Psychogeographic Boundary: Are you in charge of your website?

This is my understanding of The Birth of Self, article 3 1. (Zhou Geng)

We know that breaking into houses is a very dangerous thing in the United States, especially when you threaten homeowners, because many Americans have guns at home ... but the more fundamental reason is that they have a strong sense of territorial boundaries and personal property rights protection.

It is of course normal for a person to break into your home and attack you and your family, because he is invading your territory. But if parents come to your house after marriage, who is the host and who is the guest? Everyone can make it clear from the point of view, but it is often difficult to put it into a specific situation. For example, many parents will regard their son's daughter-in-law's home as their own.

There are even many cases of divorce, all because parents don't put themselves in the right position and want to be masters of their children's small families, and mother-in-law will be one of the most obvious factors.

Teacher Wu Zhihong thinks, "Although both mother and son have children, after all, in social culture, it is easy to regard the married daughter's home as someone else's, but it is easy to regard the married son's home as their own. If the mother and son are too healthy and the mother-in-law has a strong desire to control, then once the mother-in-law lives in her son's house, there will be problems. "

"Men and mothers-in-law must understand that in a son's small family, there is only one hostess, that is, the son's partner and the mother-in-law's daughter-in-law."

This is the most common problem of blurred geographical boundaries in real life.

When children are young, if parents often invade their children's territory, then children may become like their parents and invade other people's space at will. At the same time, they may not have a better sense of self-protection, because they are used to being violated by their parents and will not notice when they are violated by others.

There is a little poem that comes from the heart-

If you can't make your own decisions on your own territory, your territory will become a colony of others.