Is it better to live with your in-laws or by yourself?

In this case, I suggest that you choose to live separately when economic conditions permit. Because it is difficult to get along, living together will bring beauty to distance, and living apart will make the relationship better.

Let me share my friend's situation with you:

My friend Xiao Xin, her husband is also two brothers. Before marriage, her mother-in-law was very polite and respectful to her. My mother-in-law will also say: When I get married, I will definitely treat you as my own daughter. Xiao Xin was also moved by this sentence, thinking that she would get married in the future, and she must treat her mother-in-law with care.

In the days after marriage, she found that things backfired, and many things were different from her imagination. For example: living habits, schedule and so on. Actually, it's all the little things in life. For example, Xiao Xin doesn't understand why her mother-in-law should wipe the table with a dishcloth. She thinks these should be separated. What's more, my mother-in-law gets up early every morning and makes a lot of moves, which wakes her up and then can't sleep. Or it's a trivial matter that my mother-in-law doesn't like to flush the toilet in time after urinating in the toilet.

Over time, Xiao Xin felt that she couldn't stand her mother-in-law's behavior. She chose to talk to her mother-in-law, in exchange for her mother-in-law's incomprehension, and her mother-in-law thought her behavior was fine. Xiao Xin's husband is also a nanny, and he has no problem with it. He felt that it put him in a dilemma.

Finally, Xiao Xin felt that she could not change her mother-in-law's mind. Then she can only choose to live separately. After consulting with her husband, Xiao Xin and his wife decided to take out all their savings and buy a small-sized commercial house in the town. Xiao Xin said: It's good to live separately and finally have my own private space. As long as we go back to see our in-laws on holidays, we can get along better.

I think if you have conflicts between your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law, then I suggest that you live separately, because the ingrained ideas of the older generation are hard to change, and only you can change them.

Finally, I wish you a happy life!