# Emotion # 65438+ I liked a girl at the age of 05, and I still liked her at the age of 25, even though she didn't like me.

In China, the real independence of girls is not 18 years old, but 25 years old.

This is an era with a main theme. Nutmeg is drifting away, the charm is coming, and the soul has basically taken shape.

If you look far enough, the rest of your life is closely related to the idea of being 25 years old.

You already know a little about love.

You must begin to know what life needs.

Also, determine what to do next. You must be stronger than God.

Dear, please remember:

1. Take a good look at your past lives.

In chronological order, make an annual chronicle, look at what you gained, lost, learned and regretted before you were 25, and see if the goals you set at the beginning have been realized ... This will help you better understand yourself and motivate yourself better.

I have been in love at least once and still believe in love.

Few couples succeed in their first love. When I was a teenager, I broke up mostly because I didn't understand love, but the love at that time must be true.

The same is true of love at the age of 25, although it may not be so pure. Love is a technical job, and the skills and principles you learn in the process of love are not easily given by others. And these things will affect your future marriage and even your life.

Fall in love with the person you love and marry the right person, and your life will be more complete. Let's make a regular account. If your first love is 20 years old and you break up two years later because of graduation or other factors, you still have at least two or three years to find a suitable man to marry. And if you fall in love for the first time at the age of 25 and break up two years later, you need more time to recover and find the right person slowly. Of course, if the right first love you met at the age of 25 is successful, then congratulations, you are very lucky.

I have the ability and can buy what I really want, but it is more expensive.

Most of the post-80s are late-maturing, but at this time, you have no reason to delay. You must be independent, which is the premise for 25-year-old girls to discuss happiness. If you don't decide to study for a doctorate in one breath, you have finished your studies and gone out into the society, and you are no longer qualified to ask your parents for money. When you meet something you like very much, or something you always want to start with, try to buy it for yourself, which is both a reward and a reward. I have the ability to reward myself, which is the "quality" and the source of self-confidence.

Don't expect the whole world to treat you as a princess.

The biggest tragedy at the age of 25 is that you still believe that you can conquer the world and any excellent man with your beauty; Still willfully take everything you get for granted, and you can forgive unreasonable troubles. In fact, people who recognize "reality" earlier and treat life with a realistic attitude can take fewer detours.

5. Don't put your inner pride on your face.

Maintain inner pride and love yourself, especially after accepting your imperfections, continue to love yourself. At the same time, leave humility on your face, which will make you integrate into the team and life.

6, don't rightfully act young.

Your actual age is 25, it seems to be 25. I won't really turn back to 18 just because I speak in a doll's voice and pout when I take pictures. If you carefully compare the photos taken a few years ago, your appearance may not have changed much, but your eyes must be very different from before. Each era has its own unique charm. Compared with 18 years old, you are more sensible, generous and decent now. If you are paranoid about act young, it only shows that you are seriously lacking in self-confidence.

7. Stop believing in "forever" and enjoy the present.

"Forever" is a nonexistent word. You must know now that the present happiness is the real happiness. 25 years old is the best time of your life. Don't dilute today's happiness with tomorrow's sadness, and don't disturb today's happy pace with tomorrow's happiness. In fact, people who can enjoy and accumulate happiness will have more happiness. If the "present tense" of love is depressed and tangled, it will certainly not be much better in the future.

8. Don't be led by your own heart.

Girls always like to be carried away by feelings. Compared with appearance and talent, you should also start to consider personality, family, education and other factors. Whether life is ultimately happy or not, love is the foundation, but not the whole. It is also important that two people's interaction and thinking patterns are synchronized. The heart will eventually disappear, even until you doubt whether it really existed.

9. Refuse to be intimate with an old married man.

Being too close to an old married man is like trying to skin a tiger. If he is not interested in you, he will keep his distance from you. If he is interested in you and you can't stand the temptation, you finally fail and get hurt. Even if you kill the original match, you still have to face the children who are separated from you. In a word, you can never be the final winner of this game.

10, you are over the age of unrequited love. If you like someone very much, please tell him generously.

Even if you fail, it's no big deal, at least you don't have to continue to delay your precious youth.

1 1. Don't think about people and things that don't belong to you.

The ex-boyfriend who hurt you asked how you were and answered "fine".

The ex-boyfriend you abandoned asked how you were and replied "fine".

Married men ask how you are and answer "fine".

None of them are yours.

12, don't change for anyone easily, and don't try to change others.

The first part is because you will be miserable if you don't do it yourself, and the second part is because you can't do it at all.

13, 25 years old, it's not a big deal to bring a condom with you.

If you still think that condoms should be prepared by men, it's hard to say that girls have condoms in their bags. This is definitely not reserved, but they are not responsible for themselves. Women's gynecological diseases are mostly caused by men. In addition to preventing unwanted pregnancy, condoms can also prevent the spread of diseases. In an emergency, it can also protect you from further harm.

14, don't use birth control pills as amulets.

After the age of 25, the disorder of hormone level directly leads to infertility.

If you don't want a tragedy, stop taking birth control pills frequently, especially Yuting, and you can't take more than one pill within six months. If he doesn't prepare condoms, prepare them himself. If he refuses to wear condoms, you can totally refuse him. If you don't care about yourself, making love can easily turn into committing crimes.

15, gynecological examination is no longer irrelevant to you.

Don't think that gynecological examination has nothing to do with you just because you are not married. As long as you have sexual experience, an annual gynecological examination is necessary. If possible, get a cervical cancer vaccine. 13 is effective until the age of 26. The sooner you get it, the better.

16, the passbook has at least three months' living expenses for unemployment.

This is the bottom line. Savings can be small, but at least you can guarantee that you will not starve to death within three months of unemployment. If there is no deposit, then you must have a sense of saving. Starting with bookkeeping, you will find that most of the expenses are actually unnecessary. Open source is very important, and so is throttling.

17, besides love, you must have one thing you really like.

Like anyone else, your youth and beauty are decreasing year by year, and the "benefits" they can win for you in love are also decreasing year by year. If your boyfriend is very motivated, you should keep up quickly, otherwise he will dislike you; If your boyfriend is decadent, you should stand on your own feet or you will be dragged down by him. Love is not a lifetime meal ticket, it needs to be added in many ways. At this point, you have completed at least one course in school and experienced the test of social work. You should have a general idea of what you are interested in and what you can do well. Stick to your interest in working for it, even if it is small.

18, even if you buy bonds, you don't keep your money in the bank.

In today's soaring prices, the money in the bank will only depreciate and never appreciate. Last year, I bought a catty of apples, but this year I can only buy half a catty of apples. It's not too late to start learning about investment and financial management, or it's too late to learn. If you think that the technical content of stock trading or fund buying is too high, you can start with investment insurance and national debt, or ask financial professionals to help you tailor your financial plan.

19, continue to maintain your ideals, but you must make a clear and realistic career plan.

Your current work status and platform will determine your situation in the next ten years. If a person still doesn't know what he is suitable for and wants to do after entering the workplace for three years, he probably won't know it in his life. After a mediocre career, it's up to you to make progress. Carefully analyze your current work situation and make short, medium and long-term plans. If you feel that the road ahead is boundless after analysis, find another way out quickly.

20. Work hard, but be prepared for unemployment.

In the 2008 financial crisis, Maersk laid off employees worldwide. An employee was called into the office, went in and out, packed his things and left after 30 minutes. Multinational companies are like this, not to mention other enterprises. Whether economically or psychologically, you should be prepared. Age is also a competitive advantage. The difference between being unemployed at the age of 25 and being unemployed at the age of 22 is that the new opportunities of the former are much smaller than those of the latter. At the age of 22, you will feel that unemployment is nothing, and it is a new day when you wake up. At the age of 25, you may lose sleep for a week.

2 1, don't jump ship frequently, especially don't jump ship easily in order to raise your salary.

Job-hopping is like divorce, with inertia. Jumping to the end is likely to accomplish nothing. Now, your career has entered a decisive period. At this time, the development platform is the most important. If the development platform is good, it is also good to reduce salary and jump ship.

22. Don't change cities easily.

Don't change cities easily unless you have a plan and the conditions are ripe. The cost of changing cities at this time is much higher than when you first worked. First of all, your work experience may be invalid because of geographical relations. Secondly, the contacts you have established over the years are basically zero. Third, does your boyfriend want to be with you? Even if he wants to, can he have such a good chance as you? Or, in a new city, how long will it take you to find someone you can love again? Most importantly, when your contacts and work experience are cleared, your age can't go back.

Before deciding to change cities, calculate the gains and losses. I believe you have the ability to decide whether to stay or not according to the result.

23. Don't be a panacea in the workplace, and don't expect yourself to be irreplaceable.

You can do anything, you are not good at anything, but the dispensable ending is to lose the competitiveness in the workplace. What a fresh graduate can do, so can you. Why does the boss have to spend two or three times his salary to support you? If you are not a senior technical talent, don't expect yourself to be irreplaceable. According to your own advantages, it is more practical to find ways to maximize your value. At the age of 25, you must start thinking about your position.

24. Try to appreciate your opponent.

You can be an opponent, knowing that he is equal to you. You didn't knock him down. He must have something you don't. Complementary advantages are the only way for you to beat him.

25. Raise the threshold for making friends.

The loneliest thing is no longer that no one is with you, but that no one lives in your heart. Playmates can't send loneliness. You are past the age when you need playmates and company. At the age of 25, I need to rearrange my friends and raise the threshold for making friends. Those who don't share your interests and have at least one good quality you appreciate, please be demoted.

26. Turn friends who can't be close friends into your contacts.

Even if you are really capable, it is difficult to succeed alone. There is a saying that it doesn't matter who you are, but who you are with. Networking determines your life to some extent. From the age of 25, you need to consciously accumulate contacts. You need to understand who you need to help you on the road to success, who is your direction of struggle and who is your reference. Generally speaking, people who support you unconditionally; Someone who is strict with you; People who appreciate you and support you are all people you should cherish.

27. Prepare one or two high-quality clothes in the closet.

You may only wear them once or twice a year, but once or twice is enough to make you the center of attention.

28. If it is a secret, don't tell anyone.

Keeping other people's secrets is a virtue; Keeping secrets is a necessary condition for growth. You finally need to face the world by yourself. Why not keep some privacy and keep the necessary distance for a long-term friendship? True friendship does not need to be consolidated by secrets.

29. Buy a classic simple model with the money for ten discounted goods.

From now on, the word "temperament" is more and more important to you.

30. Know what style of clothes you wear best.

Finding the right style is far smarter than following the fashion.

3 1, don't rush to buy luxury goods.

Now you can have your first luxury, but don't take buying luxury as your life pursuit. In fact, the main consumers of luxury goods in Europe and America are the middle class aged 40 to 60.

At your age, the most expensive skin care product should be eye cream, and the best cosmetic should be a smile.

Staying up late, bad habits, eyes can't lie, eyes can't make up. Heavy makeup will only accelerate your aging. 25 years old, you are not old enough to paint the wall. Use the money from cosmetics to buy skin care products, a better eye cream and your first essence. Moisturize, clean and go to bed early. Your smile is really beautiful.

33. Once the underwear is worn, loose or deformed, throw it away immediately.

This is not only for beauty, but also for health. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Breast cancer is the most common malignant tumor among women in the world. Choose appropriate underwear, massage regularly, check your breasts after menstruation, and give more love to your breasts.

34. Turn at least one interest into your specialty, even if it is such a small matter as singing and telling jokes.

The most popular person in the circle of friends must be humorous and special. Don't underestimate the role of telling jokes, singing and doing manual work. Although it is a trivial matter, it is an important part of a person's personality and personality charm, which can enhance your sense of existence and popularity. If you want to learn photography, go and learn it; If you want to learn the piano, go ahead and learn it. You are only 25 years old.

Go home and cry.

Try to hide your vulnerability. Crying in front of people at the age of 25 will not win sympathy for you, but will only make the enemy see your vulnerability and snigger at your vulnerability.

36. Don't always watch Korean dramas. Watching American TV shows can better exercise your logic.

Now you need not only emotion and romance, but also clear logic. American TV series is definitely the simplest and most interesting way to exercise logic in the world.

37. Spend the boring and daze time watching the news.

It's not entertainment gossip, but about "what's happening in the world today". You're not irrelevant to the world. Using breakfast time and cleaning time to pay attention to the city, country and world where you live can not only help you make correct decisions on the basis of mastering information, but also help you not be ignorant when talking to strangers.

38. Travel, visit museums and art galleries, and chat with local people.

Museums and art galleries are the places that can best reflect the connotation of a city, and people living there are the places that can best reflect the true face of a city. Knowing more about this will bring you much more gains than a pile of photos.

39. Try something you've rejected before, such as a dish you've never eaten, a book you'll never read.

Anyway, accepting dishes that have never been eaten before is one of the signs of maturity. At this age, open yourself to the world and think from another angle, and you will have a brand-new harvest.

40. Think clearly about what you really want.

Yang Lan once said in an interview that most women don't know what they want in their first marriage. What you thought you wanted before is actually not what you really want. People won't know their real needs until they have some experience. Now that you have some experience about your career and love, it's time to think about it.

4 1. Remember to call your parents at least once a week at any age.

25 years old, busy with love and promotion, parents must not be the focus of your life. But you have to understand that if you work in other places and come home only once a year, it will be really difficult for you to spend time with your parents in your life. No matter where you are, call home once a week. Parents won't ask you to do anything, but they will take it seriously.

42. Take the initiative to greet the friends you miss.

Don't haggle over who contacts first, who cares more. After the age of 25, it will become more and more difficult to get a real friend. Take the initiative to care about your old friends. A message, a short message, expressing your mourning and cherish is not simple. No matter how close friends are, they will be alienated if they don't contact for a long time.

43. Have the ability to cook and eat by yourself.

Fried rice with eggs is the minimum requirement. Be conservative, at least learn three dishes and one soup. At the age of 25, you don't have to be proficient in all kinds of housework, but at this time you have to understand that cleaning the room and cooking are also a manifestation of the ability to love.

44. Starting today, go to bed before 1 at the latest.

There is nothing to say about this. You need to take good care of yourself.

45. Don't believe all theories and books, including what we are telling you now.

There is no absolute right or wrong in the world, and sometimes right or wrong may just be reversed. The most important thing is the way you see the world. It is enough to choose what you think is right.