12 constellation shadow personality

Conflict is a kind of "spark", a balanced and stable broken state, which often brings the deepest and most deadly temptation.

-Sister Xing Zhuolun

What should we learn from conflict and temptation?

Last week, we analyzed the two opposite constellations of Aries and Libra: 12 | Why are we always attracted to certain people?

If Aries and Libra are telling the story of "you and me", then Taurus and Scorpio are opposite constellations-the more conflict, the more temptation.

Mars and Pluto are both guardians of Scorpio, emitting mysterious, sexy and fiery breath. Taurus, guarded by Venus, is blessed in appearance, revealing a strong desire in calmness.

However, when two evenly matched constellations collide, there will be conflicts, but such conflicts often make the two constellations want to stop.

The conflict here can be called "spark", which is a balanced and stable broken state, and often it will bring the deepest and most fatal temptation in this state.

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"The opposite constellation-Taurus VS Scorpio"

Taurus and Scorpio are symmetrical 180 degrees, which is a deadly couple. Needless to say, as long as these two constellations meet, 80% will be fine. ?

Scorpio and Taurus are water signs and earth signs and should not be intertwined. But they all belong to negative constellations. Two people are either as dull as water or as passionate as fire, which are two extremes.

What happens when fire and ice are together? It goes without saying. ?

Taurus is hot outside and cold inside, Scorpio is cold outside and hot inside.

Taurus values material things most, while Scorpio values soul most.

Taurus is slow and Scorpio is strong.

Taurus and Scorpio will be deeply attracted together, and they are tit for tat.

But they are also grasshoppers tied to the same rope. The first thing that can attract them together must be sexual attraction.

Scorpio and Taurus are two constellations with strong possessiveness. Taurus is one of the twelve constellations that attaches great importance to territory. When the territory of Taurus is destroyed, Taurus will now become a violent cow. This is also a type of Taurus possessiveness.

Scorpio's territory and possessiveness are on the emotional level. Coupled with the extreme and paranoia of Pluto, Scorpio's guardian planet, Scorpio's emotional possessiveness and territorial desire will even far exceed Taurus.

When Taurus and Scorpio, two evenly matched constellations, collide with each other, it will break the calm, produce conflicts and even produce freshness, which is why the attraction between Scorpio and Taurus is also fatal when the conflict comes.

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"Why the more conflict, the more temptation"

Freud said, "Conflict exists between temperance and temptation, between the most sincere warmth and ruthless greed."

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The danger of Scorpio

I once heard the inner emotional monologue of a Scorpio girl:

"Actually, I don't want this either."

I really couldn't help myself when I said those words.

"When I disturb him, scold him and tell him to get out, I feel even more insecure. When I am afraid, I can't keep calm, let alone pretend that nothing happened. "

To be honest, if many people see this passage, they will have a feeling of penetrating the bottom of their hearts. Indeed, these are Scorpio's deepest emotions, affectation, contradiction, struggle and nausea.

It is not difficult to see that Scorpio is a sign of "self-abuse" or "human abuse". This reflects that on the one hand, there is a strong self-restraint, but at the same time, there is a curious and even subtle yearning for it. For Scorpio, he naturally knows that it is taboo to torture others and himself, but it is difficult to solve the self-control of taboos. So Scorpio's last love is: either don't love, or love is heartbreaking. No love is the result of taboo inhibition, and love is the result of desire release.

Taurus's sense of security

Taurus usually shows a calm mood and likes the feeling of stability. They like the feeling of being intoxicated by their bodies, which is the most important thing in their lives. A solid hug, real pleasure and the precipitation of time will satisfy Taurus. Taurus is very cumulative. Everything in Taurus is a cumulative pattern. Taurus accumulates their materials and Taurus accumulates almost everything. When this accumulation of Taurus is associated with feelings, Taurus will also accumulate their own feelings.

This accumulation conflicts with part of Scorpio's essence. Scorpio wants absolute feelings because of the factors of soul and absolute feelings. Generally speaking, Scorpio wants absolute feelings.

Taurus will accumulate feelings for both A and B, but Scorpio is the only one. Although Taurus also attaches importance to uniqueness, when the uniqueness of Taurus conflicts with possessiveness, possession will definitely surpass uniqueness.

Scorpio needs Taurus to stabilize and channel Scorpio's negative energy, while Scorpio needs to transform Taurus's negative characteristics. When the destructiveness of Scorpio meets the stability of Taurus, they are often the most attractive.

Imagine a picture: a man has just finished fighting with a brown bear in the jungle, covered in blood and shivering. His heart was full of fear and anxiety, and he hobbled through the jungle. Suddenly, he vaguely heard someone's voice ahead and saw some flames. When he entered the tribe, the elders asked him to sit by the fire, the women helped him wipe the wound, and the children handed him a bowl of warm food. At this moment, he was safe and felt cured.

This tribe brought him the energy of Taurus-when we can set foot on the earth, have a warm residence, drink clean water and know that we have enough food reserves, we will feel safe; When we can touch our lover's skin and feel the body temperature of TA, we will feel safe. If Scorpio is intense, then Taurus is peaceful; If Scorpio is complex, Taurus is simple; Scorpio is dangerous and Taurus is safe.

At the same time, safety and danger are each other's "antidote", just as Taurus and Scorpio are each other's "antidote". When we are fighting in the fierce Scorpio battlefield, we need to find the solid and quiet sense of security of Taurus in order to become complete.

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"What should we learn from conflict and temptation? 」

However, even a pair of constellations that are fatally attracted by conflict will often die in the end. In the end, you will find that Scorpio can't go deep into Taurus's heart, and Taurus can't keep up with Scorpio's emotional changes.

So what should these two kinds of people learn in this relationship?

What we see in Taurus's sexual concept is the separation of sex and love. They pay more attention to material and sensory enjoyment, so on this basis, Taurus should learn to be profound.

Scorpio loves someone to the bone and never wants to swallow you up. Scorpio's sexual desire and possessiveness are inseparable, and sex is a way for Scorpio to express possessiveness. Therefore, in a relationship, Scorpio should learn more distance, and it is not a bad thing for you to try to give your partner some freedom and space.

Through the exploration of Scorpio and Taurus, what inspires us is how to keep the two emotions attractive forever in intimate relationship.

Have you ever heard of the catfish effect?

Catfish effect is a kind of utilization of this habit of human brain.

In the past, fishermen went out to sea to catch sardines and found that sardines were particularly prone to large-scale death during transportation. Because this kind of fish strives for stability and does not love to move, it is easy to die of lack of oxygen.

In order to make sardines move, fishermen put catfish with active nature into sardines, so sardines become active under the stimulation of catfish, and the survival rate is greatly improved.

According to the catfish effect, if your relationship with your lover has fallen into a boring stable state, all you have to do is introduce new unstable factors and find fresh excitement in the early stage of love.

For example, as we mentioned earlier, "creating conflicts", when feelings enter a dull period, getting along will become uneventful. To create contradictions is to stir up small waves and make two people's emotions have new connections in the fluctuations.

Of course, we can also warm our feelings through external and internal stimuli.

There are two ways to introduce unstable factors. One is internal and the other is external. Internal refers to changing one's dress, hairstyle, way of speaking, two people's sexual scenes and so on.

Externality means restarting each other's freshness through new experiences. Such as bungee jumping, skydiving, gliding, going to amusement parks and so on.

In fact, whether it is the above constellations or any of us, we should learn how to better maintain intimate relationships.

In a relationship, what everyone expects is to show each other more aspects, be equal in the energy field, tolerate each other, not be suppressed, and not escape. In the relationship, we can express ourselves deeply and frankly, and at the same time, the other party can understand and tolerate.

In fact, no matter Taurus and Scorpio, or any one of us, we should learn how to maintain a close relationship better.

People looking for similar characteristics hope that their own characteristics can get a stronger and unique response through each other, while those looking for complementarity hope that their shortcomings can be tolerated.

And appropriate is that two people are both similar and complementary. The energy level equivalence, mutual acceptance, integration, creation and mutual support in a balanced relationship are stable and long-lasting, regardless of you and me.

May each of us be close, year after year.