The best state between lovers is not talking about love, not talking about love, but fighting together!

More than one person asked me on Weibo, "What is the best state for two people to be together?" In my opinion, there is no standard answer to this question.

Two people in love are actually like Zhou Yu and Huang Gai, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to get hurt. I've seen people who are inseparable all day, bickering at both ends for three days, flirting with people and pretending to be passers-by in front of acquaintances in private.

The state between lovers is nothing more than the mode of getting along, as long as you feel natural and comfortable.

I know a Leo girl who has been in love with her boyfriend for nine years. Once we went out for tea, I couldn't help asking about her love experience. She's very straightforward. Barabara told me a lot. She said that the best way for lovers to get along is that he plays with him and I play with mine. After that, we can chat together, as simple as that.

I was confused at the time. I said, why should he play his game? Did you play yours? Shouldn't lovers be bored together all day?

She suddenly became a queen, and she said, you just made a big taboo. Not many men actually like clingy girls. You must learn to create your own space.

She said that she had never harassed her boyfriend while he was playing games. When he didn't contact her actively, she never asked him where he was. When other girls are angry because their boyfriends always play games, she is eating, chatting and shopping with friends in the circle; While other girls were bombarded by phone messages because their boyfriends didn't take the initiative to contact, she was happily doing her nails in a nail salon. She told me that women should have their own life circle, a cup of tea, three or two confidants, and push a cup for a change, instead of always revolving around a man.

I asked her, don't you feel lonely with such love?

She said with a smile that her heart is full and there is no loneliness.

I was busy when he was working; While he was playing games, I was watching American TV series. When he went out for dinner with his gay friends, my best friend and I were having dessert. He has his circle and I have mine, but it doesn't mean that we don't have each other in our hearts.

I don't bother him when he is playing games, because I know he is busy with work and has little time to relax. My friend shouted "black eye", and then he ran away like a fart. When he didn't contact me actively, why didn't I ask him where he was going? Because I know he must have something in his hand and can't get away. When he's finished, he'll come to me.

My friend and boyfriend are getting married soon, and I envy them from the bottom of my heart, because she successfully turned her school uniform into a wedding dress.

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Many girls are prone to lack of security in the process of getting along in love. For example, if the other person replies slowly, he will start to worry about anxiety. Every minute, he has an obsessive-compulsive disorder. He looks at his mobile phone every three seconds and stares at the screen. But people may just be called by the boss to run errands, or their mobile phones are turned off, or they are in a meeting, or they haven't realized what to reply immediately, or they just don't return after they have returned to that time.

I once read an article on the internet, which roughly means that the speed at which a person replies to a message can show how much he cares about you. When I was in college, I used this article as a guide to love teaching. Once the other party didn't reply for a second, I thought he didn't care about me, so there were many inevitable quarrels. To this day, I still remember what he said to me. He said, you are busy with yours, and I am busy with mine. Isn't that good? Why do you have to haunt me with nothing?

Yes, why do you have to pester him with nothing?

I know a girl who had a long-distance relationship in her junior year. Her boyfriend is one year older than her and she is not in the same school, so she is particularly insecure. She stipulated that her boyfriend should call him twice a day, once in the morning and once in the evening. She also stipulated that boyfriends should report their whereabouts, where they went, what they did and who they were with. My boyfriend was very cooperative at first, but after a year, he was a little at a loss. I happen to know them both. Once this boy complained to me on QQ. I feel so tired,' he said.' I feel like I'm being watched every day. Call her regularly, but sometimes we have nothing to say, so we have to keep silent, which is embarrassing.

I said that long-distance relationships are always like this. You should be considerate of other girls.

He said with a wry smile, who will understand me?

I'm a senior, and I'm busy practicing and looking for a job. Every day, recruitment units in the talent market run around for fear of missing opportunities. Online resumes have been submitted n times, and many of them have fallen into the sea. As you know, my major is not easy to find, and I am worried to death all day. But she is still wondering whether I called today, whether I called on time, why I was late, and why I kept silent on the phone ... I really want to say that I have my troubles and don't want to talk when I am in a bad mood. What I long for is understanding and comfort, not questioning and quarreling.

You must be familiar with the story of a girl and her boyfriend. Yes, such stories are staged every day. People always say that long-distance love is painful, long-distance love is difficult, and long-distance love rarely makes a positive result, but what I want to tell you is that everything depends on people's efforts. Don't blame the matter itself, blame the two parties involved.

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In fact, the sense of security is for yourself. This sentence is not unreasonable. Many men and women just take each other too seriously, expect too much from each other, and chase each other all day, just like the earth turns around the sun and turns off the original orbit.

Imagine how you live without a lover. All I can think of is that you will walk, play ball and go shopping with your friends; Buy a dish, cook a meal and chat with your parents; Discuss a trip with colleagues, rub a hemp and climb a mountain. This kind of life seems to be rich enough to open a flower.

This reminds me of what a Leo girl told me: My heart is full, so I can't be lonely.

Yes, many times, it is because I am too idle that I spend a lot of energy on some trivial things.

Love is a test, and getting along is a science. If both sides can be honest with each other, there will be no suspicion and fear. If there is no doubt, there will be no crisis of confidence. If you trust each other from beginning to end, you will not quarrel, but will understand him and tolerate her.

Three or four years ago, I was an out-and-out little girl, ignorant and dependent on others. Later, I opened my own radio station on the Internet and found a long-lost sense of belonging. Now, I have taken another step forward on the road of writing, and I feel that my heart is really rich.

Teacher Z always said that I disappeared when I was busy. I said I was so absorbed in forgetting my surroundings.

It's almost half a month since we last met. He works overtime every day these days. In order to achieve the company's goals, he went to various enterprises, large and small. At the busiest time, he worked overtime until two o'clock in the morning and went to work in high spirits the next morning.

I may be too busy. Work during the day and think about how to make radio programs more exquisite at night, how to write high-quality articles, how to interact with listeners and readers, and how to better operate WeChat official accounts. ...

I saw Mr. Z's circle of friends that day, at 5: 30 in the morning on Huancheng North Road. Before the dim street lights went out, the sky was a little fish-belly grey, and there were few cars passing by. The whole city is as quiet and peaceful as a sleeping baby. He stood on the high 23rd floor and quietly took the whole picture. I suddenly feel a little distressed.

No matter how hard he tried, he never complained in front of me. I often feel wronged for him, but he always tells me with a smile that if you don't fight against difficulties, you are in danger of being attacked by yourself. So, we are really as agreed in advance, he is busy with his, I am busy with mine, independent but tacit. Every time we are busy, we can always make an appointment to go out for a meal, drink to the future and drink to ourselves.

If you ask me, the best state between lovers is not to talk about love, not to say love, but to work together. After the struggle, go out to relax and eat meat. Compared with disappointment and missing, we should learn to be rational and work hard.

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Don't waste time on meaningless disputes, and don't waste your youth playing among flowers. Lovers talk about love, but if there is no material guarantee, how can there be romance, how can there be enjoyment and how can there be a future?

I can get emotional talk from netizens almost every day. Frankly, negative energy is bursting. I'm not saying that my boyfriend cheated, but that my girlfriend is overbearing and willful. Friend, it's time for you to grow up. Don't waste your youth in the most struggling years. If you blindly correct each other's mistakes, I tell you, you can never correct them, because there are no perfect people in this world.

Lover, lover, under the word love is a heart. This shows that love needs to be taken care of.

I met several couples who agreed to be together one minute and turned against each other the next. The reason is that most people don't like each other so much, but they don't know how to refuse under the soft and hard bubble of each other, so they agree to express their love and barely stay together. After being together, the one who pays more gradually becomes psychologically unbalanced, and always asks the other person to be as sincere as when he (she) chased him (her). As a result, prejudice, unwillingness and suspicion are all staged, and a war of words is on the verge.

Why bother?

If you don't like him very much at first, please keep your distance from him, don't give him hope and don't accept it. You know, ambiguity is as terrible as promiscuity, and both are demons.

Of course, if you like someone, you must learn to be rational. Sometimes I know that there are tigers in the mountains, and I prefer the tiger mountain. That's your fault. A moth must master a degree to put out the fire. If you are not careful, you may burn yourself.

Dear, I hope you can learn to be rational, independent and strong. You know, each of us is an individual. Whether it is love or life, we go out and represent ourselves. A person with a strong heart will not be afraid of any difficulties and obstacles. Such a person is the most attractive. You should learn to give yourself a sense of security so that you won't get lost in the torrent of love.

From today on, don't cling to the person you love, don't beg him all the time, and don't worry about love all day. Life is not just about falling in love, there are many other things waiting for you to do. Remember, you are nobody's accessory, and you don't need to turn yourself into a dissatisfied housewife or a tyrant. Couples should have their own independent space, so that they can hug each other and breathe freely.

The best state between lovers is probably that you watch your little movie as a mask, listen to your songs, and he watches his NBA and plays his games. After that, we went out for a midnight snack and a delicious meal. Happiness is so happy and simple. Do you like this article? Share this article with more people ~

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