Once secret love is discovered, it will alienate you. Who is the constellation man?

When Aries likes a person, it will show the initiative that it doesn't usually have, and it won't express itself quickly. Aries is shy and reserved about the opposite sex. Love is a power competition, and they want to occupy a favorable position in this competition and become the party in control of power. Accepting others' likes may mean losing the initiative for them, because the other party can limit and hurt them by "not giving or taking back love". At the same time, they are also afraid that their dependence on each other will make them feel weak and dangerous. When we are insecure and have a low sense of self-worth, we will not only be disgusted because of disappointment, but even if the other person performs well, self-doubt and unworthy negative thinking will disgust us. This is a projection of our self-loathing.

In this case, even if we really get together in the future, the inner imbalance and anxiety will often lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and quarrels. When two people are attracted to each other, with the passage of time, they gradually expose their shortcomings consciously or unconsciously, only to find that the other party still has so many shortcomings. As a result, all the advantages were covered up by shortcomings, and when they could not see the advantages, they gradually became disgusted. If they reach the extreme of disgust, the other party is useless and there is no need to continue. People who hate in their hearts have a good impression on others, which is false and false.

Otherwise, if you are fond of others, how can you suddenly dislike them? This story doesn't make sense and can't be explained. The security of intimate relationship is influenced by personal security and intimacy. In other words, different people will have a sense of security in different intimacy with their lover, while individuals with poor security will have higher intimacy requirements, which need to be gradually improved with the progress of the relationship. When you feel avoidance and disgust, you should first seriously ask yourself whether this is my true feeling or my fear to suppress your strong sense of closeness and uncertainty about this relationship.