How to treat introversion?

First, let's look at the definition of introversion. We often think that introverts are withdrawn, shy and difficult to communicate, even introverts themselves think so. However, when the words "introversion" and "extroversion" were invented to distinguish people's different personalities, they originally meant "tendency to resort to internal or external energy".

Yes, it's not whether you are withdrawn or difficult to communicate, but whether you like to resort to energy internally or externally. Do you like telling each other or writing in a diary, crying everywhere or waiting for time to heal yourself?

Therefore, when it comes to "treating introversion", it is simply nonsense. Yes, so is the title of my article, so I put a question mark.

There has never been absolute introversion or extroversion in the world, and some are in mental hospitals. Everyone is a mixture of two situations, but some people are here and some people are there.

This left a deep impression on me. Last time I accidentally learned that I was a Gemini, my friend immediately said that I really looked like a Gemini. Although I don't believe in constellations, I'll think for myself. Since the university entered the club, I feel younger and younger, gradually find my extroverted side, and find that I especially like sharing, especially in front of many people. This is beyond my imagination before.

So I'm Gemini? In fact, there are two people in my heart, sometimes introverted and sometimes extroverted? Or let me find my own club that is suppressed? I am outgoing. I'm the real me? Just because I am also a combination of introversion and extroversion, the happy atmosphere of the club makes my extroversion easier to show.

In addition, I shared an article about introverts in my circle of friends today, describing ten characteristics of introverts. I got almost all of them, and I was particularly impressed by one of them: "I'm not good at giving feedback to stimuli."

In that case, the other party often says something and does something to express some feelings, but I don't know how to respond. In some people's eyes, this is just a natural reaction. In my opinion, I really don't know what to do, so the whole portrait card is the same. ...

When I was a sophomore, because of this, I specially consulted my sister in the community. My sister's advice to me is "be yourself" and "just behave normally and come as you should". An exaggerated example given to me at that time was "You see that TA is so enthusiastic about you that you don't even know how to give feedback. If you really don't know what to say, you can go up and give TA a hug. " What my sister didn't know at that time was that the ta in the first half of the sentence was actually herself, haha. At that time, my motto was "Do whatever you want" ...

Oh, by the way, at the end of the conversation, when we broke up, I really didn't know what to say to thank her, so I really gave her a hug and ran away with a red face. hahaha. Think about yourself. You are really a lovely elementary school brother. Well, it's actually O (*//▽/*) Q now.

Ah, ahem, digressing, accidentally falling into memory.

What I have been saying just now is that everyone is a combination of introversion and extroversion, so don't worry about being too introverted or extroverted.

So let's talk about the first step of introverted "treatment", accepting rather than rejecting.

I began to practice on the stage when I was a sophomore. I was so nervous that I asked my senior for advice. Senior sister patted her thigh: "I'm nervous!" I'm a junior now, and I'm still nervous about going on stage! I'm nervous. What! Nervous belongs to nervous, training belongs to training, while training, while nervous, while training, without hindrance! "Well, the original is not so domineering. I changed it so exaggerated to highlight its significance-accepting rather than rejecting it.

Moreover, I think that after the above explanation of the definition of introversion, everyone should accept it, because I know this definition, as if the punishment I gave myself was found to be a wrong judgment. There is nothing wrong with introversion, but one of the two natural personalities. Not to mention that you are not purely introverted, that is autism.

It's really hard to accept yourself. If you ask me, "Are you really just sharing this article? Is there no reason to convince yourself? " I really dare not say that I am just doing good things like Lei Feng.

Let's just say that we can all accept this, so the question comes: What's the use of accepting yourself? Does society accept you? Are you comfortable? Can you find a job? Can you find a girlfriend? Can you inherit the chromosomes of your ancestors? There seems to be something strange mixed in. ...

Indeed, this society is an extrovert society, or the rules of the game are more suitable for extroverts, which is why we often want to be extroverted.

But many famous speakers and politicians are introverted, such as XX, XXX, XXX, so I won't talk about it. What I can't complain most is Gandhi. For a person, he doesn't talk one day a week, and the words here are very powerful. The problem is that if he needs to communicate with people that day, he will communicate with people with paper and pen. Is it very different from talking? ...

In any case, we need to find a way for introverts to communicate with the world, which is not only less uncomfortable, but also achieves certain results.

Before that, we should look at the difference between an introvert and an extrovert: social interaction can bring energy to extroverts, but for introverts, social interaction is an energy-consuming thing. So what will bring energy to introverts? One person.

Then the answer comes, how do introverts get along with the world? Mask.

Mask is a derogatory answer. To put it mildly, it's like this: if socialization is reality, then solitude is our spiritual garden. By being alone, we gain energy, and then return to reality and use this energy.

Then the problem comes again. I'm not good at giving feedback to social stimuli. Even if I think so, what if I have energy?

This is also the reason why I use the answer "mask". The moral here is not false, but a plan to face it. We wear this mask when we communicate with people and when we make a report. This mask is nothing more than the corresponding ability.

Yes, separating ability from personality, introversion should not be an excuse for you to speak impolitely. Introverts can also speak well and communicate well with others. These are abilities, and they are the so-called abilities that extroverts should learn. At best, they just start higher.

It's just that we will always remember that these abilities are tools and masks, and the true self is the one I return to the spiritual garden, to be alone and to feel at ease.

So, as I said at the beginning, there is no such thing as "curing introversion", but it will be much easier if you think like I said in the above two steps.

So, the method has been given, how to do it is very important, * * * just do it.

Finally, I want to thank Jung, Li Songwei and Susan Kane. She is the speaker of the TED talk "The Power of Introverts" and the author of "Ten Ways for Introverts to Get along with the World". All my ideas in this paper are the combination of their articles and my own experience. Everything said in the article, in fact, is not what I said. ...