How to keep yourself awake in a relationship

One: home effect, let men follow your rhythm.

Home effect is also called territorial consciousness in evolutionary psychology.

In love, we can't let the other person seize your territory bit by bit because we like it or because the other person is good to you. In the end, he is the king of this territory, and you become a submissive.

This will make your feelings out of balance, bring you a sense of crisis psychologically, make you have no sense of existence, can't control each other's hearts, and eventually produce many contradictions.

In short, keep yourself relative and let the boys follow your rhythm, so that you can firmly grasp each other's hearts.

Of course, it is not enough for us to start from our own perspective in love, especially after boys catch up with you, they are not as motivated as before. At this time, we must understand each other from each other's point of view and understand his needs in detail in order to firmly grasp his heart.

Two: Know yourself and yourself, and inspire empathy.

The ancients paid attention to "know yourself and know yourself, and fight every battle."

Last year's very popular TV series "Know No" attracted everyone's attention, among which Lin Xiaoniang's imperial means was very high.

We can get rid of its dross and take its essence.

In fact, have you noticed that Lin Xiaoniang has keen insight, especially in observing words and feelings, understanding each other's thoughts and letting her know what she knows.

Master Sheng's biological mother in the play is also Yu Ji. He has never been looked down upon since he was a child, so he can feel the "difficulties" of his concubine Lin Xiaoniang and give him more love.

And Lin Xiaoniang has a good insight into this. She always said that she was a concubine, for she was afraid of doing things that would upset the first lady. She also said that her daughter was an illegitimate daughter, so pitiful that she was always bullied.

She also knows how to feel sorry for her master's life from time to time and sigh "You and your mother-in-law have suffered"! Let the master love her.

Therefore, in a love relationship, we should carefully observe each other and know where the other person's needs are, so as to stimulate the other person's empathy and give the other person an emotional buzz on some things, so that the other person's heart can stay on you.

For example, you know that the other person is busy and stressed recently. What you need now is psychological comfort and pressure release, not the burden brought by your unreasonable work.

Faced with this situation, you should not always say, "You are always busy and don't accompany me. Is work important or am I important? "

You can give some comfort and encouragement from words and actions: "Work is very tiring, I have a lot of things to do at work, but I recently found that I have opened a new store, and we can relax after work at night, and then we can continue to struggle with full fighting spirit."

On the one hand, stimulate his empathy, make him feel that you have empathy for his fatigue, on the other hand, meet his psychological needs, and he will definitely have a corresponding sense of dependence on you.

In short, if you want to catch a man's heart in love, you need some careful machines and small means.