12 constellation self-help guide: Taurus cares too much about "is it worth it?"

Welcome to this new series of twelve constellations. This time, we will discuss a slightly serious topic. What dif

12 constellation self-help guide: Taurus cares too much about "is it worth it?"

Welcome to this new series of twelve constellations. This time, we will discuss a slightly serious topic. What difficulties will the twelve constellations face in the process of growth because of their inherent characteristics? What personality factors will bring you some negative effects, and you need to consciously overcome them in order to grow. In particular, the constellation itself may not be aware of the problem, or it is a problem that is really aware but unwilling to face. In short, I'm going to talk about everyone's shortcomings.

I have written many series before, and I will emphasize to you that this is just the characteristic or thinking habit of this constellation. Many times, when analyzing the two constellations, I will try my best to teach you some ways to understand each other and accept the running-in, because I don't think many of them are shortcomings, and I can't say who is right or wrong and who has to correct them. But the problems mentioned in this series, I think we really need to pay attention to them. If you want to grow up, you may have to cross that obstacle. Some of them, if allowed to develop or go to extremes, will have a huge and long-term impact. So I said this series will be more serious. I don't want to scare everyone. I hope everyone will listen patiently —— Excerpts from Xiao Yang's Life Lecture Hall of "A cliche" and "Seriously".

Today is the second issue of this series. Let's talk about Taurus.

Always only care about practical significance.

Taurus is a real constellation. I don't think I need to say much about this. It is something that everyone and Taurus themselves recognize. But what I want to talk about today is actually not material, mainly because I think the pursuit of material will basically not hinder our growth, and even often it is the driving force for our growth. In order to pursue a better life, Taurus must learn new abilities, adapt to the new environment and become a better person. For a concrete example, Taurus friends around me have a bottom line for the amount of money on their bank cards. Once below this figure, they will be extremely anxious, forcing them to try new routes and find new methods. It can be said that the growth of Taurus's ability depends on their material needs, which has achieved themselves and objectively promoted others.

The real problem I want to talk about is that Taurus also pursues reality in the expression and shaping of emotions, and overemphasizes reality. They will convince themselves to get rid of some "meaningless" emotions that are not conducive to their survival. I think most people can feel that Taurus is not good at expressing, and rarely see Taurus's emotions out of control. They usually maintain a unified behavior pattern and are particularly stable. So the heart of Taurus really won't go wrong? If there is a door in Taurus where everyone can walk in, I guess it's really messy. The soul of Taurus can fly freely. But their souls are always under the control of reason, and reason has mastered their actions. Almost every time Taurus wants to release the wild soul, he has to ask himself if it is necessary.

Moreover, this kind of thinking controls the heart, thus changing the behavior pattern, which is the price of Taurus's growth. For example, a naturally lively Taurus may adapt to the serious working environment around him. For example, when I work, I am more rigorous and less active. I can still restore my nature without a working environment. If Taurus hits a wall once or twice at work for personality reasons, it is likely that the whole thing will change. They feel at ease that there is no need to take the initiative, and becoming a serious person is their own growth. As long as people around you like themselves more, feel that they are doing well and can adapt to the present environment, even if they don't like themselves, that's a good thing. This is how Taurus has been thinking, is this way of expressing emotions meaningful? If not, then self-digest, suppress the inner cry, others have no chance to know.

The inevitable influence of family background.

In fact, I know many Taurus who look quite rebellious and flamboyant. But they still have a very traditional family concept in their bones. For example, in the process of interacting with a person, they must observe your concept of family, your view of family and your view of marriage. This is an important criterion for them to measure whether a relationship should continue. Even if Taurus is willing to defend you, you cannot challenge his family. If you ask Taurus whether to respect love or family, they all answer that I should respect my feelings and follow my heart. But ask a little, if you want to have a particularly difficult life with your family, what should you do? They generally can't stick to the original statement.

Everyone's growth will naturally be influenced by their family background, but the fetters of Taurus are really unprecedented. As mentioned earlier, Taurus is a person who constantly seeks laws in his growth and constantly adjusts his behavior patterns and inner thoughts in order to adapt to the environment. They emphasize their adaptability to the surrounding areas. Therefore, this kind of family has an indelible influence on their whole personality shaping in addition to their own attention to family ties. It can be said that his innate persistence, ideal life and planning the life path he wants to take are all formed step by step. Unless you can join the life of Taurus as soon as possible, become a part of them and adapt yourself to the whole thing, otherwise, you can basically only choose to join.

I think this will become an obstacle to the growth of Taurus, because it is too difficult for Taurus to get rid of these constraints, so you can only pray that the influence of family background on yourself is positive in general, otherwise it will easily become a dead end, and with Taurus's temper, you may not expect it at all. Pain is one thing, and turning a corner is a hundred reluctance.

Generally speaking, Taurus is too lazy to move because of its strong inertia, so every step of growth may be very important. If this range is not wide enough from the beginning, it will be a bit difficult to break through. Then they put too much emphasis on practical significance, and many changes may not see good results at once, nor will they act rashly. Sometimes getting a chance to grow is just an impulse.