Seeking the psychological basis of people's following behavior

For example, in the game, players stimulate themselves to further participate in the game through game rankings and virtual currency. What is the psychological hope of the player to become a tycoon in the game and work harder than others?

This is a competitive mentality. It is also a vanity mentality. It's normal for most people.

The hatred of wealth

Some "economists" and "bribe-takers" throw dirty water at the people without analysis in order to please some unscrupulous businessmen and some erupting interest groups, accusing them of "psychological imbalance and growing hatred for the rich". Do people in China hate all the rich? I do not think this is necessarily the case.

The common people in China are one of the most simple, tolerant, kind, manageable and docile people in the world. As long as you don't give him trouble, he will live in harmony with you; If you don't hurt him, he will live in peace with you. Although many people pay lip service to snobs who care about the poor and love the rich, most people really envy capable people, successful people and rich people. Marry a smart and capable daughter with "good economic conditions" and a smart and capable and beautiful daughter with "light burden". When looking for a job, most young people are willing to find private enterprise bosses with high academic qualifications, great fame, good management and good benefits. Unless a horrible bosses is brought to justice, ordinary people will not doubt, accuse or hate a successful rich man for no reason.

China people have no tradition of hating the rich, and no one is born hating the rich. Grandma Liu, who has no education, loves and actively relies on the wealthy Jia family. Lin Daiyu, a literate woman, not only doesn't hate Jia Fu's wealth, but also wants to marry Jia Baoyu, a rich boy, and has no intention of marrying Jiao Da at all. Anyone who has been to Qiao Family Courtyard in Qixian County, Shanxi Province knows that Qiao Family is rich in the world, not only has it not been hated, but it has been respected from generation to generation because it is good for the shopkeeper (manager), the staff (employee), the servants, the neighbors and the villagers. In that era of "fast class struggle", the locals just didn't fight with the Qiao family. "Great criticism, talk about it every day", the local people don't recognize the Qiao family, and the villagers who have received the kindness of the Qiao family also talk about the benefits of the Qiao family as much as possible when they "recall the bitter experience". From the Ming and Qing Dynasties to the Republic of China, most small landlords in Guanzhong agreed with the idea of being kind to long-term workers and "keeping people" in order to win the reputation of good people in rural areas. There are many kind small landlords like Bai Jiaxuan, the hero of the novel White Deer Plain. Honest farmers like Lu San don't hate rich people at all, but often realize the benefits of being a "master".

Time and space have changed, mountains have changed into water, and the environment has changed, but human nature has not fundamentally changed. Among them, the pursuit of wealth and envy of wealth are also normal reactions of normal people. There is no need for a large-scale investigation. Look at the advertisements for marriage and dating published in the media, and then "visit" several dating websites to see the conditions for marriage and dating. Appearance, wealth and health are the basic elements and core competitiveness. Who bears a grudge against the rich? Who loves beggars? Unless you are out of your mind, out of your mind, or taking the wrong medicine and drinking too much! A man declared that he hated the rich for no reason. If he is not ill, that person must be a hypocrite and a pervert.

There is destiny takes a hand's love, there is also love for no reason, but there is no hate for no reason. Needless to say, there is a hatred of the rich in today's society. Bill Gates is as rich as an enemy, no one hates him, no one is jealous when a scientist wins a million dollars, and no one is jealous when an Olympic champion becomes a millionaire. However, "profiteers" who make profits by using the "dual-track system" of prices, "corrupt officials" who seek rent by using the marketization of factors, "shadow bosses" who resell agricultural land, "bullies who demolish houses and set fires", "fierce" who maliciously circle money to go public and damage shareholders' wealth, "financial" predators "who defraud bank loans and evade bank debts, and" black-hearted mine owners who collude with government and coal ". Can ordinary people not hate the vicious rich woman who drives a BMW to settle accounts, the rich second generation who deliberately defaults on the wages of migrant workers, and unscrupulous businessmen such as manufacturing and selling fake goods, polluting the environment and squeezing employees? ! Hatred is natural, but "no tears, no sadness" is abnormal. In a word, the common people hate the nine kinds of guilty rich people, namely "black, gray, evil, violence, falsehood, inferiority, rape, fraud and falsehood", not all of them are rich.

Who hates rich people? Revenge is rich? Justice lies in people's hearts. (

retaliate

Repeated setbacks are prone to revenge.

After a person's behavior is frustrated and his self-esteem is damaged, he will have resentment and hostility, trying to make the giver suffer, thus damaging his reputation, property, body and even ending his life. Freud, a master of psychology, believes that revenge is always the result of setbacks. When a person is humiliated, belittled, rejected or rejected, resentment and even hatred arise, and the impulse to retaliate (attack) arises. However, from the idea of revenge to taking action, it is often interfered by various internal and external factors. Many times, action or giving up is just an idea. Under normal circumstances, due to the constraints of morality, law and conscience and the management of "self", the acts of attack and revenge are carried out within the scope permitted by society (often moving the target of attack, such as venting the frustration at work on the spouse, or secretly being the boss's stalk, etc.). ), or switch to work, study and play. If the release of these channels is blocked or frustrated many times, the attack instinct will accumulate, and it will not be alleviated in time after accumulation, exceeding a certain limit.

People who are vengeful often have bad personalities.

Psychologically speaking, everyone is aggressive, but due to the influence of congenital heredity and acquired environment, the expressed aggressive revenge is far from perfect. The vengeful people in the crowd have the following characteristics: 1. Low self-esteem, poor self-esteem stability. Spoiled since childhood, easily injured, and feel inferior when frustrated. I like to pass the buck and blame others. Second, paranoia, often subjective and arbitrary, extreme thinking. Third, I am not good at expressing my feelings, I don't like to associate with people, I am silent, indifferent to feelings, and I am not good at communicating with people. Fourth, I like to treat setbacks with passive attack and defense. When I have a friction with someone, I don't know how to resolve it in a proper way, so I am very angry. Five, childhood life is not smooth, often abused and bullied, adults hate the strong, research shows that childhood experience has a far-reaching impact on the formation of hostile elements in individual personality.

The super revenge mentality in life is common in two kinds of morbid personality: one is antisocial personality disorder. These people ignore social customs and norms, often lie and deceive people, and are easy to complain. They are impulsive, irritable, eager to win, and have low tolerance for setbacks. Even a small stimulus can cause impulsive revenge.

Second, paranoid personality disorder. Such people are overly sensitive to setbacks and encounters, deeply worried about insults and injuries, suspicious, and easily misunderstand neutral or friendly behavior of others as hostility or contempt. They are aggressive, overconfident, always feel oppressed and persecuted, and even repeatedly complain and petition, being overly vigilant and full of hostility.

psycholinguistics

Every night, men tirelessly log on to the forum of erotic network, and women desperately pursue football stars until they can't eat. People who don't know each other on the Internet care about each other and love each other. People who constantly rape photos to others or simply take off their clothes quickly become popular. There are also so-called beauty writers or "babies" surrounded and meaningless pursuits ... Psychosexuality has penetrated into the bone marrow of every participant (almost no one is not a participant).

It is said that there is a new word called group psychosexuality, which is different from individual psychosexuality (such as online dating and masturbation). Especially in the form of BBS (paper media is also counted, but it is basically slow). Most of the contents and ideas that flaunt lifestyle appear, which is the obscenity of petty bourgeoisie life; And pioneer or alternative, rebellion is regarded as fashion, and the popularity of such BBS immediately surges-this is the obscenity of fans.

Erica Rong described a very famous "zipper-free sex" in his "Fear of Flying" (to put it bluntly, it is psychosexuality), which is considered to be a Platonic ideal, far from being comparable to ordinary sex. But I always feel that this mentality is not healthy enough. If you love, you will love. Why guess and hide?

Some people think that psychosexuality is a more advanced human sexual behavior, because it is divorced from the instinctive and physical sexual intercourse of animals in the history of human sexual behavior, and focuses on spiritual activities. With the development of the Internet, psychosexuality presents a new trend, or the Internet provides the best breeding conditions for psychosexuality, and it is getting worse. Real life will not be spared.

"More advanced" sometimes means "darker". The harm in the dark is stronger and more thorough than that in the light. 2 1 century, really entered the era of psychosexuality? "A group of rapists performed their stories on the stage, and a large group of psychosexuality people watched on the stage. The more you look at this scenery, the more scary it is. "

Imitate a higher or better person

The so-called comparison psychology is a psychological state of deliberately comparing oneself with others in intelligence, ability and living conditions, hoping to surpass others.

The origin of comparison psychology is the same as that of life. There is a saying: "People are more angry than others." In fact, it doesn't matter if people are more angry than others. People who get angry more easily than others often have an inferiority complex because of their own personality and psychological defects. Differences in life are everywhere, and the heart of comparison is so difficult to overcome that it often gives a lot of discounts to the happiness of life.

Revision of comparative psychology

Rational analysis of life, people will find that, in fact, throughout their lives, life is fair, just and impartial to everyone. Life is a short and long process from the beginning to the end. In this process, everyone has and bears the same joys and sorrows, love and hate, and they are equal. This is the law that nature endows life and life endows life, but everyone enjoys it.

Comparison is something you don't have to care too much about, and people don't have to feel inferior or satisfy their vanity in front of comparison. As long as you realize this, you will be surprised to find a trick: you only need to know a lot of things, and you don't have to worry about it often. Instead of keeping up with everything, it is better to go your own way and let others keep up!

Indeed, due to the different social division of labor, there are objectively various differences in people's social status, and material differences directly open up people's comparative space. As an objective existence, comparison psychology and comparison behavior are not at fault. The problem lies in the guiding ideology, starting point and content of comparison.

Comparison belongs to the psychology of normal people, because there is comparison to make progress, and there is goal to make efforts. Positive comparison is good for health and work. However, negative and pathological comparison will bring bad consequences: some people will cause emotional disorders and complain, and always feel that society is particularly unfair to themselves, thus losing their sense of fairness and causing psychological symptoms such as anxiety and depression; Some people are in daydreaming's fantasy state because of blind comparison, and they are not motivated for a long time, divorced from reality, and finally accomplish nothing, causing great harm and frustration to themselves; What's more, comparison is the main cause of crime. In order to enjoy luxury like others, many people go astray and roll in the abyss.

In short, comparison is often material, but it affects people's physical and mental health.

In reality, everyone will have a psychological comparison at different stages of life. Then, what should I do when blindly comparing with others brings me endless troubles?

First of all, don't always compare yourself with material conditions, and don't expect too much of yourself regardless of your actual ability. Everything should be done according to one's ability.

Secondly, we should adjust our ideals, lower our expectations and understand our weaknesses. In this way, what kind of enjoyment can you get from your own efforts, and you can achieve psychological balance. We can't ignore the influence of objective conditions. Never be discouraged by what you can achieve through hard work in the face of reality, and wait for opportunities unconditionally, so as to maintain a balanced mentality when encountering setbacks.

In addition, you can develop your interests, relax, exercise and improve your physical fitness according to your personal situation, or take a long vacation when you are extremely tired, or simply change your job. At the same time, let yourself relax and learn to face the reality with a peaceful mind. When you feel great psychological pressure, sadness, anger, resentment and other emotions, you should be brave enough to talk to your relatives and friends to eliminate bad emotions. In addition, if the stress is already considerable, symptoms of neurasthenia or anxiety (such as persistent sleep disorder, emotional tension, palpitation, etc.) appear. ), and you feel that you can't adjust, you need to see a psychiatrist. Because psychologists can carry out individualized treatment according to the condition, they can take some anti-anxiety drugs to relieve symptoms when necessary.