I did it for your own good. It is the most terrible emotional blackmail for parents. Have you ever had such an experience?

I did it for your own good. It is the most terrible emotional blackmail for parents. Have you ever had such an experience? Now we can find a situation that no matter what our parents do, they will say it is for the good of their children, but what they do is not what the children think. Once a child is disobedient, he will say that he is disobedient and unfilial, so I am the most terrible blackmail to my parents.

And I have this experience myself. I liked liberal arts better when I chose liberal arts in high school, but for my mother, she personally thought that science was better than literature, so she signed me up for science. I told my mother? When I like liberal arts? My mother gave me a look and said that studying literature would be promising, and it would be better to study science in the future. I know this truth myself, but for me, I don't like studying science, and at this time, what is my mother's sentence? I did it for your own good. Don't you understand that I can hurt you now? A word is blocked.

Sometimes I feel that my parents love me too much. They feel that no matter how old their children are, they still have no ability to judge themselves. Their children must have chosen the wrong path. It is safe and correct to choose life according to their requirements. For everyone who keeps saying that they are good for each other, you should ask yourself, are you really good for each other, or are you an extension of your rights? What you do is based on love, or on defending your dignity and selfish instinct? In many cases, it seems to me that we all belong to the latter.

We want to get rid of emotional blackmail. I think the key to get rid of emotional blackmail is to rebuild our self-confidence. We can strengthen our self-confidence and rebuild ourselves through long-term deliberate training. When your ego is strong enough, you can learn to reject others' emotional blackmail. So we should make ourselves confident, let parents see their efforts and let them know that there is nothing wrong with what their children choose.