Hu Xiao's Silhouette II Love Story

Happy guests: Hu Xiao and Jiang Xuemei.

Interview time: June 6, 2006 at 65438+ 10/01

With the joining of Chengdu singing area, Super Girl is becoming more and more popular. In Chengdu, it was with his colleagues that they made unremitting efforts to make dream-chasing girls, Jane Zhang, He Jie,, and, walk on the Avenue of Stars. Today, Hu Xiao, the director of Chengdu Singing Area and the host of Chengdu TV Station, is a guest in our emotional live room to tell you the romantic and sweet love and happy marriage story between him and his wife Jiang Xuemei.

The husband is a famous TV presenter in Chengdu, and the wife is the boss of a company. Such a marriage combination is enviable. With the development of their career, their marriage once faced a test. Behind the disturbing divorce rumors, they still love each other deeply after nearly 20 years of acquaintance.

Talked to each other all night without talking about feelings.

1987, I was admitted to the Foreign Languages Department of Sichuan University. Jiang Xuemei is a sophomore in the Chinese Department of Sichuan University. We were also admitted to Sichuan University Radio Station. I am an announcer and she is an editor. The first time I met her was at a meeting in the old auditorium of Sichuan University. The autumn sunshine slanted in from the window more than two meters high and shone warmly on her. She is wearing a white sweater and is surrounded by golden sunshine. She began to introduce herself: "My name is Jiang Xuemei, an 86-year-old Chinese student." Gentle voice, golden sunshine, girl in white. At that moment, I fell in love with her at first sight as if I had seen a fairy. I kept this beautiful feeling in my heart for two years.

Later, I became the director of Sichuan University Radio Station, and she became the editor-in-chief. In the noisy life, the two of us are always quiet. On the afternoon of April 25th, 1989, I invited her to the "small world" cafe in Chengdu University of Science and Technology (now the western part of Sichuan) for coffee. I walked round and round, and after two or three hours, I finally confessed to her, but she refused, and I was very depressed. To vent my disappointment, I went all over Sichuan University. When I returned to my residence in Sichuan University Radio Station, I found her sitting at the door. It turns out that the girls' dormitory is closed, and she wants to come back to me. I lit a row of candles on a big table, sat down and chatted with her face to face, but I didn't talk about my feelings, so I left it all night unconsciously.

The next afternoon, I wrote a long letter and gave it to her along with a tape I had recorded for her before. I still remember that in that tape, I recorded Chyi Chin's "The Train is Leaving" and some English songs. At noon on the third day, on the way to the canteen to cook, she gave me two movie tickets. I asked her doubtfully, "If you give me two tickets, who will I go with?" She smiled: "Why are you so stupid?" Turn around and float away. Looking at her back, I suddenly realized that my heart was ecstatic.

The memory of falling in love is full of sunshine.

In order not to affect our study, we deliberately keep our distance. But in order to connect feelings, I often put windmills or beads in the small cupboard in front of the library. She puts some strawberries or apples in it, or writes letters and cards to each other. The small cupboard where students put their schoolbags has become our treasure. Open with expectation every day, I don't know what surprises the other party has created. At that time, we used to write words on cards or letters, just like texting now.

1989 In May, she went to live with her aunt. I went to see her one afternoon, but I was afraid to go upstairs. I just sat downstairs by the flower stand, playing "GreenSleeves". After blowing for half an hour, she opened the window and looked down. I thought she would come down soon, I don't know, just from 5 pm to 10. Halfway through, I picked the biggest Osmunda flower on the flower stand, quietly went upstairs and stuck it in the door before coming down. In the afternoon 10, suddenly, the lights of several flashlights flashed at me: "What are you doing here?" I said wait for someone. Wait for who? Upstairs. Which one? I dare not say, so I was invited to the security room, because I was afraid of being locked up for one night, so I confessed. Her uncle took me downstairs. The red Osmunda was given to her by her uncle.

During the winter and summer vacations that year, we wrote a letter, sent an express mail or sent a telegram every two days. I wrote in French: "You are my bride."

Soon, she will be a senior. I copied her graduation thesis word for word. Her hometown is Zigong and her parents want her to go back. But I hope she will go to my hometown Chongqing and wait for me to graduate. Finally, we decided to let her stay in Chengdu. But it's not easy. We don't have any relationship or background, so we have to go to various units to find, hit a wall, find again, and hit a wall again. Later, she managed to be assigned to a pharmaceutical factory in Tianhui Town. In order to meet, we will ride a bike for an hour and a half. Communication was inconvenient at that time. In order to answer her phone, I had to run from my residence to the next floor. Once I heard the phone ring. I didn't have my key, so I went in through the window to answer her phone. And if she wants to answer the phone, she must come out of the dormitory and run to the office building more than 100 meters away to answer it. One night, she vaguely felt that the phone rang and flew past in the dark. After answering the phone, a person returned to the dormitory in the dark, gloomy, and she was afraid. At that time, I loved so hard, but I was also very happy. Looking back now, my memory is full of sunny days, simple, beautiful and happy, just like that movie by Jiang Wen.

Get married. The whole wedding is like a party.

199 1 I graduated from university in July and went to Sichuan Economic Radio Station to apply for a program host. 1000 people applied for the exam, only me and another young man were admitted. What impressed me most was that I moved eight times in my first year of college graduation.

1992 At the end, we thought it was time to get married. At that time, we had no idea about hosting banquets and receiving bride price when we got married. My friend on the radio planned the wedding. 1On our wedding day on September 9, 993, a group of buddies came downstairs in a car borrowed from somewhere and said, "Go, get married!" So he took me and Jiang Xuemei away. The wedding was held in a bar owned by a friend of mine. The whole wedding is like a party. We didn't even eat, just drank water. All twenty or thirty presenters of our radio station take turns to preside over the ceremony. Men say how much they admire the bride, and women say how much they admire the groom. The whole wedding was teased by everyone. After the wedding, I am grateful to invite everyone to eat instant noodles and drink wine at home. My wedding is very participatory. It seems that everyone is getting married, except Jiang Xuemei and me. It is estimated that Hunan Satellite TV opened the program Happy Camp after learning from entertainment elements, haha.

Speaking of receiving wedding gifts, it's quite interesting. Our director gave me a thermos bottle with a plastic shell. Lin Dong, the host of our station, gave me a marriage law. We still keep a list of all the bride price. I miss the time I spent in Sichuan Economic Broadcasting, and I am very grateful to those guys.

It pains me to have a daughter watching her.

1in the summer of 994, she was pregnant. We didn't even have a rented house at that time. The most decent furniture is a TV set, and their wages add up to less than 2000 yuan.

In this way, I, a big boy who hasn't woken up, became a father in a trance. It was not until three days after the due date that she became ill. She was tired, so I happily took her to the hospital. Her father brought a washbasin and a quilt, and I brought a tape recorder and stereo. From the onset to the birth of the child, she was in pain for seven hours, grabbing her mother and my hand, but she didn't scream. I had to have a caesarean section. When I signed it, my hands were shaking. This is the life of the person I love most. For the first time, I am in awe of life.

When the nurse stood in front of me with her daughter in her arms, I was not as happy as other fathers. I just feel heartache and overload. "I'm afraid to drop it in my hand, but I'm afraid to melt it in my mouth." I bought a bunch of roses, tore off the petals and scattered them all over my daughter's crib. Looking at my daughter's quiet and sweet sleep, I suddenly remembered a passage in a book: "When I looked at my lovely little daughter, I thought that somewhere in this world, a boy with open pants and a runny nose would take her for himself, and I was very angry when I remembered it."

Having a daughter, we moved again. I rented a house in Sara and cleaned it. Then I packed my bags in Ximen and moved to Sara like an ant. This is the first time I feel responsible for my family as a man. Too realistic. Before, all I could think of was wine, moonlight, music and flowers. This move made me feel a sense of accomplishment, because I decorated this home.

Stay together, all ups and downs are happy.

When I became a father, I became more and more quiet. After 1995, our love life entered a quiet period. By the time I was 30 years old in 2000, I no longer coveted the excitement outside as before, but longed to go home, settle down and read books, and my family of three lived a pastoral life away from the noise on weekends. I used to like drinking coffee, but since last year, I have been infatuated with tea culture and Beijing opera.

Just as I was constantly trying to save myself, my wife devoted herself to her career. First, I worked night shifts for a long time, and then I traveled all over the country on business trips for half a year. We are all eager for each other's understanding and support, but no one can convince anyone. We began to have contradictions, the cold war, and we didn't talk for a few days. This indifference has strained the bond of marriage. Although we never quarrel, we just talk loudly, but there are rumors outside that we are divorced. However, when we have conflicts, as long as our daughter is ill, no matter how big the conflicts are, they will immediately unite in a daughter-centered family. Gradually, we learned to adjust and tolerate, and the sunny days came back.

Looking back now, although it was painful at that time, all the twists and turns and bumps were very happy, because those constituted memories and conversations between us. I even think that there must be bumps and bumps, so that our feelings can become thick and we can know what it is like to be heartbroken for each other.

I work in a TV station, doing entertainment programs, and naturally there are many beautiful women around me. However, when investigating beautiful women becomes a daily job, beautiful women will not become a fatal temptation.

We never realized that now we all spend our own money and never argue about it. You buy big items, I pay 60%, and she pays 40%. The same is true of buying a car and a house. But each of us has no private money, and this domestic model depends entirely on trust. When I wear a watch with a price of 100, I can buy her a GUCCI watch with a price of more than 4,000 without hesitation.

We have known each other for almost 20 years, but we still maintain our passion. After graduating from college, I taught her to play tennis, and I only played with her for 10 years. In the Spring Festival of 2004, we flew to the Hilton Hotel in Thailand to play tennis. Last year, it was her birthday during the Spring Festival. I booked a beach bar in a hotel in Langkawi, Malaysia, to celebrate her birthday with my friends. A special band played for us. When the chef was busy cooking and opening champagne, she was deeply moved.

Jiang Xuemei talks

"manage marriage with heart"

Hu Xiao's wife, Jiang Xuemei, is the boss of Borui Printing Company. What is the unique experience of this successful woman in managing marriage? On June 3rd, 65438 reporter interviewed Ms. Jiang by telephone and told us her "happy story".

The happiness of our marriage has a lot to do with the efforts of both sides. I used to be a good wife and mother, but in the past eight years, with the development of my career, I have changed a lot, and I can no longer take care of my family. Hu Xiao thinks I've become so heartless that they almost broke up. But it's not easy to build a home. We really can't give up on each other.

Recall that when we graduated from college, we stayed in Chengdu for love. We can walk around without buying a bed, but we must never buy carpets and candlesticks necessary for candlelight dinner. No matter how hard it is, we never give up this love. We firmly believe that as long as two people are together, there will be bread. Almost 20 years, we have changed from lovers to relatives and become part of each other's blood. Therefore, no matter how big the contradiction is, we will understand each other and tolerate each other. During the cold war, I flew from Nanchang to Lanzhou, and the plane forced to land in Yinchuan due to mechanical failure. I called him in tears when I was in shock. He didn't say anything, but I knew he was deeply shocked.

As a wife and CEO of the company, I have always been confused about how to balance my career and family. When our relationship was the most rigid and painful, I went to see a friend who was a psychiatrist. The expert made me reflect. I really ignored him. I once told him that I was busy and had no time to take care of my family and spend time with him and my daughter. But in fact these are all excuses. As long as you want, you can find time to spend with your family. Sometimes you can't do both, but he can see your efforts. I don't have any social life now. I will go home as soon as I finish my work. We'll sit in bed and talk all night. I will bring him into my work circle and make him understand me. He will also talk to me about his work and take me to the computer room to watch him cut films.

I never worry that as a public figure, he can't resist the temptation of the outside world. In the past, he was a radio host, and I was still jealous when there were female listeners offering flowers. Now I won't. One is based on self-confidence, and the other is that we are too affectionate to abandon each other easily. Hu Xiao is a person with a special sense of responsibility and high taste. His love for his daughter surprised me at first, and then moved me. His daughter is ill, so he can stay up all night.

A friend once said with emotion, "Many families have one flower, but your family has two flowers. It is very rare to have such a happy marriage."

Jianghu's Understanding of Marriage and Love

Jiang Xuemei: Long-term marriage is really easy to make people feel tired, so we should keep giving and creating.

Hu Xiao: I think love and marriage are separate. Love is a kind of emotion, which is changing anytime and anywhere for some reason. Love must be passionate, crazy, and heart-to-heart to melt each other. And marriage is the art of two people getting along, not the art of loving each other. This kind of getting along pays attention to relaxation, either far or near, or near or sparse. Our college classmates have been married for almost 20 years, but the marriage is still stable and the feelings are getting deeper and deeper, which is rare. I am very proud of this.