? Spoiling is also a technical job.

Professional attire suppresses women's gender consciousness to the greatest extent, as if to say that the workplace is a place where everyone is equal, regardless of gender.

But in fact, the difference is so obvious that you have to admit it.

In order to work hard in the workplace like men, many women dress up as strong women in the office and are invincible-difficult problems that others can't solve, complicated situations that they can't cope with, and overwhelming pressure. She took over all the dishes and turned herself into an iron warrior, proving that "who says women are not as good as men".

Maybe she didn't mean to compete with men, but she didn't feel like a woman in her heart.

I don't quite understand how men should feel in this situation. At least, stay at a respectful distance from sb.

There is also a kind of woman who has a strong sense of gender and knows how to show weakness in front of men. They may have done nothing. When they are in trouble, they just need to say, "Oh, what can I do?" Naturally, good people will come forward to help her out. What is more commendable is that the helper has no complaints and even feels that it is his responsibility to take care of her.

This weapon is called-coquetry.

Hu Shiniang in The Legend of Wulin is an office fox. When she first arrived, she used the excuse of "going out without touching the ground" to let Lao Bai carry her in the door; As a result, various demands emerge one after another: "I can't get used to sleeping in the room where others have lived", "Let them buy a new bathtub, boxwood, copper hoop and peony carving" and "This fragrance is too low, so buy a good rosewood fragrance" ...

Laobai really got caught. Although I don't know how he feels in his heart, at least on the surface, he is quite cooperative-"the smell is fragrant and refreshing, I am talking about you."

No wonder there is a saying that men conquer the world with hordes, and women only need one to melt them.

Female colleagues hold different attitudes towards this. In the face of Hu Shiniang's enchanting gesture, Xiaoguo repeatedly countered: "I can't build a room for you now, can I?" "How can I buy incense without money?" "You don't eat with your nose. Why should I believe you? "

There is disdain in the speech, which is extremely offensive.

I have seen a survey in which all the respondents are female white-collar workers. Therefore, coquetry is usually considered as one of the annoying office vices. They say that many young girls are unintentional, but the result of casually coquetry not only makes colleagues misunderstand, but also makes the boss disgusted, which makes them uncomfortable and reused.

Having said that, in the real workplace, women will still be coquettish: they are often called "dear", which has become the standardized opening remarks of interpersonal communication-even if the other party has never met at all, or just had a phone conversation once or twice.

In retrospect, I have had countless "dears": the female staff of the public relations company who is responsible for contacting the media, the elder sister who sells auto insurance, my author, the younger sister who sells clothes in the shopping mall, the boss of Taobao shop, colleagues who often cook together, the donkey friends I met on the trip, the member consultant of the gym, and the lobby manager of the sales fund in the bank. ...

I know that every time I say "dear", there must be various requirements: either to spend money on things or to help me with things. Besides, I find the voice "dear" really powerful. Although sometimes I feel uncomfortable, the kindness of others is really irresistible.

Isn't this coquetry?