How to understand the three views euphemistically?

When dating, ask too directly, for fear of causing the other person's disgust; If you ask too tactfully, you are afraid that the other person will not understand what you mean, so how can you chat to quickly understand the other person's three views?

The word "three views" seems abstract and not specific enough. In fact, for an individual, it is nothing more than his attitude towards life, family concept, children's education concept, consumption concept, housework distribution, and how to deal with emotional contradictions. ...

These seemingly ethereal things will affect your future love life. For example, you like to enjoy a high-quality life, while Ta advocates frugality. Different consumption views will make your future life full of contradictions. After all, the most important thing in marriage is wealth.

1, see Ta's attitude towards life.

You can ask him: my friend resigned, and now he is free from the media. Isn't it amazing?

If you ask a similar question, you can judge whether he is a person who is content with the status quo and pursues stability, or a person who likes tossing and turning, and likes freedom.

2. Look at his attitude towards life

You can say: I saw such a thing yesterday, a boy/girl lived with the other half, and the room was really messy. Lost clothes, bags full of rubbish, blackened floors, my God, what a shock.

On this issue, you can see not only his views on cohabitation, but also his attitude towards housework and mess, and whether he thinks girls should do housework.

3. Look at his circle of friends

This circle of friends is to see who he plays with. After all, birds of a feather flock together. What kind of people his friends are, he is also very different.

If his circle of friends is more active, the things he usually does together are also more active, which shows that this person is also very good. 4. Chatting with friends (colleagues, ex, etc.). Also acceptable)

If you say these people, they have a sense of superiority, various opinions and like to find fault with others, which shows that this person is not very tolerant; If you talk to a person fairly, it means that this person has a better personality.

5. Look at his family values

You can ask him how to balance the relationship between parents, couples and children, how to appear and how to deal with it.

Of course, you can also ask him directly how his parents get along and how his family is. This is basically his future life.

6. Look at his values

90% of the conflicts after marriage are due to money. You can ask him this question in advance: My best friend and her husband each manage their own money, and my best friend feels that there is a gap between husband and wife. What do you think of this?

Through other people's similar stories, we can see what he thinks, and his point of view is basically the solution to this kind of thing.

7. Look at his educational philosophy.

You can ask him: the last time I saw someone sharing a room, her mother-in-law came to live with her children, and finally there was a contradiction. This question feels so realistic that it seems that every couple can meet it.

Listen to what he says, you can see the way he treats his parents and children, and you can also indirectly get whether he agrees to live with his parents after marriage.

You can also ask him, what do you think of many jokes about widowed parenting on the Internet?

Of course, it is not recommended to talk about these questions when we meet for the first time. You can ask them slowly with the contact between the two people. But it does not rule out that some people say one thing and do another. Such people also need to distinguish carefully in the process of getting along.