How to seize the opportunity to be a better self? Thoughts on participating in online reading club

Friday, July 5, is the day of online reading, which is the second issue.

As a member, I watched the reading club that everyone attended last week, and saw the heated discussion in the club, which sparked a spark. So, this time, I also signed up for the online book club.

I didn't know how to speak in the group before, and I was afraid that I would say something wrong, so I didn't dare to participate.

This time, I decided to take this step and participate in an online reading club to truly experience the charm of the online reading club.

1, many restrictions have been broken online.

On Friday, I spent two hours from 12: 30- 14: 30. Actually, I'm from a different place, and I took the subway for more than an hour. /kloc-I had dinner at 0/2: 30, so I finished an online reading meeting on the way.

However, if you attend the offline reading club, you need to stay in one place for two hours, and the journey to and from the club is estimated to take more than one hour. Of course, it is impossible to have face-to-face communication with you in offline reading sessions online, but I have never met friends with the same frequency in all parts of the motherland, talked about the contents of the discipline and discussed some issues together. That feeling is a line.

Through everyone's self-introduction and photos, we suddenly narrowed the distance between us and found friends in the same constellation. It is really fate!

2. Gather your thoughts and learn many methods.

When I participated in the online reading club, I gave you an example of real life: what I said most was that there is only one opportunity, and if it is lost, it is gone. For example, he wants to go to the park to play, but he plays with others when he meets children. I said yes, but he can't go to the park. Later, the child went home and wanted to go to the park. I said no chance, because you chose to play with your friends and gave up the chance to go to the park.

Yang Li, the team leader, gave me some other suggestions. She said, "Can you give me a limited choice? For example, you can invite your friends to play in the park. How long do you want to play? Let's go to the park. "

I thought I was doing well, but there are other ways. Yang Li's method can also help children to enhance their time management ability and learn multiple choices to solve this problem. Instead of just letting him know that you chose to bear the corresponding results, in fact, this is also a power struggle!

I also learned the method from the example given by another participating partner. She said: In April, my son and his friends did a great thing. Throwing bricks from the roof of the sixth floor smashed the skylight of my colleague's car. Then he came home and told me that we took him to solve the whole thing. When I got home, I talked to him about the following things.

1. Thank you for telling me when you are in trouble.

2. Do you think throwing objects at high altitude is dangerous? What if it wasn't a car but a person who was hit today?

He: Dangerous. If there are parts in the car, there will be no repairman.

Give your lucky money to your uncle.

He: I didn't throw the bricks.

Dad: Because you didn't fulfill your obligation of reminding. "

When I saw her first sentence: Thank you for telling me when you were in trouble, I was very touched. I thought when we were young, we were afraid of being scolded and cheated because of getting into trouble. I thought my child was in trouble, and I would say these words, "Give me trouble". I didn't expect him to tell you voluntarily after he got into trouble. How valuable!

Children are not afraid of making mistakes, so we should give them a chance to try and make mistakes. What we should do after he made a mistake is what we should learn. The second chapter of Positive Discipline also talks about winning children instead of winning them.

3. Use life to influence life.

It is difficult for a person to take care of a child, but it is warmer for a group of people to hold a group.

Therefore, the online reading club provides us with an opportunity and platform to learn and communicate with everyone.

Guide people to learn, throw out golden sentences, analyze the meaning of golden sentences in the book, and then extend them to specific examples encountered in life. That's it, I learned other people's handling methods and gave me great inspiration.

German educator Jaspers once said: "Education is essentially a tree shaking another tree, a cloud pushing another cloud, and a soul awakening a soul."

The best education is to influence life with life, because you can only change yourself, not others. However, you can influence others.

Leader Yang Li asked me a question that made me think deeply. She asked, "What good qualities do you want our children to have in the future? It is something you think is precious. "

My answer is kindness. I think kindness is a person's most precious quality. Other mothers' answers are: perseverance, confidence, optimism, responsibility and love coexist, and so on.

However, we must achieve these qualities first, because we want our children to be them, and we must be them first. This is the principle that parenting comes first, and we also influence children.

It seems that the two-hour reading meeting passed quickly. Sign up for the next one as soon as it's over, because I like this unrestricted way and this atmosphere very much. I'll learn a book from you and discuss problems with you. There are not many opportunities to experience this knowledge feast. I will seize the opportunity and be a better myself!

If you are a reading member of Malaysia, come and join us. Every Friday 12: 30, you need to finish reading the book in advance and register in the group in advance.

If you are not a reading member of Malaysia, please join us! We will hold our own membership day from Monday to Friday and invite you to participate in various membership activities!