My girlfriend and I are not compatible, but we both love each other very much. What should I do?

Some couples with different personalities are often troubled by different personalities. They often think that they have a good personality, but they complain that the other person's personality is "bad" and quarrel about it, which affects the relationship between husband and wife.

In fact, if you carefully observe the familiar couples around you, it is not difficult to find that many couples with different personalities get along well.

On the contrary, some couples with similar or similar personalities do not have a good relationship, and even often quarrel ... Why?

Facts tell us that how couples get along does not depend on whether their personalities are the same, similar or different. It's about how couples get along. Couples with big personality differences will get along well if they can do the following.

First of all, we should have a correct understanding of personality and respect each other's personality. Personality is a rational and perceptual tendency to keep things stable, and there is no difference between good and bad. It is different from morality, and different personalities have their own advantages and disadvantages. For example, impatient people are straightforward and easy to get along with, but they are easy to get angry and get angry, which may be unbearable. On the contrary, people who are slow to respond are mostly kind, easy to get along with and pay attention to quality, but they are slow to respond. Extroverts are lively and cheerful, while introverts are steady and deep.

Secondly, we should foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and complement each other; We should take the initiative to accommodate each other and give full play to the strengths of both sides in family life. For example, let the sociable party take the lead; Be cautious about the party's financial management. Husband and wife have different experiences, interests and tempers, which can be called "heterogeneity" and heterogeneity can complement each other. Acute temper is the same as acute temper, and chronic temper is the same as chronic temper. Although they have the same personality, they have conflicts. The former may cause a "mountain call tsunami", while the latter will bring endless troubles. On the contrary, quick temper and slow temper, if they can pay attention to complement each other, tend to be both rigid and soft, fast and slow, and combine dynamic and static to complement each other.

People's personalities are not always the same. Both husband and wife should also pay attention to gradually overcome their shortcomings. For example, if you are impatient, you must overcome impatience with your heart and do things calmly; If your temper is too slow, you should pay attention to your speed. However, it should be noted that you should never reform each other, but should respect each other and help each other. Only in this way can the husband and wife be harmonious and happy.