Why do many women want to remarry after divorce?

Let's first look at a set of data: as of 20 19, the divorce rate in China has increased 15. In just 20 19, 4154,000 divorces were registered nationwide, and 947 1 marriages were registered in the same year.

In 20 19, the ratio of marriage registration to divorce registration reached 40%, and the number of divorces in China reached an unprecedented height in history.

Among so many divorced couples, the main reasons for divorce are not what people often hear: infidelity, domestic violence and so on;

Among the reasons for divorce, the highest proportion is trivial matters of life, followed by separation.

So in many divorced couples, in fact, most of them have no principled problems. Many times, I just feel that two people are not doing very well together, so I divorce, or because of some trivial quarrels, I divorce on impulse;

In recent years' consulting work, many women will want to remarry their ex-husbands after impulsive divorce.

The reason why I want to remarry is:

1. I found that I didn't find the wrong person.

When quarreling, I feel that I have found the wrong person. I just need to change someone else.

But in fact, a marriage goes wrong and eventually leads to divorce. Most of the time, both of them are not doing well enough.

Because I also have some shortcomings and problems, when I give up a relationship and start over, my problems still exist, and my problems are likely to make me repeat the same mistakes;

After several more relationships, it still doesn't go well, and I will feel as if I have missed the most suitable person.

2. Divorced status+age growth

If you are married for the first time, then divorce gives a woman a status of divorce, and with this status, your value is invisibly reduced, including it is difficult to find unmarried men, and generally only men who are also divorced are willing to accept themselves;

Divorced men themselves have experienced marriage. They are divorced, so their trust in marriage or the other party is not high, so they will live with each other, and the divorce rate of the second marriage is much higher than that of the first marriage, so they may think of their ex-husband at this time.

In addition, age is also a big problem. When I first got married, I was younger and my younger self was relatively more beautiful. At that time, the husband I could find was often better than the husband I went to after divorce.

Because reproductive value is a very important part of a woman's overall value, and the relationship between reproductive value and age is the greatest, then the younger she is, the higher her value will be, and the more she can find a good object. So after being married for a few years, divorced and getting old, she will regret it, and it is difficult to find a better man than her ex-husband.

3. The influence of children

In most cases, divorce is only the choice of husband and wife, and children have no choice;

For children, when their parents divorce, they are told that it has nothing to do with them, so children often blame their parents for divorce because their parents are not good;

Therefore, after parents divorce, children always miss their parents, and children who lack father's love and maternal love have a great impact on their lives;

So some people will see their children suffer after divorce, and they will think of remarriage for their children.

4. Calm down and think about each other.

People have emotions, whether they are happy, sad or wronged, they are just emotions, and emotions themselves are not good or bad;

But for some people, they can't manage their emotions, so many times, they will be taken away by their emotions;

Similar to women and men who are full of grievances and anger after quarreling, they can't think of anything good about each other under such emotions;

All thoughts and thoughts in my heart are bad for myself, and the other party is completely hacked by myself. Under such circumstances, it is easy for me to make irrational decisions.

Wait until the divorce, really separate for a period of time, calm down, maybe you will find that there are still many places worth being together;

Then I will regret the divorce, feel that I shouldn't, and then I will save it and hope to remarry.

5. The cost of solving the problem is less than the cost of starting over.

The second reason for divorce is separation. The feelings and lives of two separated people are separated and it is difficult to have an intersection.

Then each other's hearts will be farther and farther away, until the feelings fade and they feel that they are the same without each other, they will choose to separate;

I think it's good to change people, but after the real separation, I will find that it is better to force myself to solve problems in different places than to find someone else.

Because the cost of solving the problem is far less than the cost of starting over.

One person's life is not as lively as two people's.

Some women will feel that they will make trouble every day when they have a husband. It is better to come in peace without a husband.

Only when I really restored my life did I begin to look back on the beauty of two people;

In life, there are indeed many quarrels, and when there is no separation, my focus is only on quarrels, ignoring each other's good, and I feel that the other side is right to be good to myself;

It's hard for me to give up that good job when I lost it;

So I want to get that good job back.

Divorce is the choice of every married person;

Remarriage is also everyone's choice after divorce;

Everyone has his own choice, and everyone may regret his choice;

But no matter what, you will have the right to choose;

At the same time, I hope I can think well before every major choice.

Blessing ~