Gao EQ asked how old he was.

When you ask someone how old he is, you can talk about his hobbies, birthday, horoscope and so on.

I. Talking about * * with hobbies

By talking about people's hobbies, you can naturally introduce the topic and ask each other's age. For example, you can say, "I especially like watching Korean dramas. What about you? Do you like it too? " Then after the other person answers, you can continue to ask, "I guess you may be between XX and XX years old?" In this way, we can know each other's age in a relaxed and happy atmosphere.

Second, ask about the birthday.

You can ask each other's birthday and say, "Wow, you are from XX. I always thought you were XX! " "This way you can get a general idea of each other's age range, and at the same time let each other feel your concern for her.

Third, talk about the constellation.

Many people are interested in constellations. You can say, "I'm interested in constellations recently. What constellation are you? " Knowing each other's horoscope, you can estimate their age range and say, "I guess you may be between XX and XX." In this way, we can know each other's age in a relaxed and happy atmosphere.

The "answer back" skill with high emotional intelligence;

1, in a repetitive way, grab the other person's words first and then reply. When speaking, most people are used to putting important things behind. You can repeat the key content of the other party's second half sentence in a questioning tone first. By doing so, on the one hand, we can continue the dialogue without silence and embarrassment, and on the other hand, we can increase the time for self-reflection and make the reply more accurate.

In order to appear high emotional intelligence, you must learn to listen efficiently. Listen efficiently. Only when it's your turn to speak can you speak efficiently and answer more accurately. Especially in the face of each other's lengthy narrative, we should listen patiently, understand the key points in each other's words, grasp each other's psychology, and then respond to each other on this basis.

What the other party said was too sudden. When you are not ready, you might as well stop for three seconds before answering. Three seconds is not a long time, and it is also a gap between words. Take advantage of this gap, let the brain fully work, give full play to the brain, and quickly think about the content of the reply. This three-second pause is necessary and will not have any negative effects.

4. Pay more attention to accumulate your own knowledge at ordinary times. Speaking with content, in addition to mastering eloquence skills, the key is to have goods in your stomach, that is, knowledge. The source of this knowledge is nothing more than reading more books, reading more news and current affairs, learning more dry goods, and paying more attention to some online experts. This is still easy to do in the era of mobile Internet. The key is that you have this heart.