My boyfriend hit me in front of my parents.

Honey, I just want to be happy. Hello. After reading your story, my heart suddenly filled with sadness. Such a thing must make your heart hurt more than your body, and you are very distressed. At the same time, you are angry with your boyfriend's behavior.

At first, you mentioned that you thought your boyfriend had a domestic violence. Generally speaking, women's descriptions of domestic violence are so direct that they must be threatened by violence. The story that your boyfriend described attacked your father, scolded you, and later regretted asking for forgiveness is a very typical manifestation of domestic violence. I believe you have also seen a very classic TV series "Don't talk to strangers" which describes domestic violence. This is a very realistic TV series, which shows how domestic violence appears, escalates and intensifies. The escalation of the hero's violence is ultimately a big mistake under the softening and forgiveness of the heroine. In addition, the famous Li Yang family violence case some time ago can also give you some inspiration.

From a psychological point of view, the perpetrators of domestic violence have a serious inferiority complex, which shows that they are very responsible for outsiders, friends, families and careers. Generally, others evaluate him as "a very good person", but the deep fragility and pressure will be manifested in intimate relationships. Often, after each violence, he will ask the other party for forgiveness, and the next violence will escalate and fall into a vicious circle.

Dear girl, although you are a victim, you must tell yourself psychologically that violence is absolutely intolerable! Domestic violence is often a manifestation of the distorted relationship between the two sides of intimate relationship, and it is a wake-up call to remind you that you must end this relationship. Numerous cases of domestic violence tell us that no matter how much you love each other, domestic violence (which has deteriorated to your father in your case) is absolutely intolerable. There is no room for manoeuvre in this relationship, and it is an abyss to continue.

Let him go. His current level of violence can no longer be improved through the treatment of both sides, such as drug addiction and internet addiction. Your love has no effect on him who is addicted to violence. Of course, if you like, you can advise him to do psychotherapy (you can leave him a letter).

I deeply understand that breaking up this relationship is a very painful choice for you, and the psychological tendency is to repair the relationship as the leading factor, but in the face of domestic violence, you must bravely and firmly say "no!" . Finally, due to his threat to you, the following suggestions may be helpful for your protection:

1. If you can, try to leave your present living environment with him and stay with your parents (your father is admirable! )。 Try to disappear from his life completely and change all contact information.

2. Strengthen yourself psychologically, tell yourself that you are not afraid of his threats (generally, people who have domestic violence are just harsh in mouth and weak in action, which is also related to inferiority), bravely face violence, take the initiative to learn more about domestic violence, watch videos or better TV dramas.

3. Leave yourself a period of solitude and freedom, tidy up your life and prepare for the future life. This is a difficult but necessary process. If necessary and willing, you can join some meditation groups or talk to a psychological counselor to help you make a better transition.

When necessary, we must protect ourselves by legal means.

Honey, you're not alone. Let us help you get out of the predicament of domestic violence and live a better life!

I wish you a new life!

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