Change your thinking mode and meet an interesting life.

Why is the gap between people in life so big and getting bigger and bigger? Here I introduce a skill of life transition, which is to change the mental model. The classic "knocking down the wall in your heart".

What is knocking down the wall of thinking?

The premise of overthrowing thinking is to change the fixed thinking mode in people's minds. Everyone is talking about inertia, habits, path dependence and so on.

Interesting is more important than meaningful.

There is a famous saying in the TV series Xu Sanduo, which should be meaningful. In our daily work, the education we receive is generally more important than fun, because meaning means being valuable, fruitful and responsible for the results. We remember in our minds that all the important things and valuable things may be meaningful, while the icing on the cake and the things that make us happier and more comfortable may be interesting.

The theory mentioned in the book may make people more willing to accept interesting things, which will make you more motivated and willing to do it well. So, on the other hand, it may be meaningful to talk to your inner self often, find something interesting for you and continue to do it.

Let yourself lie flat and let yourself live. This book mentions an idea. In fact, relaxing yourself and not putting too much pressure on yourself may have the same effect.

In addition, the book also cites an example of a motorcyclist, demonstrating how to find an activity that you love and make yourself an extreme athlete. Including Fan Deng, he thinks that reading is also a passionate thing, so he enjoys it and doesn't think it is a difficulty or an obstacle. Whether you love this thing or not, in fact, the difference is that some people calculate its commercial value and probability, while extreme athletes don't consider these, but only pay attention to the thing itself. This is an unattainable realm, but once it is reached, it may enter your flow state.

Interesting is the uncertainty of right.

The COVID-19 epidemic began three years ago, and today, we still don't know when it will end. COVID-19 brings us the greatest uncertainty. Now people living in Beijing have to detect nucleic acids every day, and the shelf life of people is not as good as the 48-hour shelf life of bread. This uncertainty becomes interesting once the word "appropriate" is added, which is a very interesting interpretation. This is why some people create some surprises in family life, or we call them burdens. The principle behind them is the same, and appropriateness is good.

All successful studies are not credible.

Through the description in the book, we have a new understanding of what success is. There are two main views on the so-called success theory. First, he thinks that his knowledge and methods will be successful as long as they are used. The second point is that whoever uses this method will succeed, so he does not consider the complexity and probability of the matter itself, nor does he consider that different people have different innate conditions. Such a success is not credible.

Success in my mind is often chicken soup for the soul, which is different from playing with different people. Nevertheless, many people think that this kind of chicken soup for the soul is still useful, and we need this kind of chicken soup for the soul in order to maintain a high state.

If we say chicken soup for the soul, it is to constantly stimulate people's potential, constantly stimulate people's subjective wishes, constantly encourage positive actions, and constantly adjust moving positive, positive and active emotions. In fact, this is not success, it is optimism, it is a good spirit, which is needed by any team, any enterprise and even any individual.

Face your fear and give it a smile.

Over the years, I have learned that when disaster comes, the only effective way for you is to face it and accept it. An example is given in the book. Smile at the frightened shark and it will disappear. So learn to put fear into the "fear safe". This extends to the topic that security restricts career development. People will encounter obstacles in changing careers in jobs with job security as the core. If a person wants to live his true self, he must not label himself. No matter what the horoscope says, what the birthday says, or the label of character and destiny brought by the ecliptic, he will get rid of it. It's just that you want to see us do selective acceptance all day, and then constantly verify past experience to make ourselves more and more stubborn and blind. Therefore, we brainwash ourselves the most.

Many people think that the mental model is the thinking model, but it is not. Thinking mode is still at the ideological level and can be transformed, but many mental modes are used in your body and subconscious level. If thinking mode is a kind of software that can be mastered, then mental mode is sometimes the domain of system hardware.

Why are rich people unhappy?

Most people's career and happiness are equal in the early stage, that is, the more money, the happier they are. But many rich people have already passed this stage, and many have passed this stage. Some people can't find another wave to make themselves happier. They will think that I am unhappy because I want to make more money. When I found that I was still unhappy about making more money, their answer was that I didn't have enough money and I had to make money desperately. This desire is intertwined with greed and will fall into a more profitable but empty state. In fact, he should find another hand at this time, such as doing extreme sports, looking for happiness, climbing mountains, bungee jumping, diving and skiing. All kinds of sports will make him find different feelings and achievements.

Is there any way to prevent yourself from hitting the wall?

You record your goals and the results you want. For example, my goal is to be happy and my goal is to make money. If once you find that you have made a lot of money, your goal has been achieved, but you are not happy, that is to say, this goal has not been achieved. If it doesn't work, you must stop and think about it. What is the ultimate goal of setting this goal? Is this the most effective goal? Goals are places to go, and goals are means and carriers, or we call them indicators. You can constantly change your goals, but you can't change your initial heart and start.

How to change the mental model

Therefore, it is not difficult to change the mental model. The difficult thing is that many people dare not stop, and even keep hitting the wall and don't feel that they have a problem, so they have been at the first level. The second problem is that all situations are bets, because your old mental model has been proved to be profitable, but the new model is actually unknown, so whether to switch is faced with security problems.