What is the experience of being dragged down by the family?

It is really helpless to be dragged down by the family of birth, and the influence of the family of birth may last for a lifetime. For example, when I was a child, my parents always quarreled at home and were always beaten and scolded for no reason. Then the child's childhood is unfortunate, and he will force himself to be a sensible person, learn to read, learn to feel, and make adults happy. This sensitivity and understanding also made him feel insecure. Even in intimate relationships, it is difficult for him to rely on others.

The way to save yourself

1, try to show yourself, don't hide. The misfortune that comes from a family is beyond our control. In this case, don't indulge yourself, don't dwell on the past, and blindly immerse yourself in pain and anxiety. Because, people grow up slowly, and from the perspective of living environment, they have slowly escaped from their families. You can choose friends, close lovers, live a happy life and have a relatively independent private space and life. Just like an unhappy childhood, let it stay in the past, and don't let it accompany you all your life.

2. Understand and think more, and let go of unnecessary anger and hatred. Some people subconsciously blame their parents for their unhappy childhood, but in fact, doing so will only bring deeper resentment. Therefore, we should try our best to understand and think about what happened in childhood and find a solution. In this way, your heart can be more peaceful and less stressful, and a happy life can come to you.

3. Seek the help of a psychologist if necessary. Sometimes, the psychological trauma brought to a person by being born in a family is very profound, and it can't be resolved and walked out by one's own strength. Therefore, if conditions permit, people from unhappy families should learn to seek professional psychologists, ask professionals for help, express their confusion and feelings, let people understand their thoughts and positions, relieve their pain as soon as possible and start over.