Many people are afraid of getting married. What are they afraid of?

Most people who are afraid of getting married have seen unhappy marriages and are afraid to go their own way. Some people are afraid of getting married because they are afraid of losing their feelings after marriage. Some girls are afraid to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law badly. Some women are scared away by all kinds of childbirth events, so they are afraid of having children.

In fact, most people who are afraid of getting married are afraid of getting married because their parents are unhappy.

First, I'm used to too many unhappy marriages, and I'm afraid I'll follow their old path. For children, their parents' marriage has the greatest influence on them. If both parents are unhappy in marriage, then children will be afraid of getting married when they grow up.

I have a friend Koharu, whose mother is a very strong woman. She scolds her father every day when she is uncomfortable, and even uses foul language. Whenever he speaks for her father, her mother will call him a baiwenhang.

Over time, Koharu had no expectation for marriage, so he felt that if he married a woman like his mother, he would lead a restless life, and he would never get married.

Koharu is 33 years old and has no plans to get married, so Koharu is only influenced by his parents' unhappy marriage.

Many young people are also like this, because they are afraid of taking the old road of parents' marriage and quarreling every day after marriage.

But just because our parents are unhappy in marriage doesn't mean that our marriage will be unhappy. As long as we can find a suitable person, we can still live happily.

Second, some people are afraid that their feelings will fade after marriage. Most people are looking forward to marriage, but with the increasing divorce rate, many people think that their feelings will fade after marriage, and it is better to stay in love.

Wu Junru and Chen Kexin's daughters are very old, but they have never got a license or divorced. The reason for this is that Wu Junru was hurt too deeply by Delfino.

Shortly after Alejandro Delfino dated Wu Junru, the other party didn't like Wu Junru's role as a clown, and was ashamed of his girlfriend, and finally broke up.

Wu Junru directly put forward not to get married after meeting Chen Kexin, so after two people lived happily together for so long, they still didn't get married and didn't even intend to get a license.

So some people are afraid that their feelings will fade after marriage and they will lose each other, so they are afraid of getting married.

In fact, no one can change whether they are married or not. We just cherish each other when we are in love.

Third, some girls will be afraid to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. There are too many contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Many men turn to their mothers for help, which makes many girls afraid to get married and even unwilling to live with their mother-in-law.

I have a friend, Xin Wei, who is afraid of getting married. Her mother-in-law didn't like her before she got married. She didn't even buy her a pair of shoes on her wedding day, let alone give her money, so Xin Wei is sometimes very painful.

Later, when I gave birth to a daughter, I had more conflicts with my mother-in-law, so I communicated with my husband and lived separately. Now their relationship is also quite good.

Xin Wei told us that if we had not lived separately, maybe she and her husband would not be here today. After all, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is too difficult.

Therefore, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also one of the reasons why many people are afraid of marriage. After all, many mother-in-law really want their daughter-in-law to suffer what she has suffered.

As a man, if you want a happy marriage, you should still protect your daughter-in-law. After all, your mother has your father's love. You should love your daughter-in-law, and don't let her be afraid to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Fourth, some women are afraid of having children. Although the level of science and technology is getting more and more developed, the pain of giving birth to a child also scares many women, because the pain of grade 10 is equal to the pain caused by 10 rib fracture at the same time, which is unbearable for many men.

In addition, many mothers-in-law still have the idea of son preference, which leads many women to be reluctant to have children, because they need to adapt to their new role quickly after giving birth, and may be scolded by their husbands and in-laws.

In fact, giving birth to children is also a process that women must go through in their lives. If they are born earlier, their health will recover quickly, so let it be.

And in marriage, you don't know what kind of person your husband is until you have children, and the happiness that children bring you is beyond your imagination. Nature is the only way for women. Why are you so scared? Just let nature take its course.

Five, if you want a happy marriage, two people must understand each other. If you want to have a happy marriage, it is not enough to rely on one side's patience. My cousin was the first to get married, and the other side was patient with her. He knows my cousin has a bad temper and always coaxes him and holds him in his hand.

But my cousin never fell in love with each other, so she finally divorced. Now that my cousin is married again, this man is obviously not as good to my cousin as his ex-husband.

But the cousin also figured it out and gradually changed her personality, and the two lived happily.

Everyone is afraid of marriage for different reasons, but one thing is certain, the influence of family is indispensable, and children will be eager to get married after seeing their parents' happy marriage.

On the other hand, they will be very afraid of getting married. In addition, the divorce rate is getting higher and higher, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is getting bigger and bigger. Many women are eager for marriage on the one hand and afraid of marriage on the other.

However, if you want to have a happy marriage, you must understand each other. The husband understands that it is not easy for his wife to keep the house, and the wife understands that it is not easy for him to make money. Husbands should protect their daughters-in-law more when they encounter conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and women should also influence their mother-in-law with their own practical actions, so that marriage can be happy.