Only 30 years old: Chen Yu Qin Xiao wants to remarry after divorce. Why are the problems of husband and wife never different?

1. In everyone's eyes, and Zhong's "three views" are actually just different living habits. Before telling the story of He Zhong, it is necessary for us to know what the "three views" mean: outlook on life, values and world outlook. People who are different in these concepts will automatically become the opposite of each other, and their words are not speculative or contradictory. Give a simple example:

You like to travel during holidays, and he likes to stay at home and play games during holidays. This is not called "three views disagree"

He won't let you go if you don't travel, and he also tells you that traveling is not fun, that is, spending money to suffer. This is called "three views disagree."

So, is Harmony Clock "incompatible"?

Zhong likes cats but likes fish.

Zhong said, "It turns out that two people can do many interesting things together. Before, I thought I was not as interesting as your fish. You almost lied to me. " Chen Yu "sinks a fish", sinking is also a fish, and floating is also a fish. Like fish, Zhong likes cats. Cats and fish are originally the bottom of the food chain and the top of the food chain, which implies from the beginning that they will be "incompatible" after combining.

In their married life, they spent more time with fish than with clock. For the safety of fish, a "scholar" who has always been good-natured can immediately become a fried turkey. When the audience saw it, they were angry, and Zhong was even more wronged:

Zhong: "I fell into the water with the fish at the same time." Do you save me or the fish first? "

Chen Yu: "You are crazy. Take medicine if you are sick! " "

In fact, everyone has their own preferences. But you can't say that a man who likes fish and a woman who likes cats are "incompatible". Chen Yu likes fish because there is always a layer of glass between them. Because of his unfortunate childhood experience, his heart is always separated from others. But cats always cling to people, and the clock can take good care of Pikachu, so that Pikachu often "makes trouble".

Chen Yu physically rejected this feeling of being "violated", but he didn't throw away Pikachu either. On the contrary, after Pikachu lost, Chen Yu also posted the "Revelation of Finding Cats". Every time I come back from a business trip, I will also bring back a "lucky cat" to Zhong. He doesn't want to force his wife to sacrifice her preferences, but only wants her to worry about her cat.

Compared with the bell, and Xu Huanshan is "incompatible". Xu Huanshan was injured playing football, so Gu Jia felt that playing football was not good, and asked him to stop playing football for the sake of his children and the company. Xu Huanshan agreed, but his body honestly said no. That's why Lin was given a chance. Everyone has his own preferences. You have the right to stick to your own preferences, and so does your other half. The best relationship should be the equal coexistence of two different individuals, not the accommodation of one party and the strength of the other.

Rent and get married, and sweep the snow in front of each other.

And Zhong are called "shared marriages" because they are more like two roommates living together. Because the daughter-in-law and he are "brothers", washing clothes and eating separately? In addition, it is always ironic that Zhong goes back to her mother's house on a business trip and often complains that her mother-in-law comes to cook uninvited. I seldom answer the clock after work. Even if Xiao Qin calls him, he always has a "I'm busy" attitude.

Some netizens think that such a marriage is not as good as divorce. Marriage is when two people walk together. It is better not to get married than to get along like snow in front of each other. But in fact, their seemingly "snow in front of the door" is just a mistake in the running-in process.

Chen Yu only washes his own clothes because he washed Zhong's silk skirt when he first got married. And washing clothes is now a fully automatic washing machine, so you don't have to do it yourself. Washing more and washing less will not cause "lumbar muscle strain"; I don't like Zhong, a 30-year-old man who can't cook. He had to live with his mother's family when he was on a business trip. His mother-in-law often comes to clean the house and cook. It does make people feel uncomfortable, but there is no need to say "incompatible".

Zhong grew up in the hands of his parents. Her parents have been used to taking care of her for more than 20 years, and Qin Xiao, who has never left, enjoys their love. So it is normal for her to help with cooking or cleaning after marriage. But Chen Yu is different. He left home early and lived on his own. Coupled with the shadow of his childhood mother's preference for boys, he relied on himself and didn't want to trouble others. Therefore, I don't understand why Zhong has been bothering his parents.

There is nothing wrong with the clock, and there is nothing wrong with it. In the final analysis, because of their different backgrounds and life experiences, they have different lifestyles, so they really can't rise to the level of "three views". In fact, when two people with different views are in love, they will show their differences. Unless they are impulsive, or one party is hiding and sacrificing his true thoughts from the beginning, they will not find that they have different views after marriage.

Most of the differences and contradictions in marriage are due to different lifestyles. The best way to avoid the escalation of contradictions is actually to communicate from time to time.

2. In everyone's eyes, Chen Yu's "scum" is actually just a marriage with poor communication, lack of empathy and no communication, which will only deepen mutual misunderstanding, because no one is willing to rack their brains to guess each other's behavior logic. Some people think that as long as you don't talk, there will be no differences, let alone contradictions. Chen Yu is like this, but what is the ending? Everyone can see that.

Keep everything in your heart and complain to the clock.

Chen Yu never talks to Zhong about any difficulties in her work. Because there was a mistake in the group, the leader canceled everyone's annual leave, but told Zhong that it was his own initiative to cancel the annual leave. He was misunderstood by the leader as "eating inside and picking outside". Also black face digest yourself, don't explain let Zhong Qin Xiao misunderstand yourself; My brother is a troublemaker. Chen Yu is worried about getting into trouble with Gu Jia and his wife, which will have a bad influence on Qin Xiao, but it's hard to say a good word. He involved Qin Xiao's nose in his career and introduced Chen Xu to Gu Jia as a driver.

I have little communication with Zhong at home, have no common hobbies, and are not in the same circle at work. The inarticulate can't find a topic to talk to Zhong. And his younger brother has always been his death hole. On the one hand, he was jealous that his younger brother had taken away his mother's love. On the other hand, he must do his brother's duty and take good care of his younger brother. However, Chen Xu, who was spoiled from childhood, never did anything seriously. I'm afraid he will drag the clock into the water.

People are complex and simple, sometimes your body and mind can't be synchronized, let alone another individual. So, the easiest way is to be frank. After all, everyone is tired. Why do you have to play guessing games when you go home?

There was an argument with Zhong because of the child's problem.

The problem of children is the fuse of divorce with Zhong. Chen Yu once said, don't have children after five years of marriage. Because he wants to welcome a new life when everything is ready. So, what's ready? According to Chen Yu's idea, work is more stable, and Qin Xiao is more mature and brave!

Brave? Giving birth to a child is obviously a brave thing for a woman. What psychological construction do men need to do? Chen Yu said that he was afraid that his children would blame themselves and why he had such a father. In fact, this statement is not to avoid responsibility, but only to show that Chen Yu is a responsible person.

As mentioned earlier, Chen Yu lacked maternal love since childhood, and his younger brother was idle and mischievous. He felt inferior inside. On the one hand, I want to find a "safe haven" for a solid life, and on the other hand, I want to heal my wounds. However, his stupidity and refusal to communicate did not give Qin Xiao a chance to cure him. So, how can you be a father when you are not sure whether you have the ability to love children?

However, the plan couldn't keep up with the change, and Xiao Qin's unexpected pregnancy completely disrupted Chen Yu's plan. To tell the truth, as a matter of fact, he has no plan. On the contrary, their days are in urgent need of a breakthrough. Although Xiao Qin is a man with no idea, he doesn't know where he got the courage and is extremely strong in having children. The so-called "being a mother is" is probably the case. Although Chen Yu objected, her body followed Xiao Qin to welcome the arrival of the child: going to the hospital to file a file, going to the pregnancy test together and so on.

If children are born, they are likely to live apart like a stagnant pool. Then, I was tossed back and forth by the chicken feathers of life. However, the director said they want to make a breakthrough! Life says they have twists and turns! So, "Kid" said to come back later.

The child disappeared and the clock fell, but there seemed to be nothing. Zhong felt numb and sick when he calmly asked his friends to arrange the Qing palace operation. She hates her husband's ruthlessness and thinks it's his fault that the child will die.

Frankly speaking, although the child and the father are related by blood, before the child is born, the concept that a man is the father is still abstract. After all, children are not a piece of meat that falls from them. In real life, I believe many women have had this experience: some men care more about the sex of the child in your belly than your life; Compared with women, they want to fight for the custody of their children. Some men are more eager to breed and their future freedom.

Unlike Chen Yu, she cares about Qin Xiao's health, doesn't care about giving birth to boys and girls, and even cooperates with sperm activity tests. Chen Yu is not a scum, he just lacks empathy and can't understand how a woman who is pregnant in October feels. I don't understand the sudden loss of a piece of meat.

3. Being the closest person to reality, plump and three-dimensional, lacking communication and empathy, he finally became the first couple who died in their thirties. The reason for their divorce is that they are stronger than others on impulse, and the price is to completely change from husband and wife to "brothers."

After the divorce, Chen Yu regretted it. He never took off their wedding rings. Even got drunk and borrowed wine to apologize to Zhong. Compared with others, Chen Yu is lucky. He still has a chance to apologize. Some couples don't even have a chance to apologize, so they die of old age. Because they care more about their own face, they are even more reluctant to admit that they have problems. And this contradiction and entanglement is also projected on Chen Yu.

In marriage, because many couples can't open their hearts, the contradiction is getting deeper and deeper. They often get divorced not because they don't love each other, but because of misunderstanding. Chen Yu is the same. He loves Qin Xiao, but Qin Xiao doesn't know it. In order to celebrate Qin Xiao's 30th birthday, Chen Yu, who doesn't like to disturb others, bought Zhonghua and asked a friend to book a restaurant for her. In order to promote Qin Xiao's Qing Palace action, Chen Yu once again asked others to "give the green light"; Chen Yu loves Qin Xiao. He is worried that Qin Xiao will suffer. Chen Yu, who has been haggling over money, insisted on giving half of his house and property to Qin Xiao. For the sake of Qin Xiao, Chen Yu has been trying to break through his own bottom line. His externalized silence and anger are a contest between the devil and the angel in his heart. And this contest is also the closest to the real us.

Do you feel sorry for yourself in order to satisfy the wishes of the people you love? Have you ever felt the urge not to defend yourself? Do you regret your carelessness? In reality, we can't all be as perfect as Gu Jia, which makes people doubt her authenticity. A real person, like a tree, has a sunny side and a withered side.

Chen Yu is not perfect, but he is not scum. Compared with Xu Huanshan, I say one thing, but my body is doing another disgusting thing; Liang Zhengxian's irresponsible "freestyle" love is absurd, while Chen Yu is much simpler. No one is perfect, just like there are no two leaves in this world. Although Chen Yu is not perfect, she is also the most real person.

Marx said: If you want to live a happy life, only two people can combine, because half a ball can't be rolled up, so the important task of every adult is to find the right half.

Although there are no two identical leaves, there are two hearts that appreciate each other. Since each other is destined to get married on the premise of equality, fairness and voluntariness, we should have a good run-in, just like coffee beans. Yang Le on Weibo (the actor of Chen Yu) has always hidden a mystery. The better the clock and the clock are crossed. After the twists and turns of divorce, they have let each other know each other's hearts better. Life is not a TV play. The characters in the play can be reunited with the help of the screenwriter, but in real life we have to rely on ourselves.

So, cherish everything in front of you, understand, apologize, and run in early.