What advice do you give to girls before and after marriage?

First: don't use money to please any man. Because he will probably only fall in love with your money, not with you. Give him expensive gifts, invite him to eat in high-end restaurants and so on.

Second: Don't love any man more than yourself. Because when you put all your love into him, you lose yourself. When you lose yourself, you will definitely lose the whole world, including the people you love most.

Third: Don't ask a man out three times in a row. Because you are too active, you will often be passive in the end. When you are in a passive state, it is easy to be manipulated by the other party.

Fourth: If you want to marry a man, don't let him get you on the first date. Because he will not cherish what is easy to get, just as most people think that there is no free good goods.

Fifth: Don't get pregnant before marriage. Because the risks inside are complex and changeable, it is difficult to control. Once you have the other child, you are easily bound, and because the child makes more compromises and concessions, the other person will push his luck. Even if he doesn't push his luck, his family may.

Sixth: don't overdraw your strength to pursue a man, because everything you get from overdrawing your strength will often be lost in the end. You overdraw your strength in the early stage, but you have no strength in the later stage.

Seventh: Don't marry a person with unstable temperament, because your happiness will be broken in an instant. A person with a stable temperament can certainly control himself, but he can't control himself, which is actually terrible.

Eighth: don't provoke people with bad habits, because they will lead you into the abyss of pain. Don't think you can change him. His parents can't change him for decades. Don't be too confident.

Ninth: Don't marry people who are often late for appointments. Such people often don't love you very much and prefer to make excuses. Imagine, if he keeps making excuses in his marriage, can you really stand it?

Tenth: Don't marry a sloppy and rude person. Such people often have poor self-cultivation and poor family education. If he says that he dresses casually because he treats you as a relative, you will think that he is polite to outsiders and might as well treat you as an outsider.

Eleventh: Don't marry someone who won't suffer. Such people are often selfish and stingy. In marriage, you need to pay most of the time. If he haggles with you in life, your marriage life is actually not easy.

Twelfth: Don't marry an ungrateful person. This kind of person likes to take advantage of small things and has a small pattern. He can't see your efforts and takes it for granted. If you are still with such a person after marriage, you will collapse sooner or later.

Thirteen: Don't make friends with people who can still laugh when they see tragedy. Such people are often abnormal and terrible. He won't let you see his sincerity. He is very considerate. At first, you will feel unique, but it's really scary, because you never know when tragedy will befall you.

Before marriage, many people will walk into the marriage hall at a loss because of the urging of their elders, friends or unexpected pregnancy. However, if you are planning and preparing to get married and happen to see this article, you must calm down and think about how many articles your current partner accounts for in 13 articles. If you account for a large number, you should consider the issue of marriage more carefully.