After dating love rat for three years, she lost six lives. In marriage, should women pay blindly?

I once saw a news that made me very angry.

A woman in Hangzhou tried to commit suicide by jumping into the river, but fortunately she was rescued by enthusiastic people and police. After the police rushed to the scene, they learned that the woman Tao had just finished the abortion and was still sitting on a miscarriage. Her boyfriend broke up and disappeared. Tao called her boyfriend many times, but he didn't answer, so she had the idea of suicide and wanted to jump into the river to end her life.

After careful inquiry, the police found that Tao had had five abortions during his three years with her boyfriend, which was outrageous!

What a hateful love rat! Her girlfriend has done so much for her that she was allowed to have five abortions in three years. Not only irresponsible, but also disappeared. Force the girl to death. This inhuman person will be punished!

However, while I hate this man, I feel sorry for this girl. Sad for his misfortune, angry for his indisputable. Girl, when you had your first abortion, you should have clearly realized that your boyfriend is definitely a love rat. If a man loves you, he will never let you hurt his body. Not only does he not cherish your body, but he is also willing to destroy his own flesh and blood. You still stubbornly love this beast, you can only say that it is a silly girl.

She is not so ignorant as how stubborn she is; It is not so much how much she loves this man as how much she is infatuated with him. Presumably, the more time, energy, material and opportunities girls put into this relationship, the harder it is to let go at this time.

Pay blindly, but ask for nothing in return. This is a taboo in emotional marriage.

-02-

This reminds me of the experience of a reader friend, who is also a silly girl.

Lv Xiao and her husband have just been married for 4 years, and she has found that her husband doesn't love himself.

Lu Xiao loves her husband very much. It was because of the husband that Lu Xiao pursued that the man agreed to marry her.

In this relationship, Lu Xiao has always been humble. She pays silently every day and is silently good to her husband. At the beginning, Lu Xiao's family was fairly rich, and that man was just a college student from the countryside. In the city, he has no car or house, only his weak parents and debts.

Lu Xiao was hopelessly in love with him and wanted to marry him without any dissuasion. But everyone around you knows that men don't love her at all. Everything is just her narcissism.

This man later married Xiao Lu, which did not rule out the reason of money. However, Xiao Lu doesn't care, she just wants to have a man.

After so many years of marriage, men have been indifferent to Lu Xiao. Lv Xiao became a humble party in love, and every day she only longed for a man to give herself a little love.

-03-

Lu Xiao has always wanted a child, a man who has been begging for three years. Only one man promised her. But during Lu Xiao's pregnancy, she found out that this man had cheated him.

At that moment, Lu Xiao collapsed, and she couldn't figure out why her husband betrayed herself. I love him so much, I give him everything, I am only good to him, but this can't change a man's heart.

Lu Xiao hasn't found out what she did wrong. I want a divorce, but I feel unwilling. Life is so hard.

In fact, in this marriage, Xiao Lu is not wrong. If she is wrong, she can only say that she loves the wrong person.

Every girl longs for an unforgettable love. Once love appears, they are often blinded by romance, can't see each other's shortcomings, and can't tell each other's real purpose. In love, blind love, all-out love, the last one who gets hurt is himself. The more you pay, the higher the sinking cost; The deeper the injury, the less willing to quit.

-04-

In economics, sunk cost is such. Refers to the cost that cannot be changed by any decision now or in the future because the past decision has already taken place. Simply put, it means that irreparable expenses have occurred, such as time, money and energy.

This sunk cost also exists in love and marriage. Just like the suicide girl and Xiao Lu mentioned above, they paid too much in their relationship, but when they knew that their relationship had broken down, they were reluctant to leave because they paid too much. The result can only be deeper and deeper.

For example, a netizen in Zhihu said, "Sunken costs are like leftovers at home. If you eat them, it will be harmful. If you don't waste it, you eat it all. As a result, diarrhea is light and heavy, and it is two pounds fatter. Over time, it will grow into a big fat man. ...

Indeed, compared with feelings, the metaphor of leftovers is a bit light. But the fact is the same. I know I'll get deeper and deeper if I get deeper. Shouldn't I let go?

So, leftovers, throw the trash can! Love rat, dismissed, go as far as possible!

-05-

In marriage, if you meet someone who is not worth paying, don't feel reluctant and continue to pay.

Timely stop loss is the first thing we should do.

Become a better self. No one is born with his own light, and people become bright in the process of constantly looking for their own bright spots; No one is always smooth sailing, and koi fish has joined the body. Those shining women have been running forward, struggling all the way, fighting monsters, upgrading, and becoming better themselves.

I hope every girl can set a goal for herself and go all out to pursue it. To be a better self, will you regret the sunk cost you paid before? Still worried that no one will appreciate it? Still worried that there is no way out?