How to lead children to grow up in travel?

On Sunday night 1 1 I returned to my home in Beijing, ending a five-day family tour of four people in four places in the south of the Yangtze River. The five-day parent-child travel time not only gave the children a very good travel experience, but also a valuable experience during their growth.

This trip to Jiangnan started at the suggestion of her eldest daughter, who is 10 years old. She wrote an article about a garden in Yangzhou in this semester's Chinese test paper, saying that there are different stones in it. She thought it was very interesting, so she suggested going to a garden in the summer vacation, and we agreed at once. The children's suggestions are very important to us, so we arranged this trip as soon as the summer vacation. We not only visited a garden in Yangzhou, but also visited Zhenjiang, Suzhou and Zhouzhuang nearby, and experienced the original Jiangnan in depth.

"Life is the most important", that is, "I am very important", is one of the necessary psychological nutrition for every child, and it is also a very important foundation for children to establish a high sense of self-worth. Parents need to pay full attention to their children, not only to the children themselves, but also to their opinions, so this trip satisfied the psychological nutrition of the eldest daughter "I am very important" from the beginning.

During the trip, my wife and I have been repeating a sentence: this time is really the light of the day. After such a great trip, I continued to supplement my psychological nutrition with her.

At the same time, booking a hotel also allows her to attend every day. She checks hotel information on Ctrip. Hotels in Yangzhou chose garden-style hotels. When we arrived at the hotel, we found that the hotel was more beautiful than the photo. Every day we are proud to say: Look, the hotel I chose is good, right? We immediately responded: Yes, the great designer's vision is really great! This process is the process of constantly improving children's self-worth.

On the first day in Zhenjiang, we enjoyed the cool in a pavilion in Jinshan Temple. There is a four-year-old boy lying on the ground. His mother called him several times but he didn't get up. As a result, his mother pulled him up, then slapped him twice on the ass and head, and finally patted him on the face. The little boy sat there feeling wronged. At this time, other adults who came with him began to laugh at the little boy and his stolen goods. I don't know. The little boy's face has always been a grievance expression that he wants to cry but dare not cry, which makes people feel distressed.

It is difficult for children who grow up in this way of education to have a high sense of self-worth. Many parents need to make up lessons!

Traveling abroad will definitely involve shopping. There are all kinds of small shops in tourist attractions. In the past, there were no clear rules, and travel became less pleasant because shopping clashed with children. But during this time, children have developed good rules and habits, such as eating ice cream once a week and buying only one snack in the supermarket.

Before this trip, I also told my two daughters the rules of shopping and bought souvenirs everywhere. Even if Ann is only 4 years old, she can abide by it well. In a garden in Yangzhou, An An decided to buy a bubble stick, which can throw beautiful soap bubbles. This is her favorite toy, but it is not suitable for adults to buy bubble sticks that can be bought everywhere in Geyuan, but we respect Ann's opinion and confirm with her: Ann, you can only buy one souvenir in Yangzhou. Have you decided to buy this? Then you can't buy other souvenirs. She nodded to confirm, and then we bought it for her. She played happily for a while. As a result, she accidentally spilled all the bubble water and couldn't play. She cried and asked for more, but her wife insisted on the agreed rules and didn't buy her any more. She also needs to learn how to take care of her things. I cried with my mother in my arms for a while, and then I got well. I continued to play happily and enjoyed feeding bread to the goldfish in the garden.

Later, my sister took a fancy to a daily fan and bought it. Ann also wants to buy a fan. We told her we couldn't buy it today, but she already bought a bubble stick. She can buy it again when she goes to Suzhou tomorrow. She didn't cry. The next day, she bought a fan in Suzhou Humble Administrator's Garden.

When two children make clear the rules and know that they can only buy the agreed amount of things, shopping becomes very harmonious. In Dongguan Old Street and Yangzhou Zhouzhuang, they visited countless stores, and many souvenirs were very interesting, but the children's hearts were very fixed, so they could enjoy these interesting things without thinking about how to get their parents to buy me more things.

There are many children in the scenic spot crying for their parents to buy things. This situation is caused by unclear rules or parents' inability to enforce them resolutely. Unclear rules will also undermine children's sense of security, but within clear rules, children will experience a sense of security. Sense of security and value are the two most important cornerstones of a child's healthy physical and mental growth.

During the trip, both children share the responsibility of looking after luggage, and four-year-old Ann is no exception. This is a process of cultivating a sense of responsibility.

The first stop of this trip is Zhenjiang. When I took the high-speed train from Beijing to Zhenjiang, four people were taking selfies with their mobile phones. APP software is equipped with rabbit ears, red face and other very cute shapes. The four people made various expressions and had a good time. Suddenly, they heard the broadcast that Zhenjiang was coming, and it only stopped for 3 minutes. The four men suddenly panicked. There is a pile of food and books on the small table, several bags on the ground and three suitcases on the luggage rack. Results 10 years old had the fastest response every day, and immediately began to pack things on the small table, quickly stuffed them into several bags, picked up the bags and walked out. I immediately stood in my seat and took off my luggage one by one. The passengers who got on the bus have come in. The four of us went out against the stream of people. Every day we carry two heavy bags ourselves and rush out of the car first. When they arrived at the platform, all four people laughed, which was a false alarm.

My wife and I are very happy to see that our eldest daughter is very responsible at the critical moment every day, taking the initiative to pack things and carry heavy things to ensure that we can get off the bus smoothly. We recognize it immediately every day: critical moment, too responsible! She was also very happy to hear that.

I think through this incident, she gained a new identity for herself: I am a responsible person.

The five-day trip didn't take long. We went to Zhenjiang, Yangzhou, Suzhou and Zhouzhuang, but the family of four didn't feel tired or anxious during the trip, thanks to the high-speed rail and self-driving car rental.

It only takes more than four hours to take the high-speed train from Beijing to Zhenjiang. When we arrived in Zhenjiang, we immediately went to the Ehi car rental shop next to us to pick up the car we booked, and the procedure was completed in a few minutes. We drove directly to Jinshan Temple, with all our luggage in the car, and then drove to Yangzhou at night. On the third day, I drove from Yangzhou to Zhenjiang high-speed railway station to return the car, took the high-speed train to Suzhou, and then rented a car in high-speed railway station, Suzhou. Then I visited Humble Administrator's Garden and Hanshan Temple, and drove to Zhouzhuang for two nights. I drove back to Suzhou and high-speed railway station to return the car, and took the high-speed train back to Beijing. The whole process is a seamless connection between high-speed rail and car rental. In hot summer, you don't need to take a taxi in the street, and you don't need to store your luggage. If you see a fruit seller on the way, you can stop at any time to buy fresh fruit. The travel experience is great. In addition, you can buy tickets directly on your mobile phone, and the self-driving car has a map of Gaode, so you don't have to worry about finding your way. Such a good travel experience benefits from the progress of society: the progress of technology and service methods.

The previous trip was not like this at all. The long train journey, various transfers or taxis make people exhausted on the road. I told these to my two children, so that they could feel the progress of society. At the same time, pick up the train ticket at the station and let it come every day; Rent a car, she chooses a model on the APP; In the car, she helped me watch the navigation and kept reminding me of the speed limit; When booking a hotel, she helped me choose, put the hotel's scores, comments and photos together, and chose a more comfortable hotel, so that children can experience this process and enjoy the better experience brought by social progress.

To study in thousands of books, it is better to take Wan Li Road. Travel is the best learning process, and you can learn things all the time.

In the first afternoon in Jinshan Temple, in addition to experiencing the myth and legend of the legend of the White Snake, we also inadvertently came to the "middle cold spring", which is known as the first spring in the world, that is, "Jinshan Spring". In the process of visiting, I naturally thought of a poem: spring is silent, but a trickle is precious. So a question arises: what is spring? Answer me every day and say, yes, what is spring? Let's go and have a look. So I took out my mobile phone and searched it on Baidu, only to know the official definition of "spring": it is the phenomenon that groundwater gushes out of the surface. I also saw the classification of spring water, which has different dimensions and is divided into cold spring and hot spring according to temperature. The cold spring here is a cold spring, which is a good water quality for making tea, while the Nangong Water World in Beijing, where our family used to go, is a hot spring. A Baidu search enriched my knowledge and my children's knowledge, and also made a link with past experiences.

Later, when my mother came over, she proudly began to ask her what "spring" is and how to classify it every day.

In Zhouzhuang, there is no light pollution of high-rise buildings, and the effect of watching stars at night is very good. I took 4-year-old An An to look at the stars at the edge of the South Lake in the middle of the night 1 1, saw lux Mars and dazzling Jupiter, and also saw many classic constellations: Sagittarius, Scorpio, Libra, Big Dipper and so on. I have an APP for watching stars on my mobile phone. She is very good. Such a night will surely plant a seed of curiosity about all things in the universe in Ann's heart.

At the same time, we will also see many plants different from the north during the trip. I used the APP software in my mobile phone to help us identify these plants, and the children also got to know many different plants, such as the golden flower in full bloom in Zhouzhuang's old house, the osmanthus tree in a garden, the magnolia tree in Yangzhou Cuiyuan Hotel, and the oleander with white flowers in Suzhou Humble Administrator's Garden.

The process of traveling is the process of knowing and exploring the world!

The happy journey of Jiangnan water town is over, but the pace of children's growth has been walking, and the process of accompanying children is also the process of our parents experiencing happiness.

Life is a process of experience, and the process is more important than the result!

201July 8 17 Beijing