How to comfort the sad Scorpio

Have you ever experienced such a panic: your good friend suddenly suffered misfortune, and she was immersed in heartbreaking pain, but you didn't know how to comfort her?

Take a deep breath. You can do it.

1. Don't say, "God won't let you suffer any more."

If this person has a firm belief in God, this sentence implies a meaning: that is, if you can't handle this matter well, you must have no firm belief, not a devout Christian and so on.

2. Don't say, "I think all this may be the best result."

God, don't say that! This person who is immersed in grief does not think that everything is a good result unless her closest relatives can be resurrected.

For example, "I really don't know why."

3. Don't say anything.

People around him ignored his pain, which may be one of the worst things for the injured person. If you don't know what to say, or you're not sure if he wants to say it, just say it.

For example, "I don't know what to say, but I'm always by your side."

4. Don't say "He went to a better place" or "Be happy, he doesn't suffer anymore."

The original intention of these words is really good, but the bereaved still want their loved ones around, no matter what kind of pain their loved ones have and how troublesome it is to take care of them.

We said, "You must miss him very much."

Don't say, "I know exactly how you feel."

We always say this, but remember that even if you lose a loved one, everyone's life journey is different, so you can't fully know how others feel.

For example, "I really can't understand how you feel now."

6. Don't say, "You will be all right soon."

This is a hypothetical sentence, actually from your point of view, not your friend's point of view, because you don't want to see your friend immersed in pain any more, so you will feel better. But don't forget that you didn't ease her pain.

For example, "As long as you need me, I will always be here."

7. Don't say, "You should ..."

Everyone has his own way of dealing with pain, so it's no use not giving her advice or telling her how to mourn or what to do to alleviate the pain.

Let's just say, "mourn in your own way, and I will do my best to support you."

8. Don't say, "She doesn't want to see you so sad."

Watch out! This sentence may cause the other person's guilt. Even if this sentence is true, it will only make others feel that they should not be sad, and they have not dealt with sadness in the right way.

For example, "I know you are sad and miss her very much."

9. Don't say, "Keep yourself busy, and you will get better soon."

This is a kind of indifference to the feelings of others. No matter how well-intentioned you are, it is really useful to say these words when others are sad, but remember not to use the tone of command.

For example, "it's a good idea to keep yourself busy when I'm sad, but I don't know if it applies to you."

10. Don't say, "It's time to cheer yourself up."

Everyone mourns in different ways, so maybe it's not time for her to pack up and cheer up. "

We said, "I know you're tired today. Can I bring you some dinner at 6 o'clock in the evening? "

1 1. Don't say, "If you need my help, just say so."

Many times, the sad person doesn't know what help she needs, or it is difficult for her to ask for help. Give some concrete suggestions and ask her if this is ok. It may be more practical and effective.

For example, "Today is the day to throw garbage. Let me help you take out the garbage. "

Remember what you should say and comfort your friends in sorrow. Not only will you feel better, but you will also help her out of her pain.