Dating your boyfriend, do you want AA system?

Recently, a female friend asked me: My boyfriend went out for dinner with me, and he actually wanted to be with me AA! Is he too picky, or does he not care about me at all? At the same time, she sent a lot of wechat to scold the boy.

Actually, I don't think we should generalize whether boys take the initiative to pay the bill. If a boy doesn't pay for you, it may be that his personal consumption habits are different, or that your feelings are not deep enough.

Ode to Joy 2, which was once all the rage, continues to enjoy high ratings and hot discussion. The topic is: Do couples go out to eat, boys pay the bill or AA system? Qiu Yingying and "IT man" Qin Ying go out for dinner together, and Qiu Yingying rushes to the checkout counter to pay the bill.

In this regard, Qiu Yingying believes that "love is water": no one's money is blown by the strong wind, both he and I make money, and the two of us take turns to invite each other, which does not involve the economy. Such feelings are pure.

Fan, an "emotional expert", doesn't understand that it is natural for girls to go out with boys and boys to pay the bill, and they will spoil each other.

Investigating "Should boys pay for girls?" The girls expressed their opinions in succession, and I also integrated the opinions of netizens:

User 1

I think it should be, because the situation in China seems to be that boys pay more. Boyfriends are definitely a must. Ordinary friends who have a good time will ask him to pay the bill.

Netizen 2

It depends. If we are friends, I don't think we should. If it's a boyfriend, it should be. If you are friends, everyone is AA! Or you can treat me this time and I'll treat you next time.

Netizen 3

Ordinary friends can buy it once, one person can buy it once or AA. But when it comes to girlfriends, it must be boys who pay the bill. They should definitely take the initiative to pay the bill!

Netizen 4

It depends! When I think it's time to buy it, just two people invite each other! If he invites me to dinner, I'm sure I'll invite him to eat that next time.

Netizen 5

If you are with your girlfriend, it is normal to pay the bill. If I go out to play with friends, I think I should pay my share of the money myself! I didn't say it must be the boys. I don't think it has anything to do with gender.

Netizen 6

Anything. If it is a friend, it must be AA. If it's a couple or an affair, it must be a boy. Under normal circumstances, boys should take the initiative to pay the bill, but girls will be more educated if they take the initiative to pay the bill!

After investigation, netizens found that men who pay for you don't necessarily love you, and men who don't pay for you must not love you.

Generally speaking, there are two kinds of differences:

First, the AA system should be implemented, because both men and women in love have to pay something and are in an equal state. It is best to clean up the finances before marriage to avoid economic disputes.

Second, boys should pay the bill. Because this can detect whether the other party is sincere, and as a big man, women should not be asked to pay the bill.

Some people think that men should "pay" for falling in love. And plausibly, without shame, as if it were a matter of course. What I want to say is: Miss! You are wrong. If you think you are a tight commodity, "I'll find another man if you don't pay the bill", go ahead.

On the other hand, I also say to you, "If you think men should pay the bill, then I won't ask you. There are many women in Rand Park Jung Su who are reasonable and know that people who don't work can't eat. " Some people's fallacies are not worth refuting.

Some people say, "The world is a patriarchal society, so men should pay the bill." .

In the same patriarchal society, in the west, apart from the special saying of "treat guests", even a cup of coffee is paid separately, and women feel at ease. No one thinks men are stingy. Because they know a simple truth-the money earned by others belongs to others, and their enjoyment comes from their own labor.

To some people, it is unfortunate for a woman to pay for a cup of coffee. Is it because women's liberation there is not as good as that in China?

That's not true. In other people's homes, although we have not got rid of the patriarchal society, we have gone further than us in respecting the rights of both men and women.

Once an American man married a China woman. There were many contradictions, and finally he divorced. He said, "I don't understand why she always takes my money as hers." It seems that our female compatriots think that they can be raised with peace of mind abroad.

However, die-hard American men would rather donate a lot of money to charity than put their money on their wives.

Some of our female compatriots hate iron and say that China men are "not men enough", but compared with American men, we China people are generous enough!

Some people say that whether a man loves a woman depends on whether he is willing to spend money for her. Of course, in fact, what people cherish and are willing to give to each other are all evidence of love.

Money is precious in the eyes of both men and women.

Therefore, being willing to spend money for each other can not only prove men's love for women, but also prove women's love for men.

If you often go out to eat together, it's best to split it 50/50, or you can treat me to a meal and treat you to dinner next time. If you go out occasionally, you can let the boys pay the bill. The man who really loves you doesn't care about the money.

A man's attitude towards money can tell whether the other person really loves you, so cherish a man who is willing to spend money for you. I am willing to pay for you, because you are worth it.

If you have deep feelings, you don't care whether the boys pay or the AA system. But the best love is that both sides are independent and equal, and both sides have to pay something.