? "