What is the constellation of Lian Yue, Lian Yue?

What is the constellation of Lian Yue?

Recently, I have been watching the sixth season of I Love Asking Lian Yue, and I like reading it.

Unfortunately, due to my ignorance, I began to pay attention to Lian Yue last year. Reading his updates every day, I learned a lot from this wise writer, which has a great guiding role in my life.

Lian Yue is a writer who has been writing for more than 20 years. Since 2003, Lian Yue has set up emotional Q&A columns in newspapers such as Shanghai Weekly to answer letters from readers, which have been compiled into books one after another, and his readers have followed him for decades.

The series I Love to Ask Lian Yue has now been published in the sixth episode, and letters and replies from readers are collected every 2-3 years to compile a book.

In the book, different readers ask Lian Yue all kinds of life problems, and he always gives cool and original solutions.

In the process of reading, there is always a feeling that "life is a process of constantly solving all kinds of troubles and troubles".

You feel that you have all kinds of troubles and life is not smooth. Don't you know that people who are taller than you, shorter than you, prettier than you, uglier than you, poorer than you, richer than your lover, and more obedient than your children have all kinds of troubles ..... In these different "troubles", human beings continue to survive and form a colorful world.

Readers who write letters in books are faced with all kinds of troubles and problems:

Some people are distressed because they are too introverted to find an object;

Some people don't know which object to choose because they are too extravagant;

Some people are distressed because their loved ones have not made progress;

Someone is too ambitious to accompany her troubles because of her lover;

Some people have to worry about dink's indecision;

There are female doctors who have been forced to have three children;

Some people worry that they can't buy the first suite;

Some people are worried about buying a third suite;

There are also many obstacles from the family background, unreliable father, cowardly mother, helpless sister in law and arrogant mother-in-law. ......

Life is like a play, it's even more wonderful than a play. There is everyone's shadow in it, including you, me and the person we have met.

The series I Love to Ask Lian Yue has been paid attention to and sought after by countless readers for 20 years, and it is still going on today, because Lian Yue's answer is always unique, sharp and sober, just like a scalpel, cutting your focus and letting you see your purulent blood.

Although sometimes people who ask for help will be humiliated and ashamed to face it, you have to admit that his prescription is bitter medicine and the world is awake.

His world outlook and values are pragmatic, positive, healthy and sober, which is of great guiding significance to life.

List one or two.

0 1. Most of a person's troubles come from wanting to change the other person.

Many of us are influenced by the law of causality and think, "I am so good to you, why are you not good to me?" Or "I'm right, why don't you listen"? The implicit answer is "you should be good to me and listen to me."

Lian Yue told us that it is a normal emotional reaction for an adult's autonomy and independence to be violated by others, which will lead to resentment and resistance.

No matter how right you are, don't force others to change. Asking and discussing is ten thousand times better than ordering and condemning.

Young people should be self-reliant, work hard, save more money, buy a house as soon as possible and pay off their mortgage.

Many troubles of young people actually come from having no money. There is no denying that money can solve many problems.

"Wealth is the reward of courage, talent and morality. The richer the place, the higher the moral standard. "

And Lian Yue thinks that "men should write a house before marriage into the marriage law". It is irresponsible of a man not to give his family a stable and safe place to live.

"A man who has money and doesn't buy a house for his family can't marry." ?

"Without a sense of security, love will not exist."

I can't agree with you anymore.

03.？ Living your own life is your greatest responsibility, and you don't have to be anyone's "virgin".

There are also parents who have been holding you back, brothers and sisters who have been digging holes and need your help, which have seriously affected your life. What should you do?

Lian Yue tells you that "the biggest responsibility of a good man is to protect himself, and this is the meaning of being a good man."

Society will not become better because you keep filling holes for others, and the person you help will not become better, but everyone will do a good job of themselves and manage their families, and society will become better and better.

04. To change yourself, it is inevitable to be brave in change and upward.

Young man, don't be afraid to make mistakes when making decisions.

It is only a matter of time before a person becomes rich by establishing correct values and money views.

05

Lifelong self-education is the foundation and basic accomplishment of a person.

After studying in school for more than ten years, the most important thing to learn is "self-learning and self-education."

It is never too old to learn, and the life length of human beings will increase in the future society. Constantly learning new knowledge and expanding the width of life will make your life more meaningful.

It has been said that not reading is just experiencing one kind of life, while reading can experience thousands of kinds of lives.

The same is true of one's mind. Learn more about the thoughts of some wise men, and you will find that there are many perspectives and solutions to problems in life.

Let yourself go forward happily with pain and trouble.