Beyond the skin: how are those temperaments that stand out from the crowd cultivated?

I don't know if you have this feeling: with the growth of age, when we look at a person, we will pay more and more attention to his/her overall feeling and gradually ignore the person's own five senses. This is the charm of temperament.

People who read widely often have some bookishness. This is modesty.

People who have experienced a lot often have a little calmness. This is the peace that experience brings you.

People who travel frequently often have some vitality and tolerance. This is the vision and mind that the journey brings to you.

The books you have read, the roads you have traveled, the things you have experienced, and the world you have seen will all become bits and pieces of condensation on you and shape you into the present.

This is why some people's facial features are not outstanding, but they look so special, while others always feel that they are empty and unattractive when they look good.

Sister Tong knows that you must have heard the above many times, and you must have understood the importance of temperament cultivation for a person.

Sister Tong knows better that if you love learning, you must have read many books about temperament cultivation and many tweets about how to improve your temperament, and you must be curious, why can't you see your temperament advantage when walking or taking photos with friends?

This is because most articles on the Internet are produced by my assembly line, with a monthly salary of 5,000. They are only willing to cheat traffic with ordinary articles, and they don't really want to teach you this.

And the true meaning of temperament cultivation, what rich girls have to learn, how to become easy-to-get materials for the public?

What's more, we need to spend a lot of material costs and time costs to learn etiquette, etiquette, equestrian, fencing and other things taught by aristocratic schools.

However, Sister Tong found that there are still some things. As long as you point in the right direction, you can cultivate a better temperament than ordinary people at a small cost.

1.？ Mode adjustment

Manner is really an indispensable part of a person's temperament, which is the most important.

It is hard for us to imagine that a person with bad manners can have a good temperament. See Big Country and Liu Shishi.

Sister Tong suggested that you start with learning dance and social etiquette, which can get twice the result with half the effort.

Learn to dance:

As an adult, learning to dance is really not an easy task. You need to persist for a long time, and you will find that if you don't go to a class, you will easily fail to keep up. And hiring a professional etiquette teacher is not particularly cost-effective.

Therefore, Sister Tong doesn't suggest that you go directly to a professional dance class.

If you are a boy, you can go to the gym more often, have a good figure, hold your head up and hold your chest high, and your manners will be more than half successful.

Girls can sign up for a soft ballet class or a yoga class. This kind of class is generally amateur and inexpensive. It is good for posture optimization. Don't think that you can't practice ballet when you are old. There are many big sisters in your class who are in their forties and fifties, and there is a high probability that they will meet handsome teachers. If you exercise at ordinary times, the muscles you exercise will grow outward, while ballet softness will make your muscles wrapped in long bones and strip muscles and look slender (as the teacher said, it has not been verified).

If you want to improve your self-confidence, I suggest you learn Latin dance. The passion of Latin dance can teach you how to show feminine charm.

Social etiquette:

In China, people eat together on many important things, so the importance of dining etiquette is self-evident.

Sister Tong recommends that you go online to see the precautions in this regard, not too informal, especially for girls.

Elegant eating and thoughtful care at the table can really reflect a lot of things.

Innocent and free-spirited character and rude behavior are two different things.

Sister Tong even heard a friend talk about how to quickly judge the overall situation of others, that is, eat lobster, crab and other things that are difficult to chew and peel together and see how he eats them.

Many things, you can not pay attention to, others may not care too much. But if you surprise others, they will remember you.

Business negotiation, private dating, friends gathering, how to dress, how to give gifts, and how to take care of visitors all have deep knowledge. Young people who just entered the workplace really don't know much about this, but the big boss does. So, if you can do all these things, you have surpassed many people.

2.？ Zhuangrong clothing

Clothes can highlight a person's taste. If you want to look more elegant, you can try to change your clothes first, which will gradually affect your words and deeds.

For boys, Sister Tong suggested that they should be neat and generous. Don't wear a big LOGO, wear more black, white, gray and solid colors, look at the wearing guide a little and avoid minefields. Sister Tong once met several young people, dressed exquisitely and wearing woolen coats with good materials, but they didn't take off their armbands.

Simply recommend several brands: Burberry, Fred Perry, Masino Doutie and tommy hilfiger. From quality to daily life.

Of course, you can also choose clothes with similar styles to these brands.

Business men can wear French shirts to increase their sense of exquisiteness.

Girls generally wear light makeup, it is best to use earth to adjust eye shadow, not other bright colors.

When Tong Jie first learned to make up, she always liked to buy full-color eye shadow trays in all colors. But later, it was found that earth tone, light brown, was used the most. Suitable for most occasions.

In addition, girls should not use too bright lipstick and too shiny lip gloss. Lip gloss, upturned lips, dating can be used, but not suitable for work.

You can choose nude color and bean paste color according to your skin color.

Be sure to pay attention to the collocation of clothes and choose clothes according to the occasion. Young girls can wear more beige and white to increase their vitality.

Sister Tong doesn't recommend you to wear clothes with too high color saturation, and pay more attention to the texture of the clothes. You can try pearl ornaments.

After the age of 30, recommend European and American brands and wear less Japanese and Korean brands.

Wear less high heels and more high heels.

Pay attention to body management.

3.？ Sound modification

Whether the voice is good or not is a subjective feeling, and having a good voice can give people a special feeling just like the way of speaking.

If you are not a professional announcer, you can modify your voice in the following ways to make others sound more pleasant:

Change the pronunciation position:

Most people usually pronounce with their throats. Girls can try to add a little nasal sound to your voice, which will make your voice more slender and gentle. It's a bit like the pronunciation position of Hong Kong and Taiwan accent, but it's easy to feel artificial without learning intonation.

Adjust the speed of speech:

From anxiety to methodical, unhurried, unhurried, it will give people a sense of stability and elegance. People are more expensive than words. Speaking slowly can make people feel that you are stable and have quality.

Watch your tone:

No matter whether the voice is good or not, if you speak in a particularly gentle tone, you will also feel that this person is very polite and pleasant to listen to, making people feel that you are polite as a whole.

I believe everyone has this feeling. In short, speaking in a different tone will have a completely different effect.

Everything you say is in one breath. Why can't you say it?

In fact, there are not a few people whose voices are particularly unpleasant. These three methods may not make you soar from 50 to 100, but it is possible to rise from 50 to 75 or even 85.

4.？ Art culture

Reading:

Sister Tong is a person who likes reading very much since she was a child. Maybe she was influenced by her family. Reading has become as common as eating and dressing.

If you want to improve your elegance, you can read more books on humanities and social sciences, especially historical books. (Reply to the "temperament book list" in the background, and you can get the required reading list of humanities and social sciences compiled by Tong Jie. Every book is accompanied by reasons recommended by Sister Tong. )

Reading more famous books and reading more knowledge in various fields can broaden your horizons. We all know that the choice of key points in life is very important. Sometimes it is your view of the world and your vision that determines a person's choice.

Sister Tong wants to say one more thing about reading. Even now, many people on the Internet are promoting one hundred and three hundred copies a year. I suggest you don't learn. Many books can be simply turned over and thrown away without wasting this time.

Those good books, I suggest you read them intensively. Good sentences can be recited.

So, a Harle, and then tell this book to others, this book will be internalized into your blood.

Art:

I have already said how to learn dance.

I also want to suggest that you learn calligraphy or Chinese painting. Calligraphy can learn from Yan Zhenqing's regular script (magnificent, girls' learning style is very special), and Wang Xizhi's small script and running script (neutral beauty, high style).

Don't learn the Jianghu style popular in Tik Tok Weibo. Calligraphy needs hard work.

Sister Tong hasn't studied Chinese painting, so it won't be developed here.

Of course, you can also learn tea ceremony, piano, guzheng, violin and any art you are interested in.

Interest is the best teacher. Learning an art can help you not feel lonely when you are alone.

Sister Tong has personally studied calligraphy and dance for many years. She likes to travel and learn simple photography skills to help me discover the beauty in life. Know about teapots and love to collect Pu 'er and white tea. Usually drinking tea with three or five friends will make me feel relaxed and comfortable.

5.？ Aesthetic accomplishment

Aesthetics is a person's sensibility to beautiful things and his ability to judge and appreciate beauty.

At present, many people may get rich overnight, and many people have deep attainments in a certain field. But none of this can explain how high this person's aesthetic level is.

Clothing, conversation, living habits, eyes, personal experience, knowledge, etc., finally converge to one point, which is a person's aesthetic embodiment.

Therefore, it is difficult for us to see how good the aesthetic ability of a person with low cultural literacy is, and it is also difficult to see that the aesthetic level of a person with good literacy will be poor.

Aesthetics is difficult to cultivate, but there are some rules:

Carry out visual accumulation:

At ordinary times, watch more things related to art, such as art exhibitions, art exhibitions and movies related to aesthetics, and establish your own aesthetic attitude in works of art. In short, watch more beautiful things, and your aesthetic level will naturally improve.

Contact with top things:

If you can, you can travel to some developed countries, feel the fusion of modern charm and classicism in an international metropolis, buy clothes of big-name designers, or watch the shows of big-name designers and appreciate the photography works of the best photographers. First-class things can often give you a first-class aesthetic experience.

Look at the world more:

Experience more things and see more beautiful and advanced things. In fact, learning some artistic skills is the fastest way to shape aesthetic ability, because people who study art are often more sensitive to beauty.

Keep a rich imagination:

Many arts in the world are interlinked. Through imagination, we can feel the connection between different art forms, such as the relationship between impressionist painting and impressionist music. When we listen to Debussy's Moonlight, is it a wonderful experience to feel the dim moonlight on the water in impressionist paintings?

Conclusion:

With the growth of age, beautiful women are getting thinner and thinner, and their temperament will last for a long time, Mika.

Actually, there are many details in life. As long as you pay attention, you will find knowledge everywhere.

For example, when you are at home, you can keep your home clean and tidy. Eating healthy food, keeping a regular routine, forming the habit of fitness, organizing a competition with some friends at home on weekends, and climbing mountains in the suburbs with your family in spring can all make you and your life better.

For people, no matter who they are, don't climb high and step low, don't flatter, keep an indifferent heart and be yourself.

The so-called phase is born from the heart, that's all.