What is the psychology of people who don't cry or feel sad after the death of their loved ones?

I can't help crying when my loved one dies. Don't cry, don't be sad, or you can't cry without feelings; Either you are strong-willed, you have an extraordinary internal sword, and you hide your pain in your heart.

People's emotional expression is different. Generally speaking, women who are emotionally fragile and sentimental are more sensitive to sadness and joy. As soon as you touch the scene, you are prone to tears. My lover belongs to this type, not to mention the loss of relatives, that is, the elders who participated in mourning for colleagues and friends, tears still gushed out, even when watching TV dramas at home, they would cry from beginning to end. When my brother-in-law died unexpectedly, she reacted more strongly than my sister-in-law did. She cried mindlessly and couldn't even persuade her.

Compared with women's fragile emotional nerves, some experienced men have relatively deep emotional release. Maybe it's because men don't cry easily, or they have looked down on life and death, or they are distracted by considering the funeral and seem numb to the death of their loved ones.

When grandma died, all the men, women and children in the big family were crying, but my uncle's eldest brother was busy with work and didn't shed a tear. The old aunt's observation is true, and she is very unhappy. She said the child was unworthy to be grandma's grandson, and was a baiwenhang. Later, my aunt also made a special explanation, saying that our big boy was born with deep eye sockets and didn't like to cry. Not only did he die, but he didn't cry when he was beaten. He didn't cry, but he had no feelings for grandma. He has his own way of venting. Hearing the news of grandma's death, he ran to the back of the house without saying a word, punched and kicked the old apricot tree and shouted at the sky. I can't eat again these two days, and I feel sad.

After the death of a loved one, mourning needs sad cries to set off the atmosphere. Especially in the vast rural areas, when the old man dies, he can't hear the cries of future generations, or his cries are not tragic enough, which will make people laugh and say that future generations are unfilial. In order to reflect the stronger grief atmosphere, some families with small population have to hire people to help them cry. If they cry well, they will get extra rewards.

Mourning the dead ancestors and crying is the release of true inner feelings. When the old man died in his early years, he was very particular about crying. When a person dies, the child will burn paper to send the thread every hour and cry every time he burns it. Not only should you cry, but you should also cry and cry. The louder the sound, the better, and the sadder the tone. To do this, you can't just shed tears, you must take out the singing and crying method and make a sad voice. Crying and cursing at the same time, the scene is extremely sensational and sad.

True crying and fake crying, crying and not crying are the core focus of people's discussion and evaluation of mourning standards after funeral. When the children and relatives of the deceased are crying, benevolent neighbors and guests will secretly observe and comment one by one. If the daughter of the deceased is extremely sad, out of control, or even lying on the ground crying, the old people will cast a approving look, and will regard this as a model of filial piety and spread the story widely in the corresponding scope. Daughter-in-law's funeral is often questioned as insincere, and excessive performance is regarded as hard-fitting, but not crying or shedding tears will be condemned by the older generation. How to balance the scales is also a very difficult thing.

Relatives die, and flesh and blood are separated. Sorrow and pain are human nature. Rational view of the problem of mourning, the answer should be in family. Feelings are deep, I can't help it, and I don't cry. Indifferent feelings, no tears in eyes, no need to squeeze, is also a true face of parting!

Not long ago, I went to express my condolences to a middle-level person. His father died last month and his mother died a few days ago. I sat in his office for a while and sent it to solatium. He took out his cigarette and we chatted while smoking. Originally, I went to express my condolences with deep feelings. As a result, my colleagues laughed and let me go. Talking about other things, we actually had a good time.

This colleague's parents are both over 80 years old. One has been paralyzed for many years, one has been cared for for for many years, and two children have been cared for for for many years. Everyone is tired, and family ties make them overwhelmed. Colleagues' children are also older, and it is very tiring to take care of parents and raise children. Colleagues said, don't comfort me, I think it's relief.

Mom left, and I came back from Beijing to see her for the last time. I cried so hard that tears could not bring back my mother's life. At the funeral three days later, I didn't cry or feel sad. I ended the farewell ceremony coldly and quietly, shaking hands with every relative and friend.

On the way back to Beijing, I cried all the way. I know that the person who loves me the most in this world has gone, and I am already a child without a mother in this world. I blamed myself all the way, why didn't I keep my promise before my mother died? I wanted to take my mother around the world, but I kept thinking about waiting for my mother to get better and better, and then my mother suddenly left. The tree wants to be quiet but the wind will not stop, and the son wants to be filial but not close. This taste, let me suffer for life.

As children, they are expected and prepared, especially city people, who are usually busy and exhausted from taking care of the elderly. The death of old people is a natural law. Everyone in this city understands. So, follow the laws of nature, don't be too sad, and accept this reality. In some rural areas, after the death of the old man, a funeral banquet will be held.

As a relative and friend, I have already made all kinds of preparations, and I have accepted this reality in my heart, and I often don't feel sad. Especially the kind of serious illness, the suffering of life, everyone suffers, and relief is inevitable. For example, in "Heaven", Wang plays an expert in stock trading and is extremely rational. Dad is in the hospital, and the doctor said, don't treat him. Ding Yuanying went through the discharge formalities, and his family called him cold-blooded. He only said that we should abide by heaven. In fact, Ding Yuanying is not cold-blooded, but pragmatic. He quietly left the money to his mother.

Not long ago, the company was very busy, so it was difficult to ask for leave. A 90-year-old asked for leave on the grounds of grandma's death. The boss must approve. As a result, she found it in her circle of friends, and she went back to her hometown to have a good time. This 90-year-old man was not brought up by his grandmother, and he is not close to his grandmother, but only "blood relationship." She was not sad, but went on a trip after the funeral.

I remember that my grandfather who raised me as a child died that year. When I saw him, he was already a cold corpse.

However, I didn't cry or feel too much sadness!

I am cursing myself. Can I be so cold-blooded?

I can't shed a tear in the face of the person who loves me the most in the world.

All I can think about is "why"? !

Why can you insist on studying in rural areas without food, drink or money?

Why can't you even afford a book, but you're still number one at home,

As a father of two children, why do you insist on going to college?

Why do you insist on going to Shanghai for free?

Why are you so strong? You gave up on yourself because of two operations!

Why did you struggle all your life and finally lie in bed for nearly 10 years!

Why do you care so much about others' eyes and choose to close yourself!

why ......

At that time, I had no other emotions except doubt and unwillingness.

However, it is only a matter of time before what should come will come.

More than a month later, on a quiet night, sadness suddenly struck, so strong, so strong.

Tears poured out like a flood, and all the thoughts and sorrows poured out.

I cried for a long, long time. ......

Sometimes, we are not numb, but even if we make all psychological preparations early, we still can't adapt to the departure of our loved ones, and it takes a long time to react, because in our hearts, it is difficult to accept this fact.

One afternoon more than half a year after grandpa died,

I passed by the hospital where he was on business.

As usual, I bought his favorite steamed stuffed bun and went to the hospital to see him as before.

I didn't react until I got out of the elevator.

Grandpa left, and I lost him forever. ......

And all that's left for me is missing!

There are three situations. When a relative dies, don't cry.

First of all, there is no affection for the deceased, the injury comes first, and all kinds of love and hate are intertwined. In this case, it's a draw to come!

The second is that children have never supported their parents, or their relatives have not fulfilled their obligations when they are sick again, so they will not cry in front of the dead, because there is only fear and guilt in their hearts!

The third category is that everything that can be done has been done, including the fact that the deceased tried to help each other with a clear conscience before his death, so he would not cry to express it. It is their idea to make the deceased happy and let the deceased let go!

What is the psychology of some people who don't cry or feel sad after the death of their loved ones? A: It's Buddha's heart.

There are many such sentient beings in China now, and their relatives never care or take care of them when they are alive. When their relatives died, they cried here and shed crocodile tears.

When a relative is alive, it is really useful to know how to love and care for her. What's there to cry about when he's dead?

If a loved one dies, a person here is crying and grieving, even if he hurts his lungs, he will suffer this crime himself.

Is every relative dead? You want to suffer for yourself?

Some relatives of all living beings have died, and they haven't thought about it day and night, and they have committed the crime of suppressing their thinking and hurting their spleen! I hurt myself, and finally I have to find a doctor to take medicine, and I have to find a psychologist like me to balance my mind.

If I answer this way, many sentient beings may complain, of course: if you don't know the ins and outs of a person, you will make such stupid behavior.

It is important to say it three times. When your loved ones are alive, you should care more about her and him, especially the elders.

Don't wait for the person you love to die, then come back and cry and pretend to be in front of all beings.

Even if you cry like a river, can your loved ones live? Even if you cry your tears into the sea, can your loved ones wake up again? Care at birth is the right way.

Namo amit Ba

In fact, this is a normal phenomenon, just a psychological phenomenon that happens to many people.

When we suddenly encounter something particularly sad and unbearable, in our body and mind, it will automatically establish a protective layer, which is equivalent to entering a defensive state. Unwilling to make you so sad is equivalent to deliberately escaping from this reality. When you suddenly receive the news of the death of a loved one, you will not choose to believe it subconsciously, and you will not be able to react for a while. At this time, in order not to make you sad, I will automatically block the news for you. Psychologically, if you don't want to accept this fact, he will slowly let you accept it, especially for people with a particularly poor sense of security. This kind of psychological automatic establishment of protected areas will happen, and you will be numb when you hear something particularly painful. But the more this time, you may not feel it yourself. In fact, you don't know what you are doing, and your brain is numb.

People close to them have such deep feelings when their loved ones die, so at the moment they get the news of their death, the first signal in their bodies is denial, followed by anger and sadness, which takes a long time to accept slowly. This transition from a questioning state to a final sad state requires the baptism of time. The moment they accept it, the moment they admit the truth. At this time, their hearts are the most painful. We can see that when important people die, some people often can't eat or sleep. They don't cry, but their pain is the most extreme.

Crying is a form of sadness, but some people have another form of expression when they are sad, that is, we say we are not sad without crying. All the sadness is suppressed in the heart, and the extreme sadness in the heart is solved by venting and not thinking.

In fact, such people are either heartless or cold-blooded. In fact, such people are the most painful, just hiding things in their hearts and not showing them on the surface. However, such people are actually very sensitive to feelings or family ties.

There are several possibilities for not crying or being sad after the death of a loved one:

1. I have no deep feelings for this relative, and even have a feud. After all, the word "relatives" doesn't mean that everyone is harmonious. There are many contradictions and mutual injuries between relatives.

In the face of great grief, the parties are emotionally isolated. Sad emotions are suppressed to their subconscious level because they can't bear it, so that they can't feel sadness. This is why some people can calmly take care of their own affairs and finish their work after their loved ones die. Without this psychological defense, they collapsed at that time.

Some people even forget when their loved ones died, but at that time, they will inexplicably feel bad.

Therefore, people who can cry to express their sadness after the death of their loved ones may recover faster. Those pains buried in the depths of the subconscious may slowly ferment at some time or moment in the future.

Don't be sad or cry after your loved ones die? This problem can be viewed from several aspects.

The first is the emergence of post-traumatic stress disorder. Post-traumatic stress disorder refers to the psychological disorder that individuals delay and persist after witnessing or suffering one or more catastrophic injuries to themselves or others. It is characterized by traumatic re-experience avoidance and numbness and increased alertness, such as the sudden death of a loved one. It is advisable to adopt the method of combining psychology and medicine for treatment. Most patients will recover within one year, and a few patients will not recover for many years, resulting in lasting psychological diseases.

The second is that you may not be close to your relatives, and you usually have less interaction with your deceased relatives, so that even if the other person dies, it will not cause inner sadness. However, this possibility is not great, but it is not ruled out.

The third is that it is possible that its self-knowledge is not complete, such as being young.

The fourth is their attitude towards this situation. Some people are prone to mood swings due to negative events in their lives, but some people are unmoved by such events. Generally speaking, this situation is also inseparable from the indifference of the living environment.

It's done.

"Qing Qiao psychology: a psychologist with a face value, content and temperature. 」

What an intimate word! They are our closest and favorite people, and we should love them all our lives!

The greatest pain in life is the death of a loved one. Since then, no one in the world can love us as selflessly as relatives. I won't. Each of us has our own relatives. I believe we know the pain of losing our loved ones! That suffocating feeling, really! It hurts! It hurts!

It is very sad and sad for each of us to leave our loved ones, but the way to express this sadness and sadness varies from person to person. Some people may say that people who don't cry and don't make trouble will not feel bad for the people they love! I think it is wrong for you to say so. Maybe it's just that they express sadness and pain in different ways, but it doesn't mean that they don't care about their loved ones, and they are not sad. Isn't there a song People who cry may not shed tears, but they still feel heartache!

Therefore, cherish everyone in your life, cherish the beautiful encounter, cherish this fate in this life, and maybe you will never see it again in the next life!

There seems to be something wrong with your question, which makes an inevitable hypothetical causal connection between one thing and another. The death of a loved one must be expressed by crying? In addition, not being sad is the theory of killing the heart, and crying can exist objectively, such as shedding tears. Sadness is an inner activity, which has many manifestations, not necessarily obvious.

At the same time, if that person is yourself, other answers such as post-traumatic stress disorder are also some good answers.