Why is a macho man like Cao Cao willing to bow to this woman because he despises heroes all over the world? The reason is not simple.

During the Three Kingdoms period at the end of Han Dynasty, I believe most people are familiar with the story of Cao Cao and Liu Bei's "childhood cooking wine". At that time, Cao Cao helped Liu Bei destroy Lu Bu and brought Liu Bei back to Xudu. Liu Bei has been afraid that Cao Cao will see his ambition and try his best to pretend to be mediocre. As a result, Cao Cao pointed to him and said that the heroes in the world "only be kings and fuck their ears." From this allusion, we can see not only Cao Cao's understanding of others, but also his arrogance. After all, there were many governors who were not inferior to him at that time, such as Yuan Shao, who unified the four states of Hebei, and Liu Biao, who enriched Qiang Bing, etc., but Cao Cao despised their verve.

However, Cao Cao, who dared to despise the heroes of the world, bowed to a woman. What happened? "Wei Lue" records: "Mrs Ding was born in Taizu, and Mrs Liu was born in princess royal, Qinghe. Liu Zaozhong, Ding Yangzixiu. Zi Xiu died in Taizu, and Ding Chang said,' Kill my son and don't read any more!' Then I cried without restraint. In a rage, Mao sent him home to break his mind. After Mao saw it, Mrs. Fang knitted it, and outsiders spread it as' common governance', and Mrs. Ju stayed at the same time. When Mao arrived, he caressed his back and said,' Take good care of me!' Madam doesn't care, and she shouldn't. Mao stood outside and said,' Don't be evil! So I shouldn't. Mao said,' Good move. Therefore, if you want to marry your family, your family will not dare. "

It means that Shi Ding is Cao Cao's wife. Because she has not become a monk for many years, she took Cao Cao's eldest son, Cao Ang, with her as her son's support. Later, Cao Ang died in the Battle of Wancheng. Ding Furen often complains that Cao Cao killed his son. Cao Cao became angry from embarrassment and sent Mrs. Ding back to her family. Things here, or in line with common sense, after all, this is a patriarchal society, Cao Cao's own identity, but also determines that he must maintain his face, so as to ensure prestige, which has made great contributions from him, but can not carry his own identity Xu You and Lou Gui.

Unexpectedly, however, shortly after Ding Furen was sent back to her family, Cao Cao personally came to the door and invited Ding Furen back. Instead of being angry, he coaxed Mrs. Ding with humility: "Will you look back at me and come back with me?" After being rejected, he also regretted it, and specially told Ding Furen's family that after he left, Ding Furen could get married freely without worrying about himself. What is even more incredible is that although Ding Furen never forgave Cao Cao, and Cao Cao also had a new wife, after Mrs Ding's death, Cao Cao personally chose the grave for him.

Having said that, many people may think that Cao Cao really loves Mrs. Ding, but is this really the case? I don't think so. If I really love Mrs Ding, how could Cao Cao keep people in the backyard for three days regardless of Ding Furen's feelings? How is it possible to drive Ding Furen back to her parents' house just because she is indefensible and angry? Since Cao Cao didn't bow to Mrs. Ding because of true love, why did he do it? I think this matter is mainly related to the following reasons.

First, because of the mother's face.

In feudal society, especially in Han dynasty, filial piety is a very important evaluation standard for a person. The reflection records that Cao Cao's mother's surname is Ding. According to the ancient ways of intimacy, it is not difficult to infer that Mrs Ding and Cao Cao's mother Shi Ding may belong to the same family. Although Shi Ding may have passed away at this time, Cao Cao, who is in a high position, must be afraid of it, so he easily doesn't want to make up with Shi Ding.

Second, no one does housework.

Although women's status was low in feudal society, their role should not be underestimated, especially in the management of harem wives and concubines by superiors like Cao Cao and the personnel relations with various governments. , all need to be handled from time to time. In this case, Cao Cao rushed Mrs. Ding back to her parents' home in a moment of anger, which brought endless trivial troubles and forced her to go back as soon as possible or make a decision.

Third, Cao Cao's own character is like this.

After reading the History of the Three Kingdoms at the end of the Han Dynasty, we can easily know that Cao Cao really despised the pack and never wanted to bow his head. For example, when he was young, he dared to harm his uncle. After entering the workplace, dare to insist on killing the eunuch's uncle; Even one man tried to stab the eunuch Zhang rang with a sword, and so on. However, he is not an unyielding person, but he can bend and stretch. For example, when Xu You died, he said in public: "Auntie, without me, you wouldn't be today." Instead of getting angry on the spot, Cao Cao echoed, "Yes, yes."

Moreover, Cao Cao is good at deceiving people, and he never hesitates to praise his civil servants and military commanders. For example, he called Yu Xun "my ovary", Chu Xu "my Fan Kuai", Guo Jia as a person who can help himself win the world, and Lou Gui's talent as inferior to himself, and so on. Therefore, it is not difficult for Cao Cao to bow his head to coax his daughter-in-law, which does not conflict with his arrogance.

Through the overall analysis, it is not difficult to know that Ding Furen can make Cao Cao bow his head and admit his mistake, not because there is too deep love between the two, nor because she has any means or superiority, but because there is another mystery behind it.

All the information in this paper comes from the History of the Three Kingdoms, Notes of the History of the Three Kingdoms and other books. I guarantee the authenticity of the content, and it does not involve innuendo or politics.