How to resolve the cold violence in marriage

How to resolve the cold violence in marriage?

First, don't use cold storage, take the initiative to communicate with him

Perhaps most people are angry in the face of lovers' cold war, and will answer blows with blows. If you ignore me, I will ignore you in anger.

In fact, the way of cold refrigeration is a passive way to deal with problems. This will not only solve any problems, but will make both sides hate each other more and make the shield deeper.

At this time, smart women will never retaliate against men in the same way, but actively communicate with men. Tell him that some words were really heavy just now, I hope he can understand, and then ask him the reason why he is angry.

As long as he is willing to communicate with you, the contradiction will be solved soon. If you ask him, he still won't talk, that's all right. Try to pry his mouth open, try a few more times, and he will be embarrassed to talk to you.

Second, if a man slams out the door, don't always send him messages and call him.

When people are angry, what they hate most is being bombarded with information, and they can't calm down if they want to calm down. If you have a quarrel and the man slams out the door, don't keep sending him messages. Doing so is actually the stupidest and most boring behavior. If you send him a message and don't get his response, you will become more and more anxious and impatient.

Send a message if you want. The content can be: I know you are angry. When you come back, let's all calm down and talk it over.

In a word, don't send more. I think if the other person sees that you are reasonable, he will definitely go home and make up with you after calming down.

Third, don't be beaten by cold violence, and try to be an independent and confident woman.

Many female friends often submit to humiliation for their children or families when facing male cold violence. Over time, men will form a rule. As long as they are in a bad mood, they will vent their anger on women in the form of cold violence.

In fact, at the very beginning of cold violence, we should bravely say no to a man and tell him "I don't like the cold war", which is also to protect ourselves in the future and let him know that you won't condone his behavior.

In addition, at the same time, don't forget to constantly improve your ability in all aspects, whether in life or at work, so that you can become an independent and confident woman. In this way, even if there is a real crisis in your marriage in the future, you will be able to live a good life in the future.

No matter love or marriage, cold violence is very hurtful. It makes you feel each other's love in the cold, but you can't get divorced. This kind of pain is really beyond words.

If you have loved each other deeply, please don't be cold and violent to your lover at any time. Marriage is not easy. If you want to go on with the person you love for a long time, you really need the joint efforts of both husband and wife to maintain it.

As Xiao S once said, "I know marriage is difficult, but I hope you can stick to it until the end." I hope this kind of "support" can persist because of love.