Why does Cancer love to trap people so much?

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Why does Cancer love to trap people so much?

Cancer loves to set up a person, which is recognized by everyone. No one has any objection, right? Then why does he love to set people up so much? First of all, basically most cancers are nesting animals. He built a nest. He made his own nest very well and put all the good things in it ... So, when you go to see Life in Cancer. You will find that most cancers have almost the same performance, that is, staying at home. He likes to stay at home, stay with his family, fall in love, love others and take care of them. These are nesting behaviors for him.

Cancer lacks an innate sense of security, and that nest is very important to him. This nest is not exactly a real house. Or his psychological destination, his nesting is generally around some kind of emotional relationship. For example, parents, children and lovers are all possible. He likes to keep his family, lover and people in good order and take good care of them. However, he wants to show these to others, and everyone who shows them should pay attention to this!

For example, like some other constellations, they love to take care of people and are good at managing people. But he doesn't show it to anyone … he takes care of people behind closed doors, right? But cancer is not cancer. All his nesting behavior, caring behavior, dealing with emotional relationships, or sweet state, he needs to show others. This is an important factor for him to find his own sense of security and life support. He needs external evaluation to give him support and security.

For example, you see, I keep my house so tidy and take care of my partner and children so well that he wants to show off his nesting fruit. This brings a problem. Cancer shows off intimacy and nesting behavior, which often leads to the formation of people. If you pay attention to observation, you will find that some cancers always have such a good couple.

For example, in the Stars, in the previous chapter or in the present Philippines, all men will be set, right? These are actually their heartfelt feelings: you see, I have handled this relationship very well, and I should show it off. After showing off, people will find that I am actually a good person and he will feel satisfied. So Cancer, he will always set up a person for himself, no matter what it is, but it is basically related to intimate relationship.

Whether it is a good man, a good woman, a good wife, a good husband or an uncle's infatuation, so-and-so single and so on. There will be, but he will easily collapse. Why is he prone to artificial collapse? Because cancer has a strong sense of territory. Although Scorpio also forms a domain, the domain of Scorpio and Cancer is quite different. Cancer has a strong sense of territory, which brings a point that it is very defensive to outsiders and has strict personal boundaries.

Like Scorpio, he has the concept of territory, but his personal boundaries are not so strict. The personal boundaries of Cancer are very strict. If you don't enter his border, you don't belong to his nest. He is actually very wary of any tentative approach from you. He may not attack you, but he is very vigilant. Cancer is very territorial, which brings a little bit, which is also manifested in other constellations.

You will think that Cancer is not easy to approach, and it is too vivid socially. So cancer is actually a fake social lover … this is a bit like Gemini. What is a fake social lover? It's like being more emotional and sociable than Cancer, but he's not interested in socializing. There is not much interest in making friends with others. So many people think that Cancer is not so accessible and kind, so many people are unwilling to tolerate Cancer ... You will find that Cancer is the least tolerated among the twelve constellations.

For example, some people say that Scorpio is also difficult to approach, or Capricorn is also difficult to approach. Yes, but Capricorn doesn't need to be tolerated because of his fighting personality, so you just have to accept him. If you get a little closer to Scorpio, you will know that Scorpio is very kind and easy to be deceived. But cancer is not. Cancer, he is independent and persistent, and the boundaries are still firm, and he is not allowed to be approached. On the contrary, he pretends to be a sociable person who loves to make friends. But he pretended.

This makes people unwilling to tolerate him. So ... this time brings another big problem, that is, cancer likes to show off. Show off your feathers, show off your intimate relationship, and so on. So when he builds a personal design, whether he is a good man, a good woman or a strong man, he is very professional in the workplace, he is good at housekeeping, and so on. When he was building his personal design, the onlookers were already waiting for his personal design to collapse.

It can be seen that the relationship between cancer and its side is often not as good as imagined. Many people will even take the initiative to prove that he is not established, thinking that he is not a good person, but he is not so strong in his career. In fact, he is not that rich, and so on, someone will specifically destroy his personnel. So why does Cancer always make people feel that he has built a personal design, but this personal design will definitely collapse? This is the reason … why does Cancer want to shape her personal design and show off?

It's simple, because his insecurity needs external evaluation to support it. So he must determine his own value: I am a very valuable person. He wants to get positive comments from others, which is why he wants to show off these relationships and establish personal design. But it often backfires. After all, not everyone is kind. Some people have a bad relationship with cancer and don't tolerate cancer. He just wants to make a fool of himself. You said you were excellent, and I hope to find the opposite of you. Over time, this will cause many cancers to turn black slowly …