How to shorten the distance quickly by chatting with the opposite sex?

Try not to talk too much about third-party topics, and try to control the topic to "you", "he" and "you".

What is a t

How to shorten the distance quickly by chatting with the opposite sex?

Try not to talk too much about third-party topics, and try to control the topic to "you", "he" and "you".

What is a third-party topic? It refers to a topic that has nothing to do with you and the other party. For example, Hawking's death, alas, this topic is very hot, and all kinds of newspapers and media WeChat official accounts are talking about this topic. If you want this topic to be so hot, I'll talk to him.

In fact, this is completely wrong. This has nothing to do with you or him. Besides, you are not interested in the topic itself. You went to talk to him about Hawking just to find a topic to "chat" with him. But he can't help you further. Many people have been chatting with the opposite sex until one day, the other person doesn't want to talk to you and can't talk anymore. That's the reason-you spend too much time talking about these unimportant things, which not everyone can talk about.

Then think about it. On the other hand, if a person comes to tell you about the American election every day, that the China rocket has gone up into the sky, and that this so-and-so star has cheated again, you will also feel bored.

Maybe you will chat with each other out of courtesy at first, but as time goes on, you will become impatient and reply to messages less and less frequently. Come to think of it, this situation seems familiar.

So this is what I want to say, don't talk too much about third-party topics.

Note that it is not completely impossible, because chatting is actually a relatively casual thing, and sometimes there may be some transitions or interruptions between topics. Third-party topics may be used at this time. But as the main content of your chat, it should definitely not be it. So I said, try not to talk about third-party topics.

People are interested in themselves and things around them and are willing to talk. So you should focus on you, him or you. It's easy to understand, such as what kind of person you love and what kind of personality, right? Including what constellation you are and what do you like to do? What kind of man do you like? What kind of person is he?

Usually there are many girls, and some students talk to me, but I usually don't have time. One day, a student calculated eight characters. I found it interesting when I heard it. I also specifically asked my family when I was born, and then we chatted all night.

I don't believe this at all, but why did I talk to her all night? Because everyone always cares about themselves. If she wants to talk to me about what new movies are showing recently, I will definitely ignore her.

Then I was curious, too, why she learned these things. Then we talked about her. I was particularly impressed with her after the chat. She is no longer the embodiment of cold.

You see, is this relationship closer?

What do you mean? For example, you have close friends or experiences. For example, where have you traveled before and where have you studied? For another example, you all like minority literary films. These are also things that are closely related to you.

Most importantly, talking about "you", "he" and "you" can help you get closer.