What kind of love did Jose give San Mao?

I remember reading a report a few years ago that a person went to the Sahara not for traveling and enjoying the scenery, nor for working and living, but to confirm one thing: the story of the Sahara described by San Mao is fictitious, and Jose did not find such a person at all. Others say that San Mao and Jose's life is not so beautiful, and quarreling is no different from ordinary people.

Seeing this news, I couldn't help heart, and Wan Li asked for proof all the way. I am either bored or want to be famous in this way. Besides, I can't find a third reason. At that time, there was an uproar. After many years, what happened to the confirmed person? It fell into the sand like a drop of water and disappeared without a trace. I don't know his name. Only the story of Sanmao has been circulating.

Life has always been a personal experience, and no one is qualified to tell others about his life. Your standards only represent yourself. "If you are not a fish, how can you know the happiness of fish?" "The honey here is the arsenic there." It is his own choice to describe his experience with what attitude and what emotion he is willing to use. It is really meaningless for others to prove that he is happy or unhappy.

In Bathing in the Desert, Sanmao describes the life with Jose in the Sahara with playful brushstrokes, and describes their love, which makes people want to stop and envy. What kind of love did Jose give San Mao?

Jose met Sanmao in high school and began to pursue her. San Mao didn't take it seriously. After all, there are so many big Jose, just consider him a "cousin". Cousin is interested, cousin is unintentional, Jose is not discouraged, just let Sanmao wait for him for six years and come back to her after six years.

Six years is not short enough to make a difference. In the past six years, how many things in the world have been divided and combined, and six years have been like a flick of a finger. Jose has grown up, Sanmao has experienced emotional vicissitudes, and everything is changing. His appearance is changing, and so is his mentality. Only Jose's true love for Sanmao has not changed, and his original promise has not changed.

It is not an exaggeration to describe Sanmao's state at that time with "once the sea was difficult for water, but amber forever". Her fiance died suddenly in her arms. This kind of pain and blow is fatal. Leaving home is the best way to heal.

After the reunion, Jose changed from a little boy to a man, and Sanmao remained independent, which was acceptable to both sides, but not the final choice.

Cultural differences, different personalities, too many things to run in, after all, marriage is not just love. Love beautifies people, so beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Marriage is the long-term coexistence of two different individuals. How to deal with the contradiction between them without passion? Ordinary marriages are bumpy, let alone transnational marriages.

San Mao is very clear about the reality and has doubts, but Jose is very firm. He never hesitated from beginning to end, and he was always confident.

If I use "unswerving" to describe Jose's love for San Mao, it should not be excessive, and it will take time to become what the other party wants. A person loves you silently for six years, but you don't like him because he doesn't meet your standards. However, he tells you with his actions that he has been changing and growing, and your confidence will naturally increase. After all, it is to choose marriage.

Patience and hard work are the love that Jose gave San Mao before he got married.

I remember when Gao was looking for a young wife, she probably said that she was a blank sheet of paper that could be painted in various colors, but the final result was that the "blank sheet of paper" announced that the two men were divorced and the wife became an ex-wife. Trying to reform your spouse is selfish and controlling, and the result can be imagined.

Everyone is an independent individual, and growth is self-repairing. When they get married, neither of them is a jade just picked from the mountain, and both need to be carved. On the contrary, it is a piece of finished jade, which can only be cared for and appreciated. Forcing the other person to be what he wants is just a kind of destruction, and eventually everything is broken.

If your man says to you: When you get married, you will know who you are. Then your marriage must be very happy. This sentence shows that he knows you, and only those who know you will know how to really care about you.

Sanmao told Jose that he was going to live in the Sahara for a year, and if he was still willing to wait, he would marry him. People around misunderstood it, or regarded it as a joke, or thought Sanmao had seen through the world of mortals. Without further ado, Jose packed his bags, went to the desert to find a good job, settled down, and took good care of Sanmao. Jose has a choice and is willing to go to the desert to suffer for love. San Mao strengthened his confidence and was willing to go to the ends of the earth with him.

San Mao has repeatedly stressed that he does not want to lose his independent personality and inner freedom after marriage. If he can't be independent, he would rather not get married. Jose replied: "I just want you to' go your own way' and lose your personality and style. Why should I marry you! "

Jose knows that Sanmao likes wandering, and the desert is just a trip for her. If it's over, she'll quit and go together.

Respect and understanding are the love that Jose gave San Mao when he got married.

What is marriage like?

Some marriages are rich in material things, but they are desperate, and some marriages are poor and white, which always makes people see hope. Now love is free, marriage is free, and most marriages begin with love. It's just that many marriages end because of love. After all, love is only a part of marriage, and there are responsibilities.

In a foreign country, starting from scratch, having nothing, the conditions are depressing. The so-called home is just a few shabby houses without basic furniture.

Life is not about not drinking enough water without love, but eating and drinking Lazarus is the foundation of survival. Jose doesn't want to use the money brought by San Mao, which is related to a man's dignity. He firmly believes that he can support his family.

Jose made furniture in the scorching sun, worked overtime desperately, and changed his living condition bit by bit by his own ability. As expected, life is getting better and better.

Desperate environment, flowers of hope.

There is a popular saying that I can tolerate your temporary poverty, but you can't let me lose sight of hope. Those girls who have been in love for many years and finally left are nothing more than full of confidence and disheartened. At last they couldn't bear it, and then they left suddenly.

If a man has a sense of responsibility, he will certainly work hard and light the light of hope and light up the future of a family.

So when Sanmao saw Jose's toil in the hot sun, like a Greek god pushing a stone, she was proud of having such a husband. Because this man gave her light and courage, I believe that all difficulties can be solved.

Hope and confidence are Jose's love for Sanmao at the early stage of marriage.

After six years of marriage, whether living in the desert or traveling abroad, both of them are very happy. Invite friends to play together, be amateur fishermen together, venture to find fossils together, and drive with people together. They enjoy it and have the same hobbies.

In Madeira, Jose sympathized with the honest rickshaw puller and gave him a tip, which was exactly what Sanmao wanted.

Jose knows astronomy and constellations, is familiar with the seabed, talks about astronomical phenomena, contacts nature and loves nature. Bring Sanmao to a brand-new world of knowledge and bring out the best in each other.

Under the nourishment of love, those quarrels and contradictions have become vivid and interesting, and Sanmao is still the original one.

It has been said in chicken soup that a woman's appearance is determined by a man's performance. Although not all right, there are some reasons.

Zhang Ailing experienced the love with Hu Lancheng, and her writing was cold and sharp. Su Qing's "Ten Years of Marriage" is helpless, and the chicken flies and the dog jumps, and life is full of harm; In Li Qingzhao's early and late periods, two completely different styles were related to her two husbands. Lin will write "You are April on earth". How demure and elegant is that? Has nothing to do with Liang Sicheng?

In marriage, three views are consistent, tastes are consistent, and happiness can be realized even if it is dull.

Tolerance and recognition is Jose's love for Sanmao in his six-year marriage.

Love has always been a matter for two people. With Jose's love, Sanmao said that he didn't have warm love for him, but he repaid Jose with great enthusiasm and explained the meaning of love with actions.

Jose refused to use Sanmao's father's money, so Sanmao saved it, preferring to live a miserable life. Sanmao doesn't like doing housework, but she keeps the house tidy. Jose likes to call friends, and Sanmao is busy in the kitchen. Jose was angry, so Sanmao went to coax him.

Willing to pay for love is not a kind of happiness?

The love between San Mao and Jose is nothing more than normal eating, drinking and having fun, which has aroused the envy of countless people. In fact, as long as you look back, look at the people around you, think about his goodness and sweetness, you can also write a book!

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Sanmao, a cactus in a desolate desert